Should the two couples get the same amount as the two singles ones (that they will share) or should all six of them be given the same amount. My friend from work asked me this tonight. He does not want anyone to get mad or to feel slighted. What do you think?
2007-11-18 16:35:22 · 14 answers · asked by kim h 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do not know if everyone else on here who answered is an adult, or maybe a teen or twenty something with no experience, but I am 31, have been married, and think you are heading for trouble: I would give the 4 kids the same amount, but you have to acknowledge the significant others with a small present. maybe give them a sweater or a $20 gift certificate each. If you just give everyone the same, and give the 2 significant others nothing, theyI will take that as being ignored/shunned, and this will lead to tension.
2007-11-18 19:04:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if the adult children have kids then they should get more and if you normally give a gift to their spouses for christmas then give the same amount to each individual....all six people. If you don't give a gift to the spouses normally then the same amount to just the children only. This way you are not in the dog house per say... You can say you think of your childs spouse as your son/daughter too, and when they receive it tell each one to buy something for themselves with it. If the couple wants to put their money together thats on them, and thats not your fault.
2007-11-18 16:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by just bored 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how much he/she gives to anyone, someones feelings will get hurt. Money just does that to people.
I think the same amount should be giving to the two single children as the married couple.
Good luck.
2007-11-18 16:44:59 · answer #3 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the couples count as ONE! My family doesnt do it this way...and I hate it. Sometimes the significant others dont appreciate it like the actual child does... the significant other sometime just comes to expect the money gift each year. The SO is family, but not an actual child.
2007-11-18 17:02:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think giving money to adult children is a bad idea for just this reason. BUT, assuming none of them is in dire need, I would give each equal amounts. Couples count as one. Grandchildren might warrant a bit of something of their own
2007-11-18 16:44:06 · answer #5 · answered by twosey ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I have warned my kids,single same amount. Married you split that amount. Grandkids (step and biological) get same amount as did their parent as a child. Parent's out of luck. Christmas is more fun for the kids. Unless they get greedy. Will have to think about the greediness as I don't think that belongs at Christmas time. Kids call me cheap. I say too bad. lol
2007-11-18 17:01:05 · answer #6 · answered by witchywoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Couples count as one. Or if they are recent additions to the family, get the significant others a gift instead of cash...that way the money goes to the kids alone.
2007-11-18 16:51:47 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same amount will do, not unless you are rich! Besides it's the thought that counts not how much you give. Merry Christmas
2007-11-18 16:50:25 · answer #8 · answered by Sylvia C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money is a terrible gift ,it brings the child into a sense of security thats not going to be there tomorrow ,however a nice watch or ring they will cherish forever.
2007-11-18 16:47:48 · answer #9 · answered by howaboutit99@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give everyone including spouses the same amount
this way there will be no one upset and nothing to fight about
2007-11-18 16:43:43 · answer #10 · answered by country_girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋