Family & Relationships - 13 November 2007

the eternal question

2007-11-13 14:25:22 · 16 answers · asked by howaboutthat2224 3 in Friends

i want a boob job. How do I get my husband to agree with the idea of getting a boob job?

2007-11-13 14:24:00 · 6 answers · asked by Best Mom!! 5 in Marriage & Divorce

I've been married to my husband for 11 years. He cheated on me in the earlier part of our marriage, and I forgave him. He's done it again, and he lied to me for three days straight about how far this relationship went. I prayed to God that he would touch my husband's heart and make him tell the truth because the evidence was just stacked up too high against him. He confessed later that evening and said that he's been heavily involved with this girl since April, and he and she were sexually intimate. I'm hurt, devasted, and angry. I feel entrapped in this marriage because for one I don't drive. Two. I have no family around here besides him. Three. I'm dependent on him and can't phantom the idea of doing stuff alone. Yet, everytime I look at him, I get a gut-wrenching sensation, and I think about the girl he would lie to me and his children to go and lay up with. I'm scared to death of divorce. What should I do?

2007-11-13 14:23:52 · 11 answers · asked by ? 2 in Marriage & Divorce

What do you do when your lover goes out of town and not only has sex with the opposite sex, but the same sex also (in a separate incident). Anger, hurt and disappointment describes my situation. I can't leave because of finances and plus I do love him. I know he has an accelerated sexual desire, so I may not be able to blame him for his inherent disposition. However, with my issue with this is taxing my mind and I do not know how to channel my emotions. He said he was sorry but said he could not ask for forgiveness because he said I would not give it to him. If I were in his position, I would be on my knees begging for forgiveness, yet this is not what he is doing. He seems to think it is OK and says that I should have known that he was that way. I'm not asking what you think of him, but rather what you think I can do for myself to let this issue go. Breaking up is not an option in our situation so any responses to that effect will not be considered as best answers.

2007-11-13 14:22:49 · 7 answers · asked by Boomer 5 in Singles & Dating

17 years ago he loved me and never said so. 17 years past we speak on the phone and confess our feelings for each other as if they were yesterday. We spend hours and days talking. We are totally convinced we are soul mates, true love given a second chance. One problem he is a witness I am not, he is married (no children) he admits he did not marry because he fell in love. He never stopped loving me. He is very involved in WTS he is an Elder. He says he will live to be a miserable old man because he cannot leave. He says I will never understand. I don't. He begs me not to fight for him for fear if I come to him, he will walk away, as he knows he wants to be with me. I love this man so much how do I give him up? I feel after 17 years we found our way back to each other for a reason. Is it fair to his wife to not admit they are not "one." He has not committed any adultery. Does this relationship have any chance? Does he have to be disfellowshipped?

2007-11-13 14:21:52 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

was wed at the church initially, but would want to re-marry again. is there a separate annulment needed from the catholic church assuming, an annulment was granted by the civil courts? situation is in the philippines.
thanks in advance.

2007-11-13 14:21:17 · 3 answers · asked by miguel-aris 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I smoked marijuana, lots of it. parents found out. lost all trust whatsoever. i quit smoking. gained a little trust back, parents still doubtful. i make bad grades, i try as hard as i honestly can. i am not good enough for my parents. just today i broke my moms car door, on accident. she put the car in reverse and i was holding the door open and it cought the "hose-holder" and wont close anymore. i've done alot of wrong things the past month or so. i cry nightly [joke on me and i'll ******* kill you] i just want my parents to trust me again. i am now realizing how much i depend on my parents. ive thought of suicide multiple times. today being one. ive ran away a couple times [though always come back because i realize how much i love them] and no matter how much i say i hate them, i truely love them.

im crying as i write this and to be honest, i just dont know what to do. i feel like **** every day. i just want to have my parents' trust back. i love em with all my heart.

2007-11-13 14:20:44 · 4 answers · asked by rabidmike1313 1 in Family

My dad promised me all the way in June to take me to a skateboarding competition in November.
I was really excited. I talked about it nonstop, even made a chart counting down the days.
I ask him about it a week ago, and he said he couldn't take me because of his work.
It upsets me because, no matter how immature this sounds, this was really important to me.
I can't find no one else to take me and I'm upset, and I can't stop crying.
I hate him so much because he always has work, and he always expects so much from me. The one thing I expect from him, he can't do.
He says he's working to support our family
But working sometimes won't make your family happy.
It's the virtue of being able to make someone smile
and not cry.
Am I right?
What should I do?

2007-11-13 14:20:33 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

We have not had sex for two years now and I am out of patience. He is on the computor all day and night, and proble found another woman. So I am tired of waiting for him. It might be adaultry but he did it first. He still wants to stayed married.

2007-11-13 14:19:57 · 20 answers · asked by jacsrbetter1 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I am curiuse to find out were my real dad lives i have never seen him and they say some other guy is my dad but i look alot like the guy that ivee never seen thats what everyone says but ya how would i be able to find out were he lives and stuff
and i dont think i can get a test because my dad doesnt want to get one...probly because he knows hes now my dad but anyways anyone know how i would be able to locate the dad thats probly my real one?

2007-11-13 14:18:46 · 2 answers · asked by christiangunit11 1 in Family

I've been calling my crush and hanging up. Is that bad?
He doesn't know that I have his number. My friend gave it to me.
What should I do?
Is this bad?

2007-11-13 14:18:10 · 9 answers · asked by super_woman 1 in Singles & Dating

ok, im gonna sum it up, ive been going out w. my bf for about a yr. i seriously feel and have felt that he wud be the man i wud marry. however, just recently i have been hanging out w. this amazing guy and we were great friends until we made it a lil more than that. My bf is up in college so he has no idea and already made a mistake but decided to work through it...im confused help>....do i tell him and stay or get out?..weve been together for a yr and a half

2007-11-13 14:16:10 · 2 answers · asked by Adddison 1 in Singles & Dating

BTW She was already on her way to go outside when you asked.

2007-11-13 14:13:01 · 5 answers · asked by LEMON the good life 7 in Singles & Dating

anything is a good answer. just tell me what it was and why you liked it.

2007-11-13 14:12:24 · 7 answers · asked by Ali C 1 in Singles & Dating

My husband and I will be celebrating our 5 year anniversary next week and it's my year to plan something to do. We've had a rough year and sorta disconnected with each other. I want to do something special, to kind of rekindle what we lost. Does anyone have any suggestions for me?

2007-11-13 14:11:57 · 7 answers · asked by Not Always Sure 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I just had my abortion exactly one week ago. I feel depressed, guilty, mad at my boyfriend because I feel he didn't take any responsibilities. He was the one who wanted me to go through the process but then he only showed for 10 minutes and the he left. I feel like he's doesn't care about me so I broke up with him TODAY for GOOD. I fell into a despair. I still miss him. I'll try to move on. Time heals.
Was it mistake for me to blame on him? Is it right for me to leave him? Should I tell him I'm sorry and get back with him?

...I just can't think straight..
Love is really blind.

2007-11-13 14:10:54 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Testosterone needs to be taken care of and I am not sure how to find a female to help.

2007-11-13 14:09:53 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have been seeing this woman for a few months now. We have been sleeping together. She is great in bed and I am brilliant... but here is the problem....

She keeps sending me rude emails telling me what she wats to do to me. They make me feel mucky, unloved and basically nothing more than her sex toy.

What should I do?

2007-11-13 14:09:46 · 5 answers · asked by likeakare 2 in Singles & Dating

I have friend i haven't seen in 2 years that is coming to see me this week. We have never been more than friends, but now I am worried about what he is expecting outta this trip. He has begun to drop hints that he thinks we will sleep together. I care about him alot as a friend but that is all. I am dating a great guy, who told me he didn't care that another guy was staying at my place because he trusts me. I don't want to screw up this relationship. What do I do?

2007-11-13 14:07:40 · 3 answers · asked by Pirate 3 in Singles & Dating

My sister in law has been a solo mum for about 2 years and is struggling to make the bills. She will not take charity, but I know that she is not going to be able to give her 2 kids a good xmas. We are in a position to help financially, how can we get her to understand that its not charity, its just a helping hand to make it a great family time with the kids?

2007-11-13 14:07:01 · 24 answers · asked by sammy5570 1 in Family

Umm Dudes Help.

I Just was asked out my Best friend. (Guy)

And I met up with him and I was a little Nerveus to kiss him so i just kisses on the cheek so help. I really want to kiss him not on the cheek. but every time I get close I get nerveus Help me what should I do to stop being scared

2007-11-13 14:03:52 · 4 answers · asked by !oserkidd 3 in Singles & Dating

i'm 14 in high school, i feel like dropping out. i have so much pressure on my head & stress. i've been depressed for over 3 weeks now. i've stopped eating & only drinking soda. i really hate school my teachers are always yelling at me for things i didn't do. i have no friends in that school & everyone there are all really mean & it's a no way chance i would be able to make friends with them. but thats not the problem family problems, friend problems, i just needa get away from this all & school. its my number 1 problem right now. i've been cutting for over 3 weeks straight i've gotten into alot of trouble; i got beat by my parents; put under alot of threats & disrespectful words, verbal & physical abuse; accussed of many things. & my friends are fading away. i really wanna run away agen. me & my friends that are going through the same things are about to. & i really need some positive advice - nothing like GO BACK TO SKOOL ITS THE BEST CHOICE. some1 that understands me tell me wat 2do

2007-11-13 14:02:49 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

what do u not like when girls do like there habbits or questions they ask

2007-11-13 14:02:38 · 6 answers · asked by SYD 2 in Singles & Dating

I was married in February 2001, had our daughter in October 2001. Left his abusive ass in 2002. Have not seen him more than a handful of times since then. He has seen our daughter less than 10 times in over 5 years. We are STILL married because he will not pay for an attorney and is afraid of paying child support. I am fed up and now want to file papers myself so I can move out of state. How would I go about doing this? And is it expensive?

2007-11-13 14:01:56 · 4 answers · asked by Teach 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I bought a dress to wear to an evening wedding on New Year's eve. My husband is the best man and will be in a tuxedo, but I am not in the bridal party. I was worried that I would not be "in season" but I was more worried that I'd accidentally buy the same color as the bridal party and look like a wanna-be bridesmaid or pathetic. After I bought it, I got in touch with the bride and found out the bridal party will be in BLACK! Now I'm afraid I'm gonna stick out too much. I wanted to be noticed, but this might be a bit much. On the other hand, it's New Years, I don't know if I should just run with it.
http://cgi.ebay.com/LEMONDROP-LACE-DOLL-Vintage-50s-Party-Prom-Dress-S-XS_W0QQitemZ180177599829QQihZ008QQcategoryZ48868QQssPageNameZWDVWQQrdZ1QQcmdZViewItem#ebayphotohosting

2007-11-13 13:55:10 · 21 answers · asked by chuckyoufarley 6 in Weddings

My wife and I got married Oct. 11. One week later, she flipped out and went to her mothers saying she doesn't want to be with me anymore. She was 5 weeks pregnant then, she's around 8 weeks now. I thought everything was fine, ever since she's been pregnant, she's been acting like a mad woman, won't talk to me, tells me I'm crazy and obsessive, and has threatened to get a restraining order because I've tried to reconcile with her. She is currently being evaluated by mental health clinic, they think she is severely depressed and possibly bipolar. She claims she's scared of me just because I called a bunch of times when she first left, I was hurt and my anxiety was through the roof. Help, I have no idea what to do, I have never met someone like this, she reminds me of Dr, Jekyll, Mr. Hyde, only the bad part of her has been prevalent for the past 3 weeks!!! Could this be hormones??

2007-11-13 13:55:02 · 8 answers · asked by Josh W 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Due to some unforseenable problems, I am considering on getting married earlier than planned. We have been engaged for 2 years and I am now looking at getting married to my wonderful financee' at the local courthouse. My only concern is with the Catholic Church. I've been told that the Catholic Church wouldn't consider us married. I would love to have the big Catholic church wedding that I'd been planning but the situation my family is in doesn't allow for it. All I want to know is....Is it possible for me to marry at the Courthouse and then have my marriage blessed or recognized by the Church. Thank you in advance.

2007-11-13 13:53:56 · 8 answers · asked by colorfulswanson 2 in Weddings

On my B-day he gave me a necklace and said that it was a 2 carrat diamond. He went on to say "diamonds are a girls best friend" and "thats the good stuff." In order to see if he was lying, I went to a pawn shop and they said that it wasn't real? It's not the fact that it is faux, it is that he lied. We have been seeing each other for three years. He has always been a romantic guy, not a "cheapskate" He has no reason to lie. We were with my family at the dinner table, so this wasn't about him getting "lucky" that night. I am a bit insulted because this gives me the impression that he did this because he thinks I only care about money. I never ask him for anything. What gives? What should I do? Also is there a possibiity of duping by the person who sold the necklace or the pawn shop?

2007-11-13 13:51:10 · 23 answers · asked by Cas 4 in Singles & Dating

I've been married for a little over 9 years now, we have 1 kid. We got married right out of high school, I was 17. Anyway, it was ok at first, then we kinda got used to each other, didn't do so many nice things for each other, so on and so forth. Then he confessed that a few years ago he cheated on me. Now we barely talk, let alone anything "else". I guess I'm getting the grass is greener feelings. We've said time and time again that we're going to work on this and try to reconnect, but we are really two very different people. Sad to say but we only got married cause I got pregnant. So I just thought I'd throw it out there for some advise.

2007-11-13 13:50:35 · 14 answers · asked by Ambiey 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Whenever i swim close to them, one particular one in the group yells out "there is penis!" and i didn't know how to respond! what's something smart (but not offensive) that i can retaliate with/

2007-11-13 13:50:26 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends