Family & Relationships - 27 December 2007

Well my story is about 5 years long but I'll try to make it as short as possible. My baby daddy and I have 2 kids that he is claiming. He says that my daughter with Downs isn't his. Reason is that after much verbal, physical, and emotional abuse from him, he ended up sleeping with my friend. I did the same **** (stupid), and ended up pregnant. Anyways, there is a chance that my daughter is his. My friend also got pregnant from my baby daddy. Anyways, we supposedly broke up 3 years ago because of that, however I was still there for him for everything. I mean everything to the point that if it was my last dollar he could have it, I took care of his 3 kids from another mother, gave him everything, even his last son. Now I find out he has been ******* every girl that I know and still talking to the ***** that was my friend. I've endured alot such as insults, having guns pulled on me, embarassment in front of other women, etc. I'm just depressed that I wasn't enough, help please!

2007-12-27 05:52:21 · 14 answers · asked by 2cute4u 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My wedding is June 14 and my Fiance and I are having a sit-down buffet for the reception. The question is about alcohol. Most of my Fiance's family "does not drink" (at least if people are around). The only people who actually do not drink are his father (a baptist minister), his mother, his sister, his grandfather (a baptist minister) and grandmother and his other grandparents. Everyone else (including his brother and sister-in-law) drinks in private. (But SHHHH!! No one knows!). On my side of the family my brother and his wife (guess what he is, yes a baptist minister) and 1 of my 2 sisters are the only ones who do not drink. Of our guests, about 1/2 the list or so do not drink.

My Fiance wanted an alcohol free wedding; I wanted alcohol at our wedding. Someone suggested a "Bring Your Own" approach to the alcohol problem; is this a great solution or a tacky one?

2007-12-27 05:49:57 · 31 answers · asked by sheamles 2 in Weddings

My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years. He is kind, attractive and I love him with all my heart. About 6 months ago, our sex life came to a halt. I love him, I think he is sexy but I am just too tired. His work schedule allows him to be off 3-5 days a week but mine is Monday-Friday 8-5 plus i am in school full time. When I get home, I usually have to hurry right back out to class or do homework. Either way, I am always exhausted and just cannot get in the mood.

I know I am hurting him. Most women are juggling jobs, marriages, and many other responsibilities. If anyone has found an answer to this problem, please help me. Serious answers only!

2007-12-27 05:47:44 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i'm so lost and confused. 3 days, my ex and i were friends again. since i always mad at him and yelling. he didn't really like care at all. but when i was nice these couple of days. hes been jumpy, like assuming thats i'm mad at him when i'm upset, but i'm not anymore. i told him i'm not mad and ask him why he was thinking like that and he said "i just do" =/
he gotten his ex on his side yesterday before i asked that question and yelled cus he didn't tell me the truth. it was a lie that his ex didn't aim me and said things like your annoying him leave him alone ect. i was leaving him alone. he was the one who kept aiming. and then he signed off when hes really invisible saying i'm sick i g2g, or i'm going somewhere now, or i can't stay on i got too sleep when its only 3 in the afternoon.
he told me so may lies and then hes like this. i have no clue wat to do anymore? help?

2007-12-27 05:47:30 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I fear my parent support is if decide to start a family before the next 3 years. I am i a relationship for 3 years and i so love this guy and i think he is the one for me. We both want to spend the rest of our life to together and have a family of our own. Do you think that my parent would accept me having a family before the next three years. Reason being is that i want to have my family after the next three (3) years, what should i do?

2007-12-27 05:47:23 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I was going thru my hubbys phone last night he has a sidekick so I use it for the net sometimes. Well I came across a couple of textes to his friend asking him "where the hoes at" and :Let me holla at one of them" and "send me a pic". Plus he has numbers with no names under the call log that he talks to for like 5-10 mins at a time, but the numbers aren't saved.
We just had a baby 7 weeks ago and personally I can't deal with cheating I think its the most degrading thing someone can do to another person.
His response: Its not like that I didn't even talk to them, etc.
He went to work last night and came home and tried to make up and as his wife I kinda gave in. But I lost all trust in him, and dont want my little boy to grow up like his dad. I told him I dont want to break up our family we worked so hard to have but right now I can't even look at him with out crying. Any advice??He says he hasn't cheated it was all talk. But isn't talking cheating too....HELP!!!!

2007-12-27 05:47:16 · 15 answers · asked by ERICKSMAMA 5 in Marriage & Divorce

oke..so at the end of last school yr...my bf broke up with me for the 2nd time,"you flirt too much with other guys and it really doesnt seem like yu care about me at all!" is wat he said...i didnt see it as "flirting" i have alot of guy friends...and i kno they dont come to me b/c of my body (cuz im not exactly the most developed person, im not a stick though) so i thought i could trust them as my friends...and i still talk to alot of them...even though nobody i knew last yr in middle school goes to my highschool..but now i actually go out with on of my closest guy friends from last yr...i still kinda have feelings for my first guy..cuz he taught me alot and i was jerk for being mean to him(NOT ON PURPOSE!!!!) and on top of that he moved to NJ so that makes me even more sad when girls say stuff to him on myspace...i cry sometimes when i get off the fone w/ him b/c i think about how much i screwed up, i take a really long time heal...i want to make my nu bf happy! how can i do that?

2007-12-27 05:46:57 · 5 answers · asked by Choji K 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-27 05:45:54 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

must perform and act as maids for the first hour of the party! LOL!
BTW some of us bridesmaids would have had to perform at thier party had we lost!

2007-12-27 05:45:10 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

2007-12-27 05:40:05 · 25 answers · asked by Morgan 1 in Singles & Dating

I am so happy about that and accepted but the ring he gave me is really really beautiful but its not the traditional engagment ring its is an eternity ring, so now I feel as though I cant show it off and let everyone know im getting married, my mum said thats not an engagment ring but said it was lovely all the same!! I dont want to change it as my boyfriend chose it for me thinking that I would love it, and it cost him a lot of money it has 48 dimonds in it!
Would you care that it was not the traditional engagement ring or not?

2007-12-27 05:36:08 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

How do I get my new husband to help more around the house? We have been together for 8 years (married 4mo.) and it has always been me doing the housework. We both work full time & he gets home before me by 3 hours. Every night I come home to a sink full of dishes, laundry and no dinner. Sometimes he is asleep on the couch!! I get home at 6, do the dishes and cook dinner EVERY night and I don't sit down till 8 or 9. I understand he is tired, but so am I! I feel like I should not have to ask, that we should both carry the housework evenly. I am starting to get annoyed and taken for granted.

2007-12-27 05:35:35 · 50 answers · asked by RED CHIC 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok, well I just turned 14 a couple months ago and my mom may or may not get me a cell phone. She's a little iffy about it right now, even though I'm trying to convince her I'm responsible. My parents trust me, I'm good in school (A's and B's, maybe ONE C+, but they were fine with it), and I'm really responsible. Like when I go to a b-ball game or something, I'm always home on time and I let them know where I am, when I'm leaving, when I'll be back, etc. I'm not really sure why she won't let me get one...she once said I'd get one for my b-day, but that never happened, and now she's saying maybe for graduation, which is in 6 months. I'm not sure if she will this time, do you think I'm ready?

2007-12-27 05:32:09 · 71 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

right now im dating this boy who is black and i love him to death...im white of course...my mom has always told me that it is wrong to be with a person of another color, but i really love it...i went out with this one boy who was black and she flipped..she said that i was going to a all girl school and that i could never been around him again...i want to tell her that i have a new boyfriend but i dont know how to tell her this with out going nuts for the third time...im 17 and i should really be with who i want right or wrong...the way i look at is that no one is going to tell me who i cant be with...what should i do or say???

2007-12-27 05:31:45 · 16 answers · asked by i ♥ Javon!!! 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-27 05:30:59 · 37 answers · asked by Deepak 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Honestly, I have to laugh when some guy says, “I’m not getting that, I have no tolerance to pain”. This is usually the same guy that has 4 tattoos, and a visible body piercing. I even listened to a guy that told me he had “Mr Happy” pierced, but he said he didn’t want any needle anywhere near his genitals. Hahahahaha

I have heard guys that are body builders complain about paying child support for three kids, by two different women. This often results in a question like, “How about you?”. I just tell them that I had a vasectomy, and never had kids. The usually reply is, “I can’t do that because I don’t like needles”. I will usually say, “Well, I don’t like them either, but needles are a small price to pay compared to being a father.”. Usually all I get is a nod. I wonder if in their hindsight they somewhat envy guys like me.

2007-12-27 05:28:47 · 4 answers · asked by Marvin 7 in Other - Family & Relationships

I know this girl is interested in me and i want to take her on a date with me to the movies....but when i ask idk wut type of movie would be a good idea to watch for a first date...like i was thinking of Sweeney Todd but it is a thriller so...idk. Ladies, wut type movies do you like to watch with your guy when you go out on a date with him?
And for all dates, i want to be as gentleman as possible.. suggestions?
plus should i put my arm around her first date or not (when watching the movie)?

first dates stink lol

2007-12-27 05:28:08 · 3 answers · asked by apoplexy 1 in Singles & Dating

I have a cousin who has always considered herself a DIVA. She always has to look good, etc....Well...I'm not conceited like she is, but I do know that I am truly beautiful. I don't walk around with a DIVA mentality like she does. Everytime we see each other, she always has something negative to say. SHe is a 30 year old woman and I am 19. She has highlights in her hair and for my 19th B-day I got golden hightlights in my hair. On Christmas she saw my highlights and she said that I am trying to copy her!!! OMG!!! I wish that she would get over herself! When I got my hair done, she never even crossed my mind! I wanted highlights becuz I wanted something new and different and I did if for ME! She is my own blood and it just irritates me that she is the way she is towards me! I noticed that she kept looking my way on Tuesday. Then she asked me did the belt that she had on look good with her outfit and I honestly told her no and she took the belt off. What is it with my DIVA cousin?

2007-12-27 05:26:00 · 1 answers · asked by **Sparkle** 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

My boyfriend was involved in a sserious fight on xmas eve...when I was told about it I went to the hospital expecting to see him with a few cuts n crazes but he was wired up to machines and monitors and the doctors are not sure if he will make it...I dont know what to do....we have had a less than perfect relationship but I dont know what I'd do if he didnt make it??

2007-12-27 05:25:08 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

...That is, rape is being discussed on the Oprah show.

2007-12-27 05:22:58 · 13 answers · asked by Cas 4 in Family

Like if I had said "I have trouble with being Narcoleptic in Math class". And someone who has that condition heard but they know I am not a mean guy.

2007-12-27 05:22:09 · 27 answers · asked by lend322 4 in Singles & Dating

What would you do if your fiancé had a myspace account and this girl contacted you stating that they have been dating for as long as you have been going out? What if you knew this girl and that they were dating however you didn’t know that it wasn’t over. What would you do if you and your fiancé provided each other with passwords to each others email accounts and then you found an email that stated this;

“Moving forward, can you write to me at blah blah address as she has obtained the password to this account and I'd like to be able to continue being honest with you rather than filtering the things I say for fear of her reading them.

Christmas was quiet. I'll tell you the rest of the story (including the blog thing) on the other email account. Write me there when you have a moment. it's more of the same insanity. That said, I'm off to CA this weekend to spend New Year's with her. Again, I'll tell you about it in my next email.”


He made me it sound like the girl was insane and stalking him, she obtained my password, he gave it to her. Then he stated he meant for the girl to see the email, however when she went in earlier the email wasn’t there. It just so happened that she stumbled across it.

Given this recent email story and the one where an ex girlfriend called you and she seemed very hurt and honest, what would you do?

Only serious responses !!!!

2007-12-27 05:21:45 · 16 answers · asked by ################################ 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My mother and father have been divorced for over 18 years, i haven't talked to him in 5 years. My mother recently passed away from cancer, in the divorce decree it stated he had to pay child support for as long as I was in school. Now that my mother passed he has stopped sending checks. I am 19 years old and live in MA. Is there any hope for my twin brother and I getting finicial support from my father?

2007-12-27 05:20:35 · 10 answers · asked by Chris 2 in Family

two couples together heavy petting no penetration (first time for one couple, other couple has been part of lifestyle for much longer)....first time woman has had enough...ready to head off to sleep. In front of all four she tells her husband if he stays behind, not to stay too long because he can come to bed and she will *take care of him*. She leaves, falls asleep, he comes up later and confesses that he had intercourse with the other woman after she left. What do you think? Too bad, so sad because that's the nature of the swinging lifestyle? Not enough communication? Husband took advantage of situation, and ignored the implied but not spelled out rule?

2007-12-27 05:20:19 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i am 13 and i have never been asked out,but guys call me hot. i try to play hard to get ,and dont bug them.i am kind of quiet at times, but other times i am not at all! i never text,call, or email guys; i NEVER would ask a guy out. i like clothes and jewelry , but i also like having fun like racing and playing sports....now that i have told you a little about my self can you tell me why i am not getting asked out?PLEASE ANSWER!

2007-12-27 05:19:59 · 18 answers · asked by Sugarrr. :) 2 in Singles & Dating

OK so I was cutting my wrist to relieve stress. but I think I cut too deep.I put a small bandage around my wrist but I keep having to replace it, even as I write this message.

Ok I just changed the bandage again. The bleeding wont stop and I cant move my rist much, I feel a bit drowsy

i live alone, I dont want to spend the night in hospital, what can I do?

I feel really tired now

2007-12-27 05:19:38 · 60 answers · asked by .... 2 in Singles & Dating

My girlfriend and i have been together for almost 5 months now, but things are going downhill. we barely talk, we havent seen each other since october, and i feel like i'm putting a lot in but not getting back.
Then there's another girl. she wants to date me, she told me... and she's waiting until i'm single so i know she respects me. we've been talking almost every day for a few weeks now and we've been through things together that my girlfriend and I haven't.
Please don't tell me "talk to your girlfriend about it" (i've tried... can't get in touch) or "it's up to you who you choose" (if i knew who i wanted i wouldn't have posted)
Just a little guidance in this situation would be much appreciated.

2007-12-27 05:18:36 · 61 answers · asked by Jordan P 1 in Singles & Dating

I am 25, and a couple of years ago I would say that I had a great sex drive, now I feel like it is totally gone. I could care less if I had sex or not. Even when my husband gets me to agree I hardly enjoy it. I just wanted to know if there was anything like vitamins or something that you can take to try and help because I feel horrible for my husband and in my head I want to have sex with him but have no desire too. Someone help????

2007-12-27 05:16:07 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-27 05:15:49 · 15 answers · asked by sillybreaze 4 in Marriage & Divorce

what I mean is, having sex in the dark rather than the light, or not wanting to shower together, or never wanting to talk about anything remotely about being naked or having sex, or being naked long enough to put more clothes on.

2007-12-27 05:12:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce