My girlfriend and i have been together for almost 5 months now, but things are going downhill. we barely talk, we havent seen each other since october, and i feel like i'm putting a lot in but not getting back.
Then there's another girl. she wants to date me, she told me... and she's waiting until i'm single so i know she respects me. we've been talking almost every day for a few weeks now and we've been through things together that my girlfriend and I haven't.
Please don't tell me "talk to your girlfriend about it" (i've tried... can't get in touch) or "it's up to you who you choose" (if i knew who i wanted i wouldn't have posted)
Just a little guidance in this situation would be much appreciated.
2007-12-27 05:18:36 · 61 answers · asked by Jordan P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well if things gonin down hill u barely talk u should talk to ur girlfriend to day and ask her where this realtionship going if its not going any where breaak up with her and start talkin to the otha girl and try too workl on a realtion ship wit her
2007-12-27 05:22:26 · answer #1 · answered by </3 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seems like you have your mind made up. There has to be a reason you guys haven't talked much or seen each other since October! There are definitely issues between the two of you. How do you feel about the other girl? If your having strong feelings for someone else and the relationship your in is poor definitely tell your gf how you feel about the relationship and break it off. Give the other girl a shot you never know where it might take you. Just take it slow.
2007-12-27 05:22:50 · answer #2 · answered by hawaiiansun_82 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
While I understand the concept of guidance, you also have to understand that sometimes you have to be willing to listen to advice that you might not like or think might not work. The people here don't know everything you do about the situation but if you tie their hands from the outset ,it makes it that much more difficult to help you.Having said that, you mention that you and your girlfriend have not seen each other and have barely spoken since October.It appears that your mind , as far as remaining with your current girlfriend is made up and you want to end it. Yes, I know you say you don't know who you want; however, I sense that subconsciously, you want to move on and date the new girl and you are only looking for emotional cover, that is , to help you feel better about your decision. Hence, make contact with your girlfriend, break it off with her( make it clear it is over), and then let the new girl know of your availability.I hope you can be happy in this new romance as everybody is entitled to happiness in their relationship.Good luck to you.
2007-12-27 05:57:05 · answer #3 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are already into a new relationship. She said she wants to be with you and you talk everyday. Your old girlfriend is already out of the picture you just don't have the official closure of it. You said you haven't seen each other since october. Do the right thing. Be nice but make the official closure so your new relationship can progress nicely and without complications from the past. Good luck to you.
2007-12-27 05:27:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The answer is so easy.
There are millions of fish in the sea. If things are going downhill with your current girlfriend and it's only been FIVE MONTHS out of your whole life, talk to her and end it.
You don't have to bring up the other girl, that would be insensative. But seriously, you and your girlfriend are just wasting each other's time.
She can easily find someone else who is better suited for her.
Break up!
2007-12-27 05:22:39 · answer #5 · answered by Nik 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you sure that you are even still together with this girl if you haven't seen her or spoke to her. Sounds like you are no longer together anyway! I surely would just get rid of her if you don't want to be with her. I think that it is a really good thing that the other girl is respecting you and waiting until you make a decision, she sounds like a pretty good girl.
2007-12-27 05:24:01 · answer #6 · answered by *MrS. PrIsS* 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You answered your own question... go out with the new girl... whatever you do don't bring the baggage into the new relationship from the first girl or any other, leave the past in the past... stay positive, the new girl may like the challenge of talking to a guy in a relationship - guess you'll find out., so let her know it was your total decision. Respect yourself, don't even call the first girl to break it off, just invest your positive energy with the new one... don't even try to figure it out.
2007-12-27 05:26:16 · answer #7 · answered by chequemate 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately you do have to decide this on your own because you know the situation better than we do. If you're young and you're not into your current relationship anymore then you probably need to move on or you'll just hurt your 5-month-long girlfriend and yourself too. When I try to make decisions like this I try to ask myself what would be the all around greater good for everyone affected by the situation..good luck.
2007-12-27 05:23:11 · answer #8 · answered by Yuka 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i understand where you are coming from. life seems a lot easier and a lot better with this other girl than your girl now. If you haven't seen your chick since october somethings wrong. I'd wait at least a week after break up to date this other one though to make sure there is no feelings of rebound.
2007-12-27 05:24:17 · answer #9 · answered by hotlilchick1127 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you haven't seen your girlfriend since OCTOBER then I would say it's OVER!! If she won't talk to you then it's REALLY OVER! If you need closure write her a letter and let her know how you feel. Why waste anymore time? I know it sounds cheesy but just follow your heart. I think you already know what you have to do. Good luck with the new relationship.
2007-12-27 05:23:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋