i used to shut my self away from the outside world..but not any more....now accidentally i know a lot about the outside world..now i'm scared, confused... don't know what to do..
i feel like a stranger lost her way home... now i wanna get out...get a job... discover who i'm..what i want..i don't know how to start or where....can you help ?..... i'm 25 is it too late to start..?
also i'm engaged and i don't wanna lose him in the mid of all this...he cares a lot for me but i can't ask him for help in this one because i really need to know who i raelly am....do you what i mean..?
thank you for your help...Merry Christmas and Happy New Year
2006-12-25 17:21:14 · 10 answers · asked by D Mar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No, my dear; it's not too late. Better sooner than later. And please don't be desperate. There are too many like you who may end up being victimized because they don't know the way of the game.
2006-12-25 17:23:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm, i guess this depends on what you mean when you say you need to learn who you really are.If you mean just getting out, going to college maybe or going for a start are your career...then iwould say.. that is an ago old question as to how to juggle life along with a relationship.And it can be done...as long as he loves you enough and is patient enough to grow with you as you find yourself and your way threw this world.
But, if you are wanting to date and explore new territory with other men, then you may need to loose the BF.
I know how you feel though,lol been there myself and am still some what sheltered from the the big ole world out there.
It is never to late to start though and well, i think it is a wonderful thing for you to start planning your life, career and everything on your own......gain your own things such as cars and homes and not stay sheltered while someone else suports you.Not meaning that is a bad thing either, but you gain a sence of pride and a greater sence of self respect knowing you can do it on your own.
2006-12-25 17:40:47 · answer #2 · answered by Dream 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you too late? of course not! you are awakening to life! many people dont wake up ever. you are 25 right? you have all the time in the world. Where to start? I think the question, is how to start. the answer is patience. Once you want to know who are you, and what do you want to do with your life, you are in an open road to self knowing. But it takes a lot of courage. Dont fall asleep again, and good luck with your new life!
2006-12-25 17:26:03 · answer #3 · answered by Ajax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out who you are...if you have shut yourself away all these years then you have no clue what is out there in the world.
It is NEVER too late to start living life...
You might find that the man you are engaged to is not the right one for you...find yourself before you get married or else you will never be a whole person
2006-12-25 17:27:41 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Bitch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not to late to start.
Talk to him. You don't have to ask him for help, but you do need to communicate with him so he understands whats going on with you. That being said, if you are planning on spending the rest of your life with him - he's the one person you should be asking for help from.
See if your town has a job service or employment office and see what they have to offer. Check local job listings and see if anything looks appealing to you. Review your skills, build a resume and study the process of searching for a job so you understand what's required.
Go to a library - check out some books. Go to museums. Talk to people. Ask opinions & then form your own.
It concerns me that you seem to want to 'find yourself' on your own. A part of who we are comes from the people we choose to be with. You can't find your way alone unless you want to end up alone. You find your way with the people you care about.
Good Luck!
2006-12-25 17:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by bionicbookworm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
25 isnt too late to start, but it will be too late soon cuz soon you have to think of a full time job and marriage. If you can do it now, do it cuz if you dont you will regret it and always wonder what you had missed. If he really loves you he will wait.
2006-12-25 17:29:01 · answer #6 · answered by jack223344 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT GET MARRIED BEFORE YOU EXPLORE!
It is best that you complete your exploration before you marry. Hopefully he will grow and change with you, but if not you need to be happy and satisfied with YOU! I say go and see what the world has to offer you. Your good may not be as good as it can be. And who knows, it just might strengthen your relationship.
2006-12-25 17:25:46 · answer #7 · answered by dagoodest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is never too late. by all means get a job, go to school, join a sports team, join a club, travel like crazy, have fun and enjoy life. i always say, if it isn't fun, then why are you doing it??
2006-12-25 17:26:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have an anxiety disorder? If he cares for you, you won't lose him, he'll stay by your side.
What do you want help with?
Find things you enjoy.
2006-12-25 17:28:25 · answer #9 · answered by joulesofaffection 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welcome to the world, it is so much fun feel it breath it , touch it then grab it for the ride of your life !!!!!!!!!!!!! best luck
2006-12-25 17:27:56 · answer #10 · answered by hardroader67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋