Family & Relationships - 18 November 2007

I just don't understand this. What ever happened to girls code? Do these women have no self respect? Whether the relationship is good, bad or being worked on, what on earth are they thinking? I know some women that just do it for the challenge, break up a relationship and then shortly there after break it off with the guy they poached. And then I have to laugh as well, because they got the guy to cheat on his partner and now they are together and she doesn't think he'd do it to her, or the guy doesn't think that she will do the same to someone else while they are together. Why do they feel they have the right to break up partnerships and familes. I guess I don't understand why they don't just leave the taken men alone and find their own. Are they so unhappy with themselves that they need to cause problems or more problems in a relationship just to make themselves feel better?

2007-11-18 16:51:12 · 14 answers · asked by Sevannah D 2 in Marriage & Divorce

How can you make two people that are the families biggest trouble makers have a big fights. As stupid as it sounds i know. Its just that i am sick and tired of their behaviour. One is my cousin in-law and the other is my sister in-law. The cousin plays me against my sister in-law all the time and now the kids are following in their footsteps with my daughter. i can't stand how they both betend to be friendly yet backstab my husband, daughter and i to eachother. then my cousin tells me everytihing that my sister inlaw says . After telling me she begs me to keep it a secret cause she doesnt want her to know that she told me. The when we are all together they make sure that they stick together and i feel uncomfortable. I said one thing about my inlaws and she told everyone and then it got back to me. i didn't say anything. How can i expose them for what they really are. My sister inlaw told our cousin that my husband sister in a lesbian. The cousin rings me up and says to me; so how long have you known? I said known what? she said you know and i said no i dont just tell me. She then said that my husbands sister is a lesbian. i said that i don't know anything about that. I asked her where she heard that from and she said that my sister inlaw rang her up and told her. She then said that i obviously havent heard not to say anything. This what i put up with all the time and i sick of it. I want to tell people that she is saying that she is a lesbian to expose her but i scared cause i think that the cousin will not talk to me. You see my sister inlaw thinks that she is best buddies with her but all she does is backstab her in the back and i keep it a secret for her all the time. I think that if i expose them that i will still be left out and that they will go on being friends. what should i do? i cant't handle it anymore because next week it will be something else. please tell me how to handle this type of situation?

2007-11-18 16:49:31 · 2 answers · asked by Blondie 2 in Family

to commit..My sister is having problems like they;ve talked about marriage and he said he wants to marry her,gave her a promise ring. Well she wants to get married soon because Her grandpa is sick and she'd like him to be there but He said "I love you, but no. I don't understand why your gpa passing is a good reason to get married. I don't know if i'm ready to commit."

How can someone say they aren't ready commit when they've been in a long term relationship for 5 yrs? Like is seems like a lie everything he told her and she's confused and doesnt know what to do.

What would you do in this situation? Any advice i can give her?

I told her only she can choose what to do and ill be here for her no matter what and she can talk to me any time

2007-11-18 16:49:24 · 21 answers · asked by Rayray 5 in Marriage & Divorce

what do you do when they tell you after six months that they need some space to think about things but they still want to see you and NOT date other people?

2007-11-18 16:46:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I got divorced in 2003 and have the sole custody of my daughter who is 9 years old now. My previous husband has the rights to visit her once in a week. I want to take my daughter for a vacation out of India. My previous husband has refused to give a no objection letter to get her passport. Is there any way I can get her passport done.

Also, my daughter does not like to meet him anymore, but due to legal obligations I have been forcing her to meet him. Can I appeal in the court to not have him meet her weekly, but only when she wants to meet him?

I have got married again and my daughter wants to get her name changed to our new surname. The school has refused to do so as my previous husband is not giving a letter of no objection. Is there any way I can get her name changed. Also can my husband adopt my daughter? What is the process?

I live in Maharashtra, India.

I have checked with 2-3 lawyers have not recd proper guidance.

2007-11-18 16:45:54 · 6 answers · asked by maze_nav 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I just don't get the whole developing relationships thing with women thing at all.... I'm serious.

Don't get me wrong I'm not shy, well I used to be very SHY...but I am a very social and good looking person.

And no I'm not arrogant or mean at all, but women always end up hating me a LOT.

I just don't get it....

For example let's say I'm talking to a women....why does she expect me to ask for her number and compliment her looks and the same old routine?

Why do women in general (NOT ALL) but why do women expect every guy to be to be so typical?

Don 't get me wrong not all women are the same, I'm not saying that.

Shouldn't a women be happy that a guy wants to get to know you a little more and not kiss your but?

It's almost as if I don't do that, they begin to have a growing hate for me. As if I think I'm too good to notice them or say but kissing things.

The thing is I NOTICE you beautiful women, and I admire you, but I refuse to turn myself into a kiss butt in the process.

2007-11-18 16:45:37 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I've been single for quite a few years now. Some people say I don't really make the effort. I'm begining to agree. I loose interest pretty quick. In the past, when I liked a girl, it could be for months or years. Now I'm interested in a girl for a few weeks, then I can't really be bothered. And it's been this way for a few years. What's going on with me?

2007-11-18 16:42:39 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

This man is trying to survive this is his second marriage and he was very successfuly before he met this women and now he tells me that everything is down hill and he has started to comtoplate illegal doing to keep up his before lifstyle,he has lost about everthing and now his grown stepchildren has moved in and i am really worried about him they have all but broke him

2007-11-18 16:41:03 · 3 answers · asked by howaboutit99@sbcglobal.net 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Recently there are alot of messages being posted by black men, who are making comments that they are only interested in dating hispanic or white women, because they are just more attracted to them. Of course all of the spanish and white women had something rude to say, or made rude comments toward black women.

The feeling from everyone(non-black women) is that black women are angry about the fact that spanish women and white women are dating black men. Now my question to black women is that, do you feel that the reason black men are asking questions like this is to excite some type of uproar between black women and those that are non-black, as we have seen before. I have asked this question but only to understand the logic that black men and other people are using when they ask questions like this. Is the black man asking these type of questions to bring attention to himself in any way. And, black women how do you feel when ignorant spanish and white women make comments about us?
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Do you feel that you have been wrongly sterotyped? I for one could care less about how many spanish or white women date black men. I believe that alot of them do go after our men and want us to be upset about it. As a successful, beautiful black woman, who owns my own car and house, with a master's degree I am not very concerned. Black women how do you feel about the subject?

2007-11-18 16:38:46 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm an 18 year old virgin. I wanna make my parents proud. I don't do drugs, steal, fight, smoke, have sex, and etc. Yeah I'm a nice guy too.

One problem is that through my life when I meet a girl who seems like a special friend whether its online or in reality, they seem good at first but end up betraying me... When I speak to them it seems like we have a great time and we both seem happy together. Later on they seem to ignore me and try to avoid me without a word...

Is it because I lack good conversation skills? Do girls get offended easily or do they not like guys who are too friendly? I dunno whats wrong, they end up ignoring me. This has happened thru my high school life only...WHat is wrong with me?

Thanks for reading

2007-11-18 16:38:36 · 13 answers · asked by Closed 5 in Singles & Dating

My wife feels shy when I ask her to remove her clothes when we have sex during night. How should I make her get rid of this shyness?

2007-11-18 16:38:06 · 12 answers · asked by Bhanu Shankar 1 in Marriage & Divorce

well after school me and this kid thats kinda my friend his name is angel (hes BLACK)were haggin out after school,and when he left i noticed that my phone was missing,and late i called my friend (elias)and told him about this and that i had a clue who did it,and today at church,my friend told me,that he was gonna ask him if he stole my phone,because them two are close friends,and angel told him that he DID! take it and he was selling it and later he called me to tell that he did!!,and i'm gonna see him tomorrow at school,but what do i tell him,because i don't want to tell him that my friend told me that he stole it from me,because my friend was pretending that he wanted to buy it from him,and thats when he told him that he did take it,so what do i tell him tomorrow!!!??!

2007-11-18 16:36:55 · 7 answers · asked by drummerboy 2 in Friends

I don't mean girl-friends, just girls who happen to be friends.

A guy told me that in general (although by no means the rule), guys don't like being friends with girls they don't find attractive, even though it's not romantic.

Is this true?

And why?

Thanks.

2007-11-18 16:36:48 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Should the two couples get the same amount as the two singles ones (that they will share) or should all six of them be given the same amount. My friend from work asked me this tonight. He does not want anyone to get mad or to feel slighted. What do you think?

2007-11-18 16:35:22 · 14 answers · asked by kim h 7 in Marriage & Divorce

I have been with this guy, whom I love dearly for 9 months now, we have had our ups and downs, he even proposed to me back in May, shortly after that he lost his job, eventually he got another but it wasn't paying enough, so he waited til something better paying came along, which did about 2 months ago,and about 3 weeks ago he started acting wierd, and distant. He snapped at me the other night for no reason, (I had just gotten home from work and hadn't seen him all day.) Iit escaladed and insted of walking away like I should have, I said some very cruel and hurtful things out of anger. Of course after the fact I felt terrible and apoligized the next day, and I found out that he was very stressed out and unhappy with his job at the time. It's been 3 days since we got into that fight, and he still isn't acting right, as a matter of fact he's being mean, I asked if he wanted to end the relationship or needed time apart, and he said no. What more can I do? Will things get better.

2007-11-18 16:34:14 · 1 answers · asked by coronaqt2004 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-18 16:32:38 · 11 answers · asked by denia b 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my friend is a teacher and she was telling me of this boy who when he was 6 punched a girl in the mouth for no reason and couldnt understand why he was punished for it. had sex at the age of 10, and when he was 14 threw a chair in the middle of a crowded hall way and hit the teacher in the head. he then took a gun to school when he was 16 and also would sell some drugs at school. the thing is the kid is very intelligent, i would say above average. he lies constantly and sometimes causes fights between other childeren. has anyone ever heard of anything like this?

2007-11-18 16:32:01 · 5 answers · asked by jm 1 in Friends

2007-11-18 16:31:56 · 7 answers · asked by mmhmm. 2 in Weddings

2007-11-18 16:31:02 · 9 answers · asked by panthergirl3729 1 in Singles & Dating

when you've been caught,, how do you explain it isn't right????
she saw was having fun fun, my gf is very verbal in her pleasure. can i help she's a screamer?

2007-11-18 16:29:17 · 8 answers · asked by At peace with myself 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-18 16:28:07 · 1 answers · asked by jonalyn.. 1 in Singles & Dating

I have a friend who has 3 little girls. she is divorced and wants to get married again with a single guy who has no children. Is that realistic?

2007-11-18 16:28:04 · 14 answers · asked by The Most Beautiful Men 1 in Marriage & Divorce

god damn im so pised he has a secret that someone told him its nothing to be ashamed of but he wont tell me and tomorrow he's going to ask out a girl...when i like him alot and ugh and i dont want him to ask her out ...i want him to ask me out and im scared to what he'd say because were both guys in all and idk if he's bi or gay

2007-11-18 16:27:51 · 16 answers · asked by jake s 1 in Singles & Dating

Would it be wrong for a married couple to have their house, which they both live in as a married couple, but also have an apartment or condo that they both could use as a place to get away to when needed or is this actually a great idea?

2007-11-18 16:27:42 · 16 answers · asked by confused 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Are there people still out there that believe pornography is wrong? If so, are you married/seriously dating and does your significant other feel the same way? What happens when one messes up?

2007-11-18 16:26:44 · 25 answers · asked by Oh it's me! 4 in Marriage & Divorce

Like...if sumones best friend thinks tat person did sumthin bad and tat person's best friend is ignoring him/her and tat person doesnt know wat to do,and wondering why tat person's best friend is mad and ignoring tat person...Wat would you do if you are confused???

2007-11-18 16:24:37 · 1 answers · asked by Pro 2 in Friends

. She said to me "aww. your so cute"
.She isnt afraid to touch me she sometimes touches or rubs agiasnt my arm
. Makes frequent eye contact "the eye contact were you feel like she is waiting for something"
. Sometimes says whats up but she generaly ignores me
. Seems nervous around me I was helping her with something once and she berly spoke a word
. She has tried to partner up with me before in science

It may seem obvious but she ignores me and doesnt really make an effort to get to know me. We have know each other for about a year but where not at the friends level.
I would talk to her but i just get so nervous i cant talk to her. oh ya were 18 shes 3 months older but i dont think she knows that



I really do care about her. when i look her in the eyes they just have this glow that really makes me think she feels the same way


she is not shy at all. like she talks around me just not to me

2007-11-18 16:23:30 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I used to make fun of this girl and i think she hated me for that..now it turned out that i like this girl...i hate to say this but yeah...but then i think she found out about it...she started to ignore me..what should i do? whats the best way to apologize? and can i make up for the things ive done? how? i need to know..

2007-11-18 16:22:44 · 6 answers · asked by jkim_28 1 in Friends

I need some outside prospective…
My fiancé and I have a child together(he’s 11 months). My fiancé works full-time. I stay at home with our child and I am also a full-time student. This is my concern…
We both pay the bills, I have money saved up from working when I was pregnant ect. So, I pay half of all of our bills each month. I also staying at home with our child and take care of the household stuff(laundry, dishes, taking care of our child, my school work and so on). Is it safe for me to assume that we should be 50/50…? That he should help contribute to the household chores? I am a stay-at-home mom, yet Im not. I still pay all my bills and half, if not more, of the bills in the household. In my perspective a stay-at-home mom is mother that stays home and takes care of the children and all of the household needs while the husband makes a living. HOWEVER, this is not the case with us? Am I outa line?

2007-11-18 16:22:41 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have one of the world's greatest dilemmas. There's this guy who I've liked for a few years now, and I wanna tell him how I feel but he's been in a relationship for atleast a year now. I want him to be happy. I think he's happy, so I dare not come in between that because I don't want to be a homewrecker. Unless I undoubtedly felt I could make him happier. I don't know, I'm not the world's most confident person. He's a really great guy, and for the first time I'm going for a guy who I can say I like for all the right reasons. I tried the whole moving on thing, and it's fine for all of one day and then he comes around and we have these meaningful conversations and laughs and I just wanna stay in that moment. We are close friends and he'll be graduating a semester sooner in a month and I won't get to see him next year. I may never see him again. For the last few weeks I was half alright with that because my way of thinking was that atleast I don't have to have this false hope that someday he'll be mine. He's so great and I tend to be picky but with him I'm 100% sure I wanna be with him and he is the right guy for me. I can truly see myself with him and I love the time we spend together in between classes. He's suportive, he makes it a first priority to come to my performances and he even helped me study for my spanish test. My heart does not feel pain because I want what's best for him and he and his girlfriend look really good together. Who am I to come in between that if he's truly happy is what I ask myself. At the same time, what if this is the guy for me and I choose to sit off to the side and allow myself to lose the best thing that could ever happen for me? Seriously, what would you do?

2007-11-18 16:21:20 · 15 answers · asked by Story Unknown 5 in Marriage & Divorce