What is it with women that go after men who are in relationships?

Question

I just don't understand this. What ever happened to girls code? Do these women have no self respect? Whether the relationship is good, bad or being worked on, what on earth are they thinking? I know some women that just do it for the challenge, break up a relationship and then shortly there after break it off with the guy they poached. And then I have to laugh as well, because they got the guy to cheat on his partner and now they are together and she doesn't think he'd do it to her, or the guy doesn't think that she will do the same to someone else while they are together. Why do they feel they have the right to break up partnerships and familes. I guess I don't understand why they don't just leave the taken men alone and find their own. Are they so unhappy with themselves that they need to cause problems or more problems in a relationship just to make themselves feel better?

this isn't about myself. I keep reading on here women asking if they should tell a man how they feel even though they are in a relationship. The friends I have honour the code. I read some of the answers and people are even encouraging these women to tell the man how they feel. I just don't get it.

Answer 1

Men do the same thing. And really, adults are no different than children when it comes to this. Take a toy away from a child..they are going to want it even more. Tell a child not to do something..more than likely they are going to do it as soon as they can. Children can be excuse from that behavior, after all they are children. Adults...want a person even more when they "can't have" him or her. It's an added excitement I suppose. It's a "taboo" to some. Adults, shouldn't be excused from that behavior, they know better.I don't really consider something like that a "love of challenges". It is just simply having no morals, being self centered, uncaring, and disgusting.

Some people that do that are just scum, and there are always those women..or men..that start dating someone and don't even know that person is already married or in a relationship. And then by the time they find out that the person is taken, they have developed feelings for 'em, and that makes it very hard for them to tell the cheater to feck off.

And I think "some female" down below me..is delusional. I hate people that think it is okay to try to be with someone who they know is taken, simply because they are not married. Just because someone isn't married or engaged doesn't mean they are fair game. And someone that feels the need to go for a person whom they know is taken sorely suffers from low self esteem NOT "a love of a challenge". Yes men are capable of throwing off a woman's advances, they have minds and they have responsibilities, and vice versa. But as humans, we ARE sexually driven.
"Some female", your speech trying to justify your actions, doesn't justify them at all. And the fact that you laugh at another persons expense is sickening.

Answer 2

I only ever broke up casual relationships, never marriages and never a family, as men who are willing to breed are a huge turn off. Another girl's boyfriend provides a challenge that single men do not provide. Simply put, they're not easy and I like a bit of a chase and besides, do you know how funny it was when my fiance and I got together and his ex gf just couldn't figure out that it was over? Probably not, but it still makes me laugh 3 years later.

Women who 'steal' men are not doing it out of self hatred, more out of amusement (a desire to chase rather than being chased) and probably some conceit. Besides, just because a man cheated on his girlfriend, doesn't mean he's going to cheat on you. A woman who 'steals' a husband, just has no respect for marriage and unless she's an idiot is just out for some fun, but in my mind, if you're not married or in an otherwise committed relationship, you're fair game.

Remember though, it's not the woman's fault at all. The man who is 'stolen' is the one who is entirely in the wrong because he is the one with obligations to his wife, partner, girlfriend or family. The woman who 'steals' the man is not taking advantage of him, men are not so weak that they cannot deny advances. Your question pretends as if men are merely sexually driven beasts with no mind nor responsibility.

It sounds to me that you were cheated on and want to make yourself feel better than the woman he left you for anyways. Poor you!

Answer 3

some females just don't care. i could never do that. i would never be the other women for the fact that i know how it feels to be cheated on and couldn't stand the thought that i would make another women feel that way. i guess some females feel its a sense of power over things or kinda a control thing. there's really no way to get women to stop until they finally find someone they really care about. then it happens to them and they realize how screwed up they were for ever doing that to other ppl also i completely disagree with the answer from some female apparently she has no respect for other women and ppl in general. something went wrong with her up bringing

Answer 4

I sense that this has been done to you.
If so, I am sorry but all you can control in life is yourself.
This society that we live in is being eroded by poor morals and ethics.
We have devalued honesty and good character traits and we are too excepting of poor conduct.
These women or anyone who displays such contempt for others and their relationships are of the lowest order.
Take comfort in knowing that you are a better person with a higher sense of being.

Answer 5

having had some experience in this area myself...

i'm going to say it is the men themselves that put themselves in that situation. you may not believe me....but i'll tell you why. i hooked up with a married man once before, i remember him saying (way before the thought had run through my mind) that he no longer loved his wife, he was only there until his children got older and could handle a divorce later, that he only married her because she got pregnant, stuff like that. i am not saying i was right to react by going forward, but he made himself available.
then (ha ha karma, i know) i had some whore at my husband's work chase after my husband. letters, phone calls, text messages, calling my husband at all hours of the night for no reason. why? because he made a comment about touching her boobs and she took it as he was available. despite the fact that we had only gotten married weeks before. and she kept it up for over a year.
so honestly, it's because the men in these situations don't care enough about their spouses to make it very clear about their respect for their spouses.

Answer 6

first this isn't anything new so there was never a girls code. Women feel that if a guy comes on to them even thou he is in a relationship isn't her fault and I agree you and the likes of you should learn how to pick a man because obviously you picked the wrong one and after you get a man you need to learn how to keep him and not blame it on the other woman.

Answer 7

Most have low self-esteem and the feel "worthy" if they are able to "steal" a man that is in a relationship.

Its sad-but true.
If you know some one that does this-keep in mind that she has deeper issues that need to be addressed.

Answer 8

It is a self esteem, or rather lack there of, issue.

Crazy people do crazy things then blame things on everyone but themselves.

Show pity, not anger. Anger only plays into their hands.

Crazy,

Answer 9

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Answer 10

people have lost all respect, morals, trust and any of the words that go with these. they just don't care as long as they are happy or have things their way