my head is in so much pain help?

Question

i'm so lost and confused. 3 days, my ex and i were friends again. since i always mad at him and yelling. he didn't really like care at all. but when i was nice these couple of days. hes been jumpy, like assuming thats i'm mad at him when i'm upset, but i'm not anymore. i told him i'm not mad and ask him why he was thinking like that and he said "i just do" =/
he gotten his ex on his side yesterday before i asked that question and yelled cus he didn't tell me the truth. it was a lie that his ex didn't aim me and said things like your annoying him leave him alone ect. i was leaving him alone. he was the one who kept aiming. and then he signed off when hes really invisible saying i'm sick i g2g, or i'm going somewhere now, or i can't stay on i got too sleep when its only 3 in the afternoon.
he told me so may lies and then hes like this. i have no clue wat to do anymore? help?

we had bad past and i think all of his anger came out cus he would always keep them too himself and now its all explode. but he said hes not mad about it anymore. thats hes over me and were just friends ect.

plz don't say too forget him, or move on ect. he was my bff before we went out and i don't wanna lose him =/

Answer 1

Well then its your cage you built around you, with him as the Warden, and you as your own executioner. A horrible way to live, what do you want from us? To tell you how to deal with being up this guys rear end? Really, I've had SEVERAL bff's in my life, and if you do it right, so well you, get over this one, never give one person so much power who doesn't deserve it. It isn't about forgetting him, or getting over him. Its about you seeing what your worth, and seeing that your not getting what your worth. So what if he was your bff, it didn't, apparently mean all that much to him, so why does it mean so much to you? That aside, your being controlled by him because you hate yourself so much you can't find anyone else who would give you control in this situation that you need. Which even sadder, would just take one great friend and you'd be over this quickly. Sorry it's come down to this in your life. That the only way for you to be happy is based on this guys choices, it was never met to be that way, but again, the cages we build for ourselves.....