Family & Relationships - 3 November 2007

My husband moved out in June of this year and ended our marriage pretty suddenly with no real reason why. He cut off the electricity, took all the money out of the bank accounts, and trated me horribly. A few weeks later he realized his mistake and tried to reconcile with me. I had started seeing someone else and I hid it from him, but did not allow him to come home or rekindle our marriage. After a few more weeks we started seeing a marriage counselor and I ended it with the other man. Now, months later, he has found out that I slept with the other man during the break up. I am no longer seeing the other man, but my husband has is making me feel guilty and threatening to leave again. Was it wrong for me to see someone else after 5 yrs of marriage, or is he to blame by walking out on me? Who is to blame, and do we continue the marriage?

2007-11-03 08:54:17 · 19 answers · asked by Cynthia P 1 in Marriage & Divorce

The room we plan on using for our lunch reception is pretty bright during the day, and that is one of the reasons we picked it (photographs can be easily taken then), but will candles look dumb for decor then, or will it still look elegant?

2007-11-03 08:53:55 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

Im not sure if hes a nerd/geek or mommas boy

Hes 38, is a Computer Consultant, makes $200k a year. Lives at home with his Mom, sleeps on the floor in his room (he has no bed) has 2nd grade running trophy displayed. Star Wars sheets on the floor. Does not pay rent, has no expenses.
He only wears dress shirts, dress pants, has no casual clothes. Dress shoes. Has 20 pairs of the same dress pants that dont fit him hang down, 20 dress shirts of light blue. All from JC Penney Has no jeans, sneakers, casual clothes at all. He went to the Zoo once with dress pants and dress shoes, dress shirt. I couldnt believe it.
Has no girlfriend, no social life,not interested in dating, told me he considered a mail order bride.
All he talks about 24 hours a day is how much money he makes and the stock market and his retirement account.

I asked him, "hey dont you want your own place"? He yells and says "are you nuts, ill move when i marry"
I said but no girl will every date you, I get no answer

2007-11-03 08:53:33 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Husband says it is law that working woman should spend all her money for house. althought my income is very less compared to his. When I was full time working, I spent almost 90% of house expenses. He never questioned. Now he is abusing me with hurting words, degrading me. He shouts, If I go to work I should spend money, otherwise I should resign and be at home full time. He never reveals how much he is saving for himself however.

2007-11-03 08:52:54 · 7 answers · asked by Nishitha 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i need to have an interesting conversation with someone, and i'm not talking about somebody who will only talk to me once a month, i want someone to talk to me every day and have an interesting conversation. anybody interested? ok, answer this question nice and simple with a short explanation:
what do you think of having a woman president?
I'll contact you guys l8r

2007-11-03 08:51:42 · 23 answers · asked by bawby_jack 1 in Friends

i have always wondered if guys talk about their crushes as much as girls do.
haha.
((in advance))
thankyou<3

2007-11-03 08:49:38 · 25 answers · asked by CJ 3 in Singles & Dating

Another words if you have had lasting relationships with another what was it that kept you both together going strong in the relationship?

2007-11-03 08:49:28 · 16 answers · asked by Rita 6 in Singles & Dating

where is the best place to go to see women

2007-11-03 08:48:27 · 1 answers · asked by Madmen22 1 in Singles & Dating

girls wake up and try to help me!!!!!!!!!
yours tenzin p

2007-11-03 08:47:00 · 7 answers · asked by "decent girl" 1 in Weddings

when im bored i normaly like to try on my cloths and find wat outfits look good on me, and witch dont. wat do u like to do?

2007-11-03 08:45:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I'm not really sure if girls like it or not, but I need to know because last night I was with my girl at the movies and we had been having a great time before. Then we got into the theater, and I didn't pounce on her or anything, I just tried to be sweet and romantic, you know, the usual touching and stuff. And she just didn't react! I thought did something wrong, but she wasn't mad, it just seemed like she didn't care. Help?

2007-11-03 08:45:06 · 4 answers · asked by jake w 1 in Singles & Dating

Why is it that there is no repsect today in relationships I hear so many stories that men & women alike take the chance with another and break up because one cheats is selfish etc..men and women alike do not value their bodies etc..Everything is too easy to get! What happened to good values between the sexes? Why is it the people both man and woman that are gentleman and ladies get taken advantage today!? I still believe in the foundation of love and trust & respect in relationships..Why can't we foster this attitude today?

2007-11-03 08:44:55 · 8 answers · asked by Rita 6 in Singles & Dating

I need to study and stuff, but I always want to go to sleep!

2007-11-03 08:43:27 · 7 answers · asked by lovebird 3 in Friends

I met this guy a little over a year ago when he had a girlfriend but he liked me,i kept my distance because he was already taken.a year later he broke up with her and now I was told a rumor that she was engaged to my ex boyfriend, so I contacted him to let him know and he followed up on it by contacting her to find out that it was not true, but my x and his x are dating(not getting married) is that odd? Should I make a move on him or wait to see if he does something?

2007-11-03 08:42:32 · 9 answers · asked by kelly k 1 in Singles & Dating

I need to know where is the best place to find full satin pew bows w/ Tulle? (Besides the obvious Ebay) The stores want to charge 6-8.00 each! Also...I'm putting these on oak pews--should I go with Light Brown Clips or white?? Opinions?

2007-11-03 08:42:11 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

2007-11-03 08:41:59 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-03 08:37:44 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i am seperating from my wife and have an amazing gf that i love and i am loved back. we have a great relationship. i also have 2 kids from the previous marrige... my gf keeps telling me to keep my chats with the ex minimal b/c it hurts her feelings... i cant do that b/c it would end up hurting the kids.... i agree with her that some of the things my ex would say to me or moves she'll make or even msgs she'd send are inappropriate she obiously is tryig to ruin my relationship but my point is that my gf should trust me enough to know i am only doing this 4 my kids.....what do i do? say? whats fair here...?

2007-11-03 08:34:55 · 19 answers · asked by beautiful stranger 3 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-03 08:34:24 · 3 answers · asked by ♥anonymous♥ 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

When your dating the question is, "When are you going to get married" at least 40 times a week. You finnally get married and its, "When are you going to have kids" but there a problem you've had repeat miscarriages, you figured out why and MAYBE next time it wont happen again, but until then no one else knows and just thinks you should be a breeder because you are married, 24, and seemingly healthy, so what do you say? I smile and say, oh kids have to be planned now a days, or some change the topic. Anyone else have a better anwser? As to "When are you going to have babies?"

2007-11-03 08:33:51 · 13 answers · asked by Tbenn 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-03 08:33:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I told him not to come over and he didnt. does this mean he doesnt care?

2007-11-03 08:33:34 · 22 answers · asked by Bo B 2 in Singles & Dating

Since we won't be having their party until after there physical birthdays what can I do special for them that doesn't cost money to celebrate? My youngest is turning one and my eldest is turning two. Help PLEASE!

2007-11-03 08:32:37 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

i am having a few friends over and im not really sure what movie we should watch... have any ideas?

2007-11-03 08:32:20 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

My brother is 16 and i am 10 (almost 11 on 11/27)and i know i sound kinda young for a cellphone but i want one so bad for texting and emergancies kinda because i stay after school on thursdays. My brothers stupid friend ran it over with his stupid bike and how do i convince that i am WAY more responsible than my brother? PLEASE i need ur advice to convince my mom and dad im old enough

2007-11-03 08:29:06 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I'm 16 years old and there's this girl who sits next tome in class and shows all the clasic symptoms of liking me.( giggles around me, always glances at me, finds ways to touch me, smiles when I look at her, lets me were her jacket). I even tested her by telling a really lame and horrible joke and she laughed at it. I asked her out and she said no. Is she playing hard to get or is she just being polite?

2007-11-03 08:27:49 · 11 answers · asked by asker 1 in Singles & Dating

Yeah my boyfriend and I aren't engaged yet but we've both decided to go ahead and begin planning. He's in the Air Force so he doesn't get paid a whole lot and we're not counting on any extra monetary support from family.
We intend on getting married in Colorado where I live and our wedding date is probably labor day weekend of 2008. If anyone has any advice for me I would appreciate it. Websites, names of places, anything would be helpful.
We are most likely having our wedding at my grandparents house which is up in the mountains (beautiful area).
So yeah, any advice would be lovely.
Oh and one more question, the wedding will most likely take place outside and thus it's not going to be Church formal, I'm probably having the groomsmen in suits cause it saves money and most guys like that anyways. If anyone has any dress ideas that would be helpful. Guest list is probably going to be around 60-70 people. Thanks for the help!!! Any and all advice is appreciated!

2007-11-03 08:26:26 · 11 answers · asked by Bageese 1 in Weddings

ok. well my (almost) bf likes to look/stare deeply into my eyes...its really sweet and all, but ive told him it makes me blush, and that makes him do it even more.! what should i do when he does this?? thank u SSSSOOOO MMUUCCHH!!!!!

2007-11-03 08:25:40 · 4 answers · asked by Ashley 2 in Singles & Dating

when scool first started 10weeks ago me and this girl seemed to have a problem of glancing at eachother for quick seconds.then the next day we got lost bout where we was suposed to go,wen i asked her she aint no either and and kept standin on the wall.wen i asked sombody where to go and i left she followed me and as we walkin she ran her hand across the bac of my neck and said where we goin shane, then wen we got bac in class we was kinda glancin at eachother mor but make sur we didnt seeeachother,after school she went out of her way jus to say "u had me lookin pretty dumb in class" in a jokin way but i didnt realy say much then the next day i jus asked her wher her locker at she showed me wit out a problem.i sat behind her oneday and she turnedin her seat sideways and pulled out a drawing from first period that she didnt need to work on and pretended to draw on it as if she wanted me to take it out of her hands and say somthin.and she knew my name before alot of other people did.

2007-11-03 08:25:15 · 17 answers · asked by whoknowsy 1 in Singles & Dating

My husband wants to see his friends over doing thing w/ our family is this the way it is in every mariage? We dont see him much b/c he works but I would like to have 1 day where it is just us and our kids am I a bad wife for being upset he chooses hunting w/ his friends on his days off over us? I do believe he deserves a day off and to have him time so dont think I am trying to make him choose frinds over me I am not.

2007-11-03 08:24:36 · 16 answers · asked by hotmoma1 1 in Marriage & Divorce