Would it be wrong for a married couple to have their house, which they both live in as a married couple, but also have an apartment or condo that they both could use as a place to get away to when needed or is this actually a great idea?
2007-11-18 16:27:42 · 16 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no as long as you can afford it do whatever you want. (some people have whole houses for that very reason!)
2007-11-18 16:31:35 · answer #1 · answered by Ruthie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a great idea. Whether one spouse gets away alone there or as a couple. Not everyone can afford to have an extra place. I don't know the particulars of your marriage but as long as trust exists, it's a great idea. I say "trust" because I've heard stories about men having an apartment aside from the main home, in which he takes his mistress there.
2007-11-19 01:25:49 · answer #2 · answered by jognmiles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really bad idea to do that. Unless you both go together to your getaway. But if you go there to get away from the spouse, then it starts to build a wall and communication starts to fade causing even more problems. If you have a fight and he leaves 'to get away for a while', then be careful because stuff doesn't get resolved by running away. Marriage isn't perfect and sometimes it just gets so hard but you deal with it as a couple because there is no way that you can work on the problem alone and expect the other to go along with what you want and be happy.
2007-11-19 00:37:32 · answer #3 · answered by califdreamer_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong and Yes it's a very good idea!!!My husband and I have a house that we live in and a condo too, but we are renting the condo out to someone right now. I think it's a great idea as long as you can afford it.P.S. Great minds think alike, we are thinking the same way!!
2007-11-19 00:33:42 · answer #4 · answered by 24Special 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is fine. I knew a couple hat got divorced & rented an apartment. Whoever had the kids that week stayed "home" & the other parent went to the apartment. Then they traded. Rules were- no dates could be brought to the home, but apt. dates were okay. WAY less turmoil for the kids. Let the dysfunctional adults be the ones that move on the weekends. So far, it's working great. As long as no one gets remarried!
2007-11-19 00:39:01 · answer #5 · answered by Angela J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think all people, married or single need their own space every once in awhile. A bigger house with a spare bedroom or converted garage would work better and perhaps be more cost efficient.
I think as long as this separate apartment you speak of is used for one of you at a time to get away (as opposed to taking an affair there), it is very logical. It may even save a marriage.
2007-11-19 00:34:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a great idea, as long as it does not impact you negatively ( financially or in your marriage, such as using it to date other people). I think one of the biggest problems nowadays is that people tend to not "get away from it all". You can use that as your date place. The place that the children, bosses, grandparents, etc. cannot go over to. It would be your stress free aone.
2007-11-19 00:40:34 · answer #7 · answered by raw_don 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really isn't the place that is wrong but what you are needing the privacy for? to think take a breather while married? fine & dandy Bring someone els there and cheat totally wrong and will threaten to destroy the marriage. Thats like saying is it wrong to rent a hotel once and awhile it's not where your going but what is the purpose?
2007-11-19 01:12:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not wrong but it will definately lead to wrong. If you need a break use a hotel. If you have a seperate place for "breaks" one of you will eventually never come back. May take years but it is a marriage killer. Don't do it.
2007-11-19 00:36:54 · answer #9 · answered by M G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's a horrible idea, especially if you're planning on having kids. Try having a certain place in the house to go to instead. You can't run away from your problems forever
unless you're saying that you both go there to get away TOGETHER, then I think it's up to you. It sounds like a good idea to me
2007-11-19 00:31:51 · answer #10 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If that is what both of them want it will not be wrong. If it is done behind the other ones back is when it is wrong. Anything that you want in your marriage that you both agree on is never wrong. Your marriage is about you and no one else's opinion counts.
2007-11-19 00:39:32 · answer #11 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋