Well my story is about 5 years long but I'll try to make it as short as possible. My baby daddy and I have 2 kids that he is claiming. He says that my daughter with Downs isn't his. Reason is that after much verbal, physical, and emotional abuse from him, he ended up sleeping with my friend. I did the same **** (stupid), and ended up pregnant. Anyways, there is a chance that my daughter is his. My friend also got pregnant from my baby daddy. Anyways, we supposedly broke up 3 years ago because of that, however I was still there for him for everything. I mean everything to the point that if it was my last dollar he could have it, I took care of his 3 kids from another mother, gave him everything, even his last son. Now I find out he has been ******* every girl that I know and still talking to the ***** that was my friend. I've endured alot such as insults, having guns pulled on me, embarassment in front of other women, etc. I'm just depressed that I wasn't enough, help please!
2007-12-27 05:52:21 · 14 answers · asked by 2cute4u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all...Don't feel like you were not good enough for someone who treats you like dirt!!!! That is exactly what he did. Find out if he is the father by a paternity test a court can order one.
Things happen between people and he is just a horn dog that can't keep it in his pants. People make mistakes but he keeps making the mistake several times over. You are better off without him in your life just make sure he stays in the kids lives.
Remember you are a person who deserves to be treated with respect and you wont take anything less for yourself. You were more than enough for him he just wasn't good enough for you.
Good luck to you and your children.
2007-12-27 06:24:56 · answer #1 · answered by I have his love. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Sounds like a lot of drama.
Just try to be the best person you can be.
Maybe its good that this happened. Now you still have a chance to find someone else that won't treat you like crap instead of having to endure that abuse for the rest of your life.
Its strange how things happen for a reason.
Just try to be there for your kids and be a civil with their father as possible.
And don't judge him in front of the kids. I think they should be able to find out if they like him or not themselves.
2007-12-27 13:57:53 · answer #2 · answered by Devan! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u deserve better then that. u have to think what would u tell ur daughter if she was dating a man like that. would u want her to go thru that? if u have a daughter and she is seeing this ill tell from experience that she will end up with someone just like him. dont ever feel that u arent good enough. if anything he isnt good enough for u or ur kids
2007-12-27 14:10:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man that sucks. I know you love him but u deserve better. Just imagine how your gonna feel once the baby that you ex-friend is having is born. He's going to be in that child's life just like he is in his other childern's life. So he will always have to go around the girl and believe me you will hate it! I honestly don't know what I would do if I was in that situation though. Just don't do anything crazy.
2007-12-27 14:14:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think you weren't enough? He is a pig and, sadly woman let him treat them this way. He will not change till he wants to change and no one will make him change. You need to move on and do right by your kids. take him to court get the child support you need for your kids and stop putting him first. You deserve better.........
btw...He should be giving you his last dollar....
2007-12-27 13:59:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You say you "gave him everything" like you're bragging, like it's supposed to be a good thing. I don't know of any long-term successful relationship in which one partner gave the other one everything. You get over him by learning the lessons that this experience has taught you and by resolving never to commit the same errors of judgment again in your life.
2007-12-27 13:59:03 · answer #6 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Every thought of therapy? Spare your kids a like of drama and grow a spine, my dear.
2007-12-27 14:02:16 · answer #7 · answered by that judi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You actually want to get over him? He sounds like Prince effin Charming. Six kids, are you kidding me? Get some child support, and get some self-confidence. Otherwise, we're going to see you on Jerry Springer
2007-12-27 13:58:54 · answer #8 · answered by Scott M 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Aquire some self-esteem, & Realize that you deserve better. You are basically a doormat at this point.
2007-12-27 14:33:42 · answer #9 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm embarrassed for you. You sound like you've got the intellegence of a toad. For heavens sakes, why are you still with this piece of sh!t?
2007-12-27 13:57:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋