But he wont stay over at my house, and this morning he wont answer his phone? Am I in the right to be suspicious?
2006-12-25 18:03:35 · 23 answers · asked by Lisa 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We have been together for 4 years.
2006-12-25 18:09:17 · update #1
There's definitely something not right here & you already had your suspicions before this morning didn't you? I don't know what excuse he'll give you this time...but I see disaster ahead one way or the other I'm afraid. It is totally not right that you can't get hold of him right on the time that you could be giving birth. You already don't trust him do you? that's why you're perturbed enough to put that question up on here.
What a horrible time to suddenly start realising that the Guy with whom you're about to have a child is an absolute pig. I'm so sorry for you Honey....
2006-12-26 03:41:14 · answer #1 · answered by Funky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off what are you suspicious of? The fact that he might be cheating or the fact he don't give a F*** about you or the baby!!! I have a worthless man as the father of my two older boys, that's never around but when it came to the last couple of weeks when our baby was due he stayed up my ***!! It was once the baby came he stayed gone all the time. How long has the situation been going on, that he is not coming around? If it has been awhile then he is off doing his on thing and don't give one worry about you and the baby. If it was just one night he didn't spend the night and didn't answer his phone that one morning, then ask him what is going on. If he is there at the hospital when you have the baby and untill you leave there and stays after give him a chance. He is the father of your child. But if he continues to or starts to not come around boot his A** to the curb and file for custody and child support!!!! Good Luck and Congratulations!!!!!!!
2006-12-25 18:18:43 · answer #2 · answered by noramom4life101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn right, if he's not here for you now at an important time like this, where is he going to be throughout the sleepless nights, the teething, the being a good partner to mam and good father to baby. As a father to three myself aged 8, 5, and 1, I am a great believer in the saying, "any boy can make a baby, but it takes a real man to father one". Perhaps you should be asking both yourself and him what do I have,a man or a boy?
2006-12-25 18:30:26 · answer #3 · answered by Carl H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly how old are you both?
Secondly was the baby planned?
It maybe that he feels hes too young to settle down with a child to care for,well,he should have used a condom.
I wouldnt be so worried about suspicion,id be more worried at how you are going to manage to raise a child while your in this situation.
I would be terrified and the thought of doing it all by yourself must be upsetting,especially with xmas here and everyone being jolly while you are worrying about your relationship.
Ask him what he wants but dont expect miracles,if hes not bothered now then he probably wont be too bothered when your child is born.
2006-12-25 22:34:15 · answer #4 · answered by freerange00720002000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i agree he should be with you...at least should answer the call incase it was an emergency for you!
But on the other hand he must be trying to finish all the jammed work and the following few days coming work to make himself free so he could be with you when actually the 3rd one is also there!so thats why he's busy and not staying home!
2006-12-25 19:22:51 · answer #5 · answered by Cute Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing more about him, it is hard to say. He may just have cold feet. Its also Christmas and he may be busy with family. I am sorry you are having to go through this alone though. He should be there, and if he can't do that now, he will continue to be like this in the years to come.
It might be time to just suck it up, move on and find someone better. But for now, baby comes first. Try focusing all your energy on him or her and not thinking about your bf.
2006-12-25 18:15:30 · answer #6 · answered by Go Coogs! 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is probably married or just has another girlfriend. Unfortunately, these guys out here have no sense of responsibility. Prepare yourself to take care of that child alone. More than likely, he won't be helping you out much, financially and/or emotionally. Learn from past mistakes and try not to make them again. Never speak bad against the father in front of your child and raise him/her to be a better person. I'm sorry this is happening to you at a time when everything is suppose to be wonderful.
P.S
This will only make you stronger. Learn from it and if a person isn't helping you he/she is hurting you!
2006-12-25 18:12:35 · answer #7 · answered by goodgrleason 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes - there is obvioulsy no commitment there. Be prepared to be doing most of the parenting yourself - if not all and find a good solicitor to get child support from him as soon as the baby is born.
2006-12-26 04:59:56 · answer #8 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrates on your pregnancy. I'm sorry to hear that the father not answering his phone or won't stay over. You didn't say how serious your relationship is. If it was serious and it was long term I be supicious and if it isn't tell him where to go. I couldn't really answer since I would need more information.
2006-12-25 18:07:12 · answer #9 · answered by mrsrhowell 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Men tend to get scared more easily than women. Plus they have some dumb friends that can put alot of strain and WRONG thoughts on a man. But you never know, better to be on your toes than to be knocked down.
2006-12-26 08:40:27 · answer #10 · answered by maria j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋