I had a conversation with a old friend today about dating Men & Women alike?

Question

Why is it that there is no repsect today in relationships I hear so many stories that men & women alike take the chance with another and break up because one cheats is selfish etc..men and women alike do not value their bodies etc..Everything is too easy to get! What happened to good values between the sexes? Why is it the people both man and woman that are gentleman and ladies get taken advantage today!? I still believe in the foundation of love and trust & respect in relationships..Why can't we foster this attitude today?

Answer 1

im honestly not sure why...but love is the most mysterious of all mysteries of the heart, i guess. its not that they dont have respect..i guess love would always find a place where it truly belongs... i believe that it is because of love that people commit the most bizarre things or even the most painful things....for pain and love runs on the same line..sometimes i cannot help but think or wish that all of us are born knowing who will we love when the right time comes, in that way we could save one from heartaches and we could prevent our hearts from saying the statements like..it could have been....or how i wish.....

Answer 2

This is what i can say: most of it has to do with society,the new morals,rules taught,what we see on TV,how far we push the boundaries ,learning that sex appeal works and so does seduction.Most women and men get fed up in a relationship which is going nowhere only to cheat on their partner to get a rush.Once that is said,done,relationships fall apart because of actions or otherwise because it just is not working many peple do not know how to cope except with trying to move on really fast.That includes rebounds,meeting someone at a bar and making out with them,getting drunk and sleeping with someone.We see cases where girls are trying to look more like porn stars with larger breasts and such and videos like Girls Gone Wild which I have see the commercial for like 5 times in 3 hours yet changed the channel yet even so that made me sick.That is what today's society has degraded to:sex,sex, sex and getting wasted!Most people do not care how many people they sleep with,if it is a relationship, one night stand,a booty call or whatever else it may be as long as it is getting some. Many people unlike me have slept around with more than one partner and I might be a rare case yet I find it that the more partners one has the more it seems as though they treat them like candy or an ice cream flavor that once they get tired of they move on.Many people in today's society unlike when my parents or grandparents were my age have different ideas:then it was no premarital sex and now everyone does it as though it is nothing unusual.Then a girl could not have a boy in his room and now she can yet in my case when my bf is over at my house he can neither spend the night or come in my room since my parents disagree with that.What I guess happened is that people are happier with their sexuality yet maybe do not make the best decisions and are influenced my many factors.Many consider themselves good christians such as some of my friends who go to church, pray, sing and do whatever yet when they step out of the church they cuss, have sex and do the opposite of what they were taught.People get taken advantage of because they can be taken advantage of: a guy knows a girls weakness and vice versa.Especially when a girl or guy are needy what will they do?Most likely turn to an ex or have a one night stand.Some people might be naive yet most like the thrill of sex and excitement that they might miss when not in a relationship.In my opinion my relationship is based on trust,truth/honesty,respect as you have mentioned and not taking advantage of each other none the less giving into temptation.

Answer 3

We live in a very indulgent age, where people get too much into satisfying their desires. It takes a lot of work to truly undestand another person, their problem and their talents etc. It can be very valuable, to have a good relationship in ones life, but you have to choose carefully, and then nuture what you have. But you better find someone, who will do their part also. Like attract like in this world, so if you are heavy into self improvement, you should attract more of that type of man into your life. Check out people in regard to their attitudes, and find those who have a positive, but reasonable approach torward life to associate with.

Answer 4

Back when I was dating and got married we didnt have what we got today the internet. The internet has destroyed what we had back then..We didnt have this taking advantage of stuff when I was younger its now that i have gotten older that I see it more and more. Ladies and guys are easy to get just mainly for sex and its so easy to find it on the one eyed monster. Love and respect is out there but you got to dig around till you find it. That's how I see it now.

Answer 5

Self respect values, morals, have vanished,
"We do not demand respect, we command respect."
Our world has always had, double messages and double
standards, Since the late 1960's we have been on a SLOW,
erosion of breakdown of morals and virtues, women bought
into it as a freedom!! "Freedom isn't free." they gave away
their self respect, to be equal to men when it comes to sex,
is an illusion, "Woman have sex to love-Men love to have sex." In this era it is more about Lust then Love, It sells because youth unaware buy into it. as it is spread as the thing
to do. from every direction one turns, It saddens me, and people of my age to watch the destruction it brings to much too many, it has become another type of cancer. Blessings

Answer 6

Free love and the "pill" changed alot of that... it made both women and men think about sex more freely and "without fear"

society is different today in the sense that "sex sells" and excuses are abundant

Answer 7

Selfishness and greed. Many people today think only of themselves. Even when they find some one that is good for them and righteous, too; they think they can find something better for themselves.

Answer 8

People who do not have any Morals are the ones who do not take into consideration, of the feelings of others.