When you picked your partners in life what were their characters?

Question

Another words if you have had lasting relationships with another what was it that kept you both together going strong in the relationship?

Answer 1

I think that character should be the most important factor in picking a life partner. I'm saying that in retrospect. LOL I mean, have you ever heard a woman say, "Look at the character on that guy!" or, "He has such dreamy character".

I married because in my day and place it was expected, and stayed married until I became a widow, 28 years later. I stayed married, mainly out of stubbornness. I don't recommend stubbornness as a reason to maintain a relationship.

My parents were married for over 50 years and my father on his death bed asked my mother if she believed in reincarnation. She replied that she didn't know. He said that he didn't either, but if it did exist, he would wait for her and hoped to marry her again. She accepted his proposal. :-)

Their marriage was based on mutual respect. He thought she was brilliant and completely trustworthy. She thought she'd hit that jackpot in marrying a man who was such a good person. Their admiration for each other was obvious to everyone. Based on those observations, I'd say that respect and trust are what bind people together in a successful relationship.

Answer 2

When you are young and in Love, you do not find any fault your Boyfriend has,I guess is true what they say that Love, is blind. I felt that way about my Husband, he had some faults, for starters he was not the caring kind, and also, I had noticed that he had to win any argument we had, so I always was a very submissive Person. But you get used to that ,and then it is like a duty, I had to abide. Other than that when we got Married, he always was a very responible Husband and Parent to our Kids as they were growing up. But when we celebrated our 35th. Anniversary,I told him that from this day, on I am my own person, and I was not going to be at his beck and call, I had some dignity, and I wanted some breathing space for me, Boy! was that a big surprise I gave him, that he was speechless, but after a while we had a long talk and he told me why, didn't I say something about it before, why untill now, after all those Years, I said I did not want to disrupt the family atmosphere,for our Kids, from then on our situation changed for the better, we now have a great relationship, better than when we were Girlfriend, and Boyfriend. But now when I think about it, what took me so long to mend that fence that was breaking. But all's well that ends well. That to me was a Learning Experience.

Answer 3

Rena:

Almost all of my lovers have a Strong
Sense Of Self! Insecurity is a real
turn-off for most men. Maturity goes a
Long Way! Psychological Balance is a
Real Plus! Emotional Imbalance drives
men Crazy! Most of my women have
Interests & are highly Educated.

I try & seek out women who are NOT
so Selfish! People who wish to Help
Others & Volunteer their time for those
who are less fortunate. That is the True
Criteria for a person of Character. Being
sensative to others. A loving & considerate
Character goes a LONG Way! A positive
mental attitude is critical for the success
of a relationship. Effective Communication
is Key also.

Does the above help you?

Most men are pretty shallow!
Many are HAPPY just to have a Tender
Lover to satisfy their physical needs &
to sustain a healthy relationship

Answer 4

Being a good listener and patience! When sex is in the way too much, it's kinda blinding, but I keep my head on my shoulders and can have sex and love. What traits of character I really dig are intelligence; able to talk about anything and appreciate the other .I'm easy going, very seldom have anger, I like a good sense of humor, even to sarcasism!!! This makes the relationship more interesting! I try to be nurturing too. I usually get back pretty much what I give. Thanks Rena.

Answer 5

Well, even though my guy and I do not know what is going to happen we love to fall asleep and wake up next to the other person: we are in a erious relationship not married!.We surprise each other with a nice dinner on the top of these stairs at our college that overlooks everything and watching the sun go down or trying new things:him power yoga with me and me to try paintballing with him.What keeps the relationship together is the strong bond that was formed through good,hard and intense times which tested us such as me being rushed to the ER when I had seizures twice within the last 7 weeks or so.What has kept our relationship so strong together is us doing our best,trying to surprise each other,learn about each other and cutting the other person slack.We had to learn how to go through our many firsts such as living on our own,transferring from a commnunity college to a university, together helping each other in Calc and Pre-cal class as well as never giving up on each other.We do things together yet we also things apart: he has times with his friends and me with mine which is good because we do not get on each other's nerves as well as being busy with studies to be too busy to argue about anything and everything.I call my relationship lasting up until now, we take it one day at a time and both of us are each other's best friend and the person we confide in as well yet we do not dump what problems we have on the other person.

Answer 6

"A" life time partner of 45 years 'til death.
Love is a commitment, from the begining to the end for better
or worse, and one usually gets more of the better as a total,
True love is the glue, respect and loyality for one another, give
and take !00% both ways, wanting the best for each other,
caring, sharing, thoughtfulness, forgivness, best friends.
working through the kinks along the way, never giving up on one another. a journey of victory inspite of one another's warts.----Love is the glue-------

Answer 7

Well, not all of them were for life. But they all taught me much and we all shared joy. What attracted me was always a slightly wicked sense of humor and wit without viciousness ... some experience different from my own ... personal independence and both physical and mental courage (which sometimes needed encouragement) ... curiosity ... a certain talent for lasciviousness (again sometimes requiring encouragement!) ... and a disposition to pursue interests or activities wholeheartedly, preferably more than one, and not any narrow religious devotion. So I got it wrong once or twice -- but what a trip it's been! And now I'm in good harbor, thanks to what the voyage taught me.

Answer 8

We were quite raw at the time of start of our relationship.
Honesty and mutual respect has kept us together for
so long.

Answer 9

Um...mine's still fairly new. But we make each other smile. We do talk, discover commonalities as we talk. We're still getting to know each other. IT's still lasting because we're still in love. Hopefully we'll have love when the in part fades, and that's what'll keep us from going stale and being thrown out.

Answer 10

Mine was really loving and sweet till he had a wedding ring on my finger, Then he became a monster.
13 years i was married to the ogre, glad I'm divorcing him now
xxx