right now im dating this boy who is black and i love him to death...im white of course...my mom has always told me that it is wrong to be with a person of another color, but i really love it...i went out with this one boy who was black and she flipped..she said that i was going to a all girl school and that i could never been around him again...i want to tell her that i have a new boyfriend but i dont know how to tell her this with out going nuts for the third time...im 17 and i should really be with who i want right or wrong...the way i look at is that no one is going to tell me who i cant be with...what should i do or say???
2007-12-27 05:31:45 · 16 answers · asked by i ♥ Javon!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your mom is racist.
Shouldn't matter if he is black, white, green, blue,
People should be loved no matter what.
I would hate for your black forfriend to meet your mother, how would the boy feel?
Your 17, you have the right to be with whoever you want
I suggest you mom needs to learn that people, black or white, should be treated equally, no matter what.
I am glad that you can see past the colour and look as to what is inside a person
I hope your mom gets the help she needs.
Hope I have helped, and be with whoever you want to be.
x
2007-12-27 05:40:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
gurl, you do your thing, you tell your mom what she doesnt want to hear. I'm 19 going to be 20 soon and white and was dating my now finacee when i was 17 a senior in high school. I've always dated black men, they turn me on so much i dont know why. anyways i told my mom and she was against it from the day i started dating black men, well then she came around and though she still thinks its wrong she still supports me, because i will not change for no body, thats my opinion. my grandma is against it 100% and she was furious when she found out that me and my finacee got engaged, she has only seen him once and that was at my graduation. so she old school, and most old school people dont like.
all i have to say to your question is tell your mom, soon you will be 18 and when ur 18 ur mom can not make your decision for you, actually she cant really do it right now at 17 she cant try to take you to a different school, but that never works, you'll find a way to see him no matter what she thinks, trust me i have done it..lol.. just tell your mom and date who ever you want, cuz we are all the same color on the inside so what about the outside.
good luck
2007-12-27 13:44:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry that your mom is so frustrated by your choice in men and their origin. i can tell you from experience that it isn't so much ( for me ) that they are a different color than you, it is more of the difficulties of life when you mate with someone that is a different color. you may be fine with it, he may be fine with it, but it is the people that you will interact with that will not always be fine with it. unfortunately, you may be faced with current or future employers that are not ok with it and though it is illegal, you may not get the job or succeed at the speed in which you think you should. you may not be as easily accepted in different circles in church, schools, work, etc... and your children will also be face with the same...
you just need to be strong and be willing to face whatever comes your way.... your mom is just trying to sway you so that you will not have the added struggles in life.
2007-12-27 13:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by Jeanette 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as the two of you are happy, even as same race relationships, there's nothing wrong with it. If she's against it, just don't have him come to your house to avoid any confrontation with your mom. If you are still together years from now, get married, etc., I'm sure she'll get used to it--eventually.
2007-12-27 13:36:17 · answer #4 · answered by Bonnie C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i have that problem too. there is just somethiong i like about black guys and i cant help it. so i just dont tell my parents anymore because they put me on lockdown when they find out and i cant go anywhere or do anyting because they think i am trying to sneak and be with him ( which i am) but yea just keep it a secret. maybe one day they will learn. be strong!!
2007-12-27 13:37:41 · answer #5 · answered by brunettbabi 2 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either way you'll be 18 soon enough and you'll be able to move out, get a real job and do whatever you want.
You're parents are wicked. Mine wouldn't care if she was black, white, Asian as long as she was a good person :)
2007-12-27 13:36:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
why is it any one elses business? But then again, if you live at home, you need to follow a parents guidelines. What's so hard about waiting till you hit 18 and getting out on your own and dating who you want?
2007-12-27 13:37:03 · answer #7 · answered by randy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are not predjudice, then dating another ethnic background is not a problem. Your mother, whether she admits it or not, is predjudice, and that is for her, not you, to work out. It would be different if it was boys in general, but in her case it is Black boys.
2007-12-27 13:38:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me you are only dating this guy for the shock factor.
It's something you know that your mom doesn't approve of so that's why you are with him.
Until your 18 what mom says go no matter how grown you think you are.
2007-12-27 13:36:58 · answer #9 · answered by bren 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I wouldn't say a thing really. I would tell her to stop being so close minded, and that true love does not judge. Love is blind, and that's so true!
2007-12-27 13:45:53 · answer #10 · answered by poetry_dreamer2001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋