Do girls think I'm a bad person?

Question

I'm an 18 year old virgin. I wanna make my parents proud. I don't do drugs, steal, fight, smoke, have sex, and etc. Yeah I'm a nice guy too.

One problem is that through my life when I meet a girl who seems like a special friend whether its online or in reality, they seem good at first but end up betraying me... When I speak to them it seems like we have a great time and we both seem happy together. Later on they seem to ignore me and try to avoid me without a word...

Is it because I lack good conversation skills? Do girls get offended easily or do they not like guys who are too friendly? I dunno whats wrong, they end up ignoring me. This has happened thru my high school life only...WHat is wrong with me?

Thanks for reading

Answer 1

i dont think you are a bad person...in fact i think you are far from being called one...i guess you just havent met the right girl for you...also some people just dont get along...just because and not for any other reason...not because you or the other person is bad...but because your characteristics just dont mesh together....

so dont blame yourself...just concentrate being the nice guy you are...be honest, kind, considerate, funny and respectful...the right girl is bound to notice you...sometimes it just takes time for one person than it does for another...if its meant for you...it will come in due time....good luck...

Answer 2

I can't say about your conversational skills, but I can tell you from personal experience...

When I was that age, I didn't realize it and probably wouldn't have admitted it if I did realize it, but I was turned off by nice guys. You seem like a nice guy.

For some reason, a lot of girls seem to have their eye on the bad boy. I don't know why that is. I think for me, on the surface I found the good guys boring...I was looking for an adventure. But deeper down i think I was afraid of a commitment, which is what being with a nice guy might end up being.

Please don't stop being a nice guy on account of this! However, do try to be a little adventurous without compromising your values.

Anyway, if these girls are betraying you, it's better to find out now than later on down the road when you are in a more committed relationship.

However, I do wonder what you mean by "betraying"? Are you asking for a commitment too soon?

Answer 3

From what you have described things are good at first and then suddenly they start ignoring you. Think back to the last few times this has happened. Right before they started ignoring is there something that you said or did that is the same in every case? You could try emailing one of these girls and ask them why they stopped talking to you. I would email one of the girls you met online since that is less personal and they are more likely to be honest with you. Just ask them to be honest with you and let them know that you will not be offended by what they say and any input they give you would be much appreciated.
I cant really tell you what you are doing wrong but from what I have read, here are some common mistakes guys make by that you could possibly be making.. What do you mean by "too friendly" Do you mean too nice? There is a difference between being nice and being a push-over. When you seem too desperate or eager, you devalue yourself in the eyes of the girl. Confidence is key. Or by "too friendly" do you mean too touchy-feeley? Being too physically aggressive can make girls feel very uncomfortable and be a huge turn off. I dont think that this is the case since you have said that you dont have sex, it is just a possibility to consider and be aware of.
Another possibility is that you want to move too fast too soon. Maybe not physically, but emotionally. For example wanting to give your relationship a title or telling her you love her too soon. Make sure the girl is on the same page as you before you do any of this.
Be more aware of a girls reactions to what you say and their body language towards you. If they seem to become annoyed or more distant then you probably need to back off some.
You sound like a great guy. You just need to tweak the way you communicate and present yourself towards girls.
Good Luck!

Answer 4

It doesn't sound like there is anything wrong with you. You are a guy with high morals and integrity. You are emotionally mature, probably too mature for most of the girls that you meet. You might be making them feel uncomfortable because your personal standards are way higher than theirs. You have yet to meet the girl that will truly appreciate who you are.

You could try sending emails to the last ten special friends that you had and bluntly ask them what happened. Tell them you are not angry or bitter but you would appreciate their honest appraisal of you. If you have been overly friendly and tried to insist on moving further in the relationship than they were ready for, they may have started to feel like you were stalking them and wouldn't back off. You need to develop sensitivity and social skills. You have the desire and now you just need the practice.

Answer 5

It probably has something to do with your personality. Try reading some books on how to communicate with people. the is one I read that really helped. "How to Win Friends and Influence People" I don't remember the author, but I am sure that you can locate it or something similar to help you.

Remember that trying too hard to get along with people is just as bad as not trying at all. You tend to lose their confidence because you end up looking as if you have no opinions or ideas of your own.

Also, remember that everyone will not like you. It is inevitable that that there will be people that don't. Don't let that discourage you. The old saying goes, "You can't please all of the people, all of the time." This is very true. the best that you can hope for, is to be accepted by most, and cared for by a few.

Answer 6

it is not u it is the girl who are u talking to i hope not girls u appear nice those are the ones that betray not all but some u need to talk to girls who believee in the ways of Christ and value what u value for any real friendship to last and to the ones who just betray just forget them and get better friend s as a matter of fact il be u friend and i will not ever dono dum stuff like betray cause i have no reason for it

Answer 7

nothing is wrong with you.
you just gotta wait 'till the right person comes along.
errything is going to work out
just take it easy
& find a friend.

build a friendship soley for a friendship
then build networks with other people
i think its when you're finally content with things in your life
like friends and family
that person is going to come along when you least expect it
just enjoy this time right now with the holidays..

& hey if you need a friend you can always message me.
im nice. i promise. but like i said? .. just enjoy what you got right now. it'll come, just wait and see.

Answer 8

dude nothings wrong with you.some girls are just stupid looking for the wrong things like me and ive finally learned my lesson. you seem like a nice guy and some one id like to get to knoe and trust me im not one of the girls that will ditch you. if i dont like something about you ill tell you. but i have a nice friend just like you and weve been friends for 5 1/2 years and i met him over the internet. but if you take thing to far your a gonner.

Answer 9

every girl wants to find her prince and princes arent asses soo dont feel bad about being to nice all these girls that dont like you are crazy .. they might say they might want a bad *** but in the end there are looking for a prince .. soo be nice and stay that way some day a girl will see that and fall in love with you ! :D

Answer 10

It's good that you don't do any of that junk. There's nothing wrong with you at all by what i can tell. you just have to be yourself. Laugh and have fun. Girls love guys that are able to laugh at themselves, be themselves, listen to them, and just hang. Don't worry, you'll find a girl if you just be yourself.