my mom always is hollwoing at me..and its 4 nothing.i dont know what to do and its making me stressed out. she told me i was crazy because she lost her key. she told me i was crazy because i wonted 2 go out with my boyfriend....i dont know what to do everytime i ask her a question she goes off at me. sometime i just be wonting to cry.is it something im doin? help
2006-12-25 17:08:24 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ive tried talking to her,telling her she is hurting me and she just gets mad at curse me out...she always cursing me out. she even took me to a mental health center
2006-12-25 17:12:09 · update #1
sit down with your mother tell her you need to talk seriously with her.tell her your trying to understand her expectations of you and that you are trying to be a reliable person. that's all you can do a little bit at a time
2006-12-25 17:18:43 · answer #1 · answered by TBONE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about a loaded question. From your explanation, it's not your fault. Unless it has ALWAYS been like this (well over a couple of months) then it's probably just a thing your mom is going through. She may be stressed out for whatever reason, and take it out on you (although may not intend to).
My advice, wait it out. Understanding is the best way to wait it out. If you know there is something going on with your mom that would cause her to be stressed out, then be sympathetic, even if you don't want to. If your mom believes that you are on her side, she won't be so... (in loss of a better word) mean to you.
Think about what could be upsetting her?
2006-12-26 01:12:41 · answer #2 · answered by theVisionary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK --- all relationships are two way deals, and since we hear only your side its hard to figure out what is really happening. The best thing you can do is talk to an adult that you trust and believe will give the best route. If you have peer counseling at school talk to them. I have learned that asking others about how we look at a situation is the best way to figure out how much we are responsible for the problem. If after all this you still feel stressed out, go do things that make you feel relaxed and calm you down.
2006-12-26 01:38:10 · answer #3 · answered by Michael K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why be stressed?
Stress yourself out like crazy and she will remain the same. Keep yourself mentally calm and she will still remain the same. Your stresses won't change anything but it will surely end up hurting you and your health.
Just tell yourself that she is like this not because of you and everything will be fine. Do some reading on Dalai Lama's books. It will give you peace of mind.
2006-12-26 01:15:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your mom is stressed too. My mom was just cruel, but there really isn't anything you can do. She's the boss and sometimes you won't get your way. Find ways to be happy in your room. Learn how to meditate. Learn to appreciate what you DO have. Believe me, it doesn't get better when you move out. You have to WORK WORK WORK and you still don't get to do the things you want to do.
2006-12-26 01:20:47 · answer #5 · answered by Kaari P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to approach her when she's in a good mood, and talk to her, REALLY talk to her and ask her what is stressing her out.Don't bring up past fights, and hurts when you do this..just let her open up. You might find out what is really bothering her and you might even find some clues as to what you could do to help her. Try to not take her comments personally. Parents ARE NOT perfect, we need compassion too!
2006-12-26 01:13:04 · answer #6 · answered by jabbergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should find a time she is calm and talk to her about the problem that's keeping your relationship with her down and keeping you two apart. suggest her to see some therapists cause she doesn't act normal to you. tell her how you feel and you don't wanna things to get worse and tell her she's hurt you by going off with you regularly. express yourself in the calm way like an adult so she will respect you and take you seriously. good luck!
2006-12-26 01:12:52 · answer #7 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh man i hear ya! my mom doesn't work so she has nothing better to do than pick on stupid little imperfections i have. i guess all parents are like that
maybe your mom is just stressed out from work or something. try helping around the house. or just a simple "i love you" and a hug might do the trick.
2006-12-26 01:14:14 · answer #8 · answered by anonymous 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie by any chance is your mother in her 40's????? It sounds like she is having menopausal symptoms. The best thing to do is talk with your father, grand parents or someone close to you (and she) about this problem.
2006-12-26 01:48:58 · answer #9 · answered by slick chik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes moms get stressed out also dont let it get to you.
2006-12-26 01:13:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋