I am so happy about that and accepted but the ring he gave me is really really beautiful but its not the traditional engagment ring its is an eternity ring, so now I feel as though I cant show it off and let everyone know im getting married, my mum said thats not an engagment ring but said it was lovely all the same!! I dont want to change it as my boyfriend chose it for me thinking that I would love it, and it cost him a lot of money it has 48 dimonds in it!
Would you care that it was not the traditional engagement ring or not?
2007-12-27 05:36:08 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
OH!!! Thankyou so much for your reply's I agree I just worry what other people think too much!! I am so happy and lucky!!
2007-12-27 05:46:59 · update #1
Some of you are saying that im shallow when im not He asked me with the ring in a glass of champers on christmas morning, I love him and i loved the ring, it was my mothers comment that made me rather disheartened and wanted to know other peoples views!!
2007-12-27 06:04:33 · update #2
Hi,
Hun, the man you love has asked you to spend the rest of your life with him, he has shown his committment to you and declared his love for you and now you worrying what people will think about the ring?!
This is what so many people get wrong with engagements - they think it all about the ring - it not the ring - it is the words he says to you - he has made you happy and it evident that you love him.
He has spent a lot of time planning this engagment and getting you the ring - 48 diamonds hun, most girls just get the one!
You're a lucky girl - not because of the ring - but because you've got the love of the man you love, whom wants to spend the rest of his life with you and trust me many others are still trying to find that.
You have it and if I were you I would be flashing a big smile and flapping my hand in everyone's faces so they can see what my sweetheart bought for me.
Good luck on planning the wedding!
Lx
P.S Don't listen to your mother - she probably jealous as she wants a ring with 48 diamonds!
2007-12-28 01:24:25 · answer #1 · answered by SunshineApple 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if it's a traditional ring or not. These days people aren't following tradition when it comes to be engaged or getting married. When some people become engaged they don't even have a ring, like myself. Don't make a big deal out of that. Just let him know that you appreciate the ring. Besides it came from the heart.
2007-12-27 15:43:27 · answer #2 · answered by Jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt care. It is an engagement ring, chosen with love, for you by a man who adores you. My man also prefers band style rings to solitaire diamonds.
Dont worry what people say or think. It is your engagement ring and if you love the ring, then that is all that matters. Lots of people are steering away from the traditional engagement solitaire these days. In fact many people are not even choosing diamonds. I would of loved a ruby for my engagement but I loved the ring my man gave me in the end.
Just enjoy your wonderful man and be proud to wear his ring, and if anyone is rude about it tell them your man thought your rings should be unique and different just like your love.
Good luck.
And by the way, I dont think you are being shallow, sometimes people can be mean, and an engagement ring to a lot of people is a status symbol. So many women are bitches when it comes to another girls ring. "Oh it's only half a carat" etc etc So many girls feel apprehensive about showing their ring if it is not the "typical expected 1 carat solitaire" Good luck to you
2007-12-27 10:16:49 · answer #3 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What? I did not know there was a standard as to what an engagement ring needs to look like. Stop worrying about what others think. He thought it was great, so go with it. You can always get a more "traditional" ring as the wedding ring if you want.
Tell your mom to butt out- She is not getting married, you are. You like the ring and love your fiance and that is all that matters. If she doesn't like it, then oh well. Standing up to her now will save you tons of trouble in the future anyway.
2007-12-27 06:06:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's a ring, he asked you to marry him when he gave it to you, that's all you need to make it an engagement ring. I've seen them used before as engagement rings. I've also seen rings without diamonds, or have diamond accents on a gem stone center. I know a girl who was engaged with a $15 sterling silver ring. All that matters is the point of the ring, not what it looks like. If someone comments "oh, that's not a traditional engagement ring." tell them "he thought I was too unique and special to have an engagement ring like everyone else" (which is probably the case). I'd be very happy with a non-traditional engagement ring because I'd hate to have a cookie-cutter one because I'm not a cookie-cutter girl.
2007-12-27 05:47:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Thats the saddest thing to show off your wedding or engagement ring and the lady your showing has the same....
Be different if you like it wear it.
Mine proposed with a ring that doesnt even look anywhere close to an engagement, ill be getting a different one down the line mines just a filler, but id love to keep it, just no way to add bands or anything.
All that matters is you love it. Its the thought behind it not the style.
2007-12-27 15:58:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. I'm sure the ring is beautiful, and I'm sure he spent alot of time chosing it, so I would be greatful for all the thought.
But I received an engagement ring that I did not like, (it was silver not gold I've always been a gold person and I told him that) married the guy and let's just say it's not the best marriage, so now looking back I think it was a sign.
2007-12-27 05:43:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes as you said,[i am so happy that he gave me that ring]yes you are,but why not show it?Its the ring that he has chose just for you.You no if the ring is not like your mom said a engagement ring well.Don't care what other people think if you love the ring.Well show it off.Never mine others what they say,its all about you and your boyfriend.And don't forget this ring your boy friend has chose specially for you.Remember that.And as for me i wouldn't care if its a traditional ring or not.Don't forget ever he bought it with his love and is heart.So thank GOD every day that you are together and that he bought that ring specially just for you. Its LOVE that count in all this.And look at your ring and always remember your boy friend in all this it came from his heart and that is wonderful.God love you i do.And i am happy for you.Good luck.And have a HAPPY NEW YEAR 2008,wish you all the happiness in this world.x o Take care.
2007-12-27 06:25:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it will make a lovely engagement ring, forget about tradition, that id the ring he selected special for you. For wedding bands I would use a plain comfort fit band of the same metal and rather narrow, you could even put one on each side. A wedding band with diamonds will take away from the eternity ring.
2007-12-27 06:32:36 · answer #9 · answered by KMONEY831 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Eternity bands are the ones where the diamonds totally encircle the band, right? Engagement rings can be whatever you want, true...but seems this is either used for an actual wedding band or anniversary present or something down the road after you're married.
2007-12-27 06:17:54 · answer #10 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋