Family & Relationships - 28 October 2007

I met this girl at college. After the first date, she sent me a message saying she really enjoyed it and wanted to do it again.

After second date, she messaged me saying "she was really excited about our date. and i had certain qualities, which she admires a lot..... she could not wait to see me again".

I planned a longer third date.... on which she told me she was having some trouble with her ex-boyfriend, who hassled her a bit at the bar. she still has some sympathy for him because he is having a hard time "letting go of her".
then as we were sitting together on a bench on the riverside, i made an attempt to kiss her....... she pushed me away lightly, and said " i dont think so, it is too early, i just got out of a relationship".

I was confused.
I sent her an email the next day........ "apologizing for trying to kiss her, and advised her that if her boyfriend still makes her happy, she should work things out with him."

BUT, problem=I still like her.... advice?

2007-10-28 17:47:37 · 14 answers · asked by average_joe 1 in Singles & Dating

Ive been marrried twice to two of the most understanding,
woman I new , I thought,.I admit I am a J>O>B minded person if it needs done I will drop and do . My failures are known to me I dont do the same at home . I am or I was a provider ... There wasnt much ,but what there was we made it work.
I have four children and I would like to say they have great heads on there shoulders . They know the value of money "of couse they still want more " as we all do . I would like to no how to meet a woman who isnt scared of a little and I mean little work . A woman who can trust in the future of her man. A woman that will stand beside ,and follow if need be. How in this day and age can I find a woman like this ? where do I go ?

2007-10-28 17:46:36 · 1 answers · asked by 1spartan 1 in Singles & Dating

I'm 17, I suffer from social anxiety, I only have 1 friend. I think I'm attractive, so I know that's not the problem. I know if I had more friends it would be easier to find a girl but it's extremely difficult for me to make any new ones at school. I just got a new job, I work with tons of girls there, I talk to all of them, but every single one of them is in a relationship. It seems like every girl is taken. Getting a girl from school is out of the question, I mean I can't even talk to guys... I think of myself as the nicest guy, I have a sense of humor, I listen, I would cherish any girl, I just need them to give me a chance. I've lost hope, started contemplating suicide because I'm sick of living lonely. What do you suggest I do? I can't just start going to school and become social again.

2007-10-28 17:45:22 · 9 answers · asked by Mike 3 in Singles & Dating

1. DON'T FORCE HER TO DO ANYTHING.
[She won't trust you if you do & it'll be awkward]

2. Grab her hand when you walk next to each other.
[She always gets butterflies when you do it; it makes her feel like you want her]

3. When standing, wrap your arms around her.
[It makes her feel like you really love her.]

4. Cuddle with her.
[She'll feel like your there for her]

5. Hug her from behind
[It makes her feel special]

6. Write little notes.
[She smiles. They're cute; The end]

7. Compliment her Honestly.
[No girl likes a liar and no girl likes a person who lies about it when you compliment her]

8. When you hug her, hold her in your arms as long as possible.
[It makes her feel wanted]

9. Be super sweet to her. = )
[All girls like a super sweet guy]

10. Call her at night to wish her sweet dreams.
[She'll go to bed with a smile]

11. Comfort her when she cries.
[She'll feel like you'll be there for her]

are these good ways to keep a woman happy?

2007-10-28 17:45:08 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok here’s the thing, right now I'm in college, I've been single for my entire life I've never had a girl say yes to going out on a date with me. I keep on being described as being the "nice guy" that any girl would be luck to have, let all I have to do is be patient. But yet all around me is people who will go with a guy that treats them like cr**, and come to me for help. I just don't understand why girls don't want me as a boyfriend when they choose the jacka**that break their hearts and go to the nice guy to tell him all about it. And all you do is keep going back to the same kind of guy and get your heart broke again.
Why the hell do girls think they can change an abusive jerk?
Why the hell should I have to wait until I'm 30 or 40 before I’m desirable.
Why do girls think I want love right now?
Why the fu** are you surprised when the nice guy finally tells you, “well you choose to date him, again, what did you expect?

please don't tell me that nice guys win in the end, why not now

2007-10-28 17:41:43 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok
to start off im just saying im 14 years old and HAVENT had a first kiss yet
and ive been dating this girl for 1 months and were really into each other
when is the best moment to make the move on her for our first kiss??????
PS i can REALLY tell she wants it too because shes been hinting at it for a while

2007-10-28 17:41:38 · 3 answers · asked by C C 1 in Singles & Dating

ok, i live in dorms and this boy i like (and i think he likes me too) lives on the same floor as me just a couple of doors down. he won't let me into his room, he says that it's messy and that's why he doesn't want me to see it, but he still hasn't cleaned it, it's been a week. so why does he really not want me to see his room? does this mean he actually doesn't like me?

2007-10-28 17:39:45 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Me and the person Im in a relationsip with made a pact to tell all. If anyone approaches us or tries to "holla" at us, we are to tell the other. We even go so far as to admit temptations and thoughts. Are these grounds for a thriving, healthy relationship or is this something that will eventually hinder us.

2007-10-28 17:38:55 · 4 answers · asked by Zon B 3 in Singles & Dating

well i am really stressed right now at scholl my friends talk to me but they quarrel with me like kids and bully me i just dont know wat to do. At my home my sis does not like me but i like her i always like helpinh her but she just doesnt unerstand me..............but i think with the help og you guys i can sort this out wat can i do wen all this happens i'm really bored can you tell me some things to do cause its boring being stuck in my bedroom and i'm also being punished for a reason that i simply cant understand and perhaps i dont think so that a discussion would help coz i would not like to share my sorrows with anyone but you please help me???????????
i really have nothing to do and besides i also cant go out with friends coz from where i stay they live far away............the only thing that i can do is surf the net which sometimes is really a boring thing to do.....so i just need your help.

2007-10-28 17:37:11 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

would it be really cool if your boyfriend sent some candy or baked stuff and a card telling you that he loves you, and he sends it to your school how would that make you feel? would you know that he really loves you even if he just gave you a card? or would you rather want to get goodies and a card?

2007-10-28 17:36:36 · 6 answers · asked by DancingInTheMoonlight 2 in Singles & Dating

I have backpacked my way extensivley through Europe, the America's and Asia pacific (am yet to do Africa). I have had relations with many different girls, but I seem to be infactuated with the australian women.
They are just so natural beautiful, charming, funny, their like your best friend and can go surfing or crack a joke and still look gorgeous! (and their skin is really smooth)
What are other peoples expeiences with aussie women?
Is this what most aussie women are like (without generalising) or am I on a winning streak.
Cheers guys.

2007-10-28 17:34:37 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

he knows im feeling down since last week. i almost had a nervous breakdown and unluckily he had nonstop family reunions etc....then he had his kids this weekend and we cant really spend enough time to chat with me coz by the time he has some time he is either very very tired.yesterday he told me he will be online after he brought hs kids home but end up texting me to say he needs to visit his niece but promised to be here today. today he texted to say some friends invited him to dinner and he accepted..unluckily again my ex took my kids and im feeling so down then my mum outlaw called me up and end up crying on the phone asking why i didnt go with my kids to visit them....i have a very special relationship with my outlaws...anyway my bf wont be here again today coz he needs to attend some dinner and im grr with him coz everytime i need him he is not available and he knows im feeling so down too coz i already texted him about what happened to me today.....

2007-10-28 17:29:03 · 15 answers · asked by silly me 2 in Singles & Dating

a girl and also friendship with three other girls. He says its friendship but it goes beyond their limits. He used to send them money and anything they want. BUT HE ALWAYS SAYS THAT HE LOVES ME MORE THAN THEM. Since he lost his mom he felt alone and maintained close relations with them. After our marriage it took me 1 year to completely get rid of their problem. I changed his phone number and our home and everything. I took his passwords and used to check his mails very often.This went for another year nothing happened so I started trusting him. But few months ago he found a girl who was one of his so called friends contact number somewhere and called her. Everytime when I ask him about these things he says I am sorry.I didnt mean to hurt you I wont repeat this..but he does it again. He stays more time on phone on computer he never likes to spend his time with me. I need to remind him that I am still alive and I need him..I am feeling insecured and lonely...what to do

2007-10-28 17:25:28 · 20 answers · asked by New Mom 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-28 17:20:33 · 19 answers · asked by Kathy D 1 in Marriage & Divorce

do you find an ice queen who is mysterious hot or not

2007-10-28 17:18:47 · 1 answers · asked by newsatin 1 in Singles & Dating

My husband is not very affectionate. He never holds my hand or puts his arm around me. No passionate kisses. I do love him and he does love me. I have told him over and over through the years about how I so much want romance and communication. He will not put his work schedule on the callendar. Therefore I feel frustration for not knowing his weekly working hours. He does not comply. Do you have any suggestions to get my husband to be more open with me? We have been married for 13 years and it has always been this way. I get so tired of being lonely. Any suggestion as to how to spark more openness?

2007-10-28 17:15:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-28 17:13:34 · 22 answers · asked by Fancy You 6 in Singles & Dating

I do think it was a good decision, he didnt obide by the judge, getting a job straightening himself out, staying away from drugs. he was smoking marijuana, which indeed is a drug. but I am having trouble with myself dealing with him there. feeling down alot and trying to cope with the rest of my family needs.. does anyone go to any groups that might help me?. I live n buffalo NY. thanks for your time.. he is sentenced for 4 months the holidays will be hard for us and his girlfriend because of his not thinking.. thanks for listening

2007-10-28 17:12:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

why do so many pretty girls who generally are teenagers have low esteem and make bad decisions about trying to convince ppl that bad boys are good, are dressing sluttier will only attract sleeze bags and treating guys who r nice to them like crap...i really dun get it

2007-10-28 17:11:03 · 15 answers · asked by Just Ask 1 in Singles & Dating

So like 3 weeks ago I met this guy who lives like 2 doors down from me. We've hung out three times. Just playing video games (gutiar hero which just happened to be set up in his room.)

Today as we were passing in our cars, he stops, rolls down his window and strats talking to me. for only a few seconds and I saw on facebook that his birthday was monday so i asked him "how we were celebrating" and he was just like "what any guy would do to celbrate their 20th" then I replied "how is that?" and he said he didn't know.

But the conversation didn't really feel the same as it did in the begining when I got the feeling he was interested. Plus I hadn't heard from him in like 5 days up to that point.

what do you think? he's lost interest?

2007-10-28 17:00:08 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Alright fellas: what do you like a girl to do to get you "in the mood"?

2007-10-28 16:59:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

was married 25 yrs and was awarded a %of his retirement

2007-10-28 16:59:02 · 11 answers · asked by tgs 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I live in Gympie and he lives in Kilcoy. And he is with a sixteen year old. That I don't trust mind you.

2007-10-28 16:57:43 · 5 answers · asked by Jazzy Angel 1 in Family

My biggest dream is to become a pastry chef, not a glamorous one, just a happy semi-successful pastry chef. I love to make desserts, its like art and it makes me and others SO happy. I make cakes from home for fun. But the problem is my parents have always viewed me as the "smart kid" the one with a "good future." When i told them i was leaning away from psychology and toward baking, they nearly passed out. But what confuses me is they've always taught me to do what makes me happy, not rich. I live in the central valley CA so theres not much opportunity for a pastry chef. But i want it so bad, i want to get started while im young and can always change my mind. How do i convince my parents how serious i am? And where do i get my foot in the door to begin with??? Tech schools costs 10s of 1000s of dollars, i cant do that.

2007-10-28 16:56:56 · 23 answers · asked by ana 1 in Family

There this guy that I first of all never would have thought I would have fallen for because he’s not my type of guy or I would have any interest in, he’s more of an average Joe, I usually go for the pretty boys or the bad boys. As for me, people would say I look like beyonce (face features) with a Jessica Alba body, I’m not conceited or anything but I feel like there something about this guy. I got to know him for two years now and every time I see him I just get this feeling in my stomach and I don’t know why I feel this way about him, and I notice him staring sometimes when I walk by his office or when I come in to work but it doesn’t bother me because I like him. But I know he won’t make the first move because he’s my manager. Everyday when I would come to work it would look like he was happy to see me and usually he isn’t like that with other employees, and sometimes there would be a little flirting going on but not too much because there
would be others around and there’s that sexual harassment thing but I would never write him up for that. But I’m not sure why I feel this way, I think it’s because I’m single right now and he’s single also, I’m twenty-one and he’s twenty-nine, recently I just quit my job and I can’t stop thinking about him. I use to work at a sporting store and I felt like I was doing a two persons job or maybe even three and the pay wasn’t cutting it, besides people would quit and that would make it hard for us employees because we had to work out a schedule but that’s besides the point. I’m not sure what I should do, since I quit which was about a month ago, I can’t stop thinking about him, and wondering if I should go to the store for a visit sometime and see my coworkers but really its to see him, but on my last day my manager walk me out and I notice that he never did that with the other
employees who left, he walk me out all the way (outside) the building,and we said our goodbyes and he said he’s going to really miss me, and gave me a hug which was a long one and then I left but I’m wondering if I should stop by the store for a visit or just let it go and move on. Can you help me out and give me some suggestions???????? Or maybe the reason he didn't want to make a move was maybe he thought I would reject him or maybe it was because he was my boss I don't know maybe that or something else. If I did go back to the store to see him, do you think he'll be happy to see me?

2007-10-28 16:55:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My hubby and I really want to have a threesome! We have a great marriage & are very happy. I am a very sexual person and this is something I have always wanted. I am not very jealous at all. I know I would be fine with all that stuff that most women would get hung up on, i'm so not like most women. I am in fact the one that brought it up. I have been in a threesome before but wasn’t in a relationship and I loved it but we didnt have sex. Yes it would be FMF. So my question is have you done it? What did you think? And the big one! How did you find someone!! That’s been the hard part for me.

2007-10-28 16:52:46 · 20 answers · asked by sullie812 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-28 16:49:55 · 9 answers · asked by kedrick g 5 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-28 16:49:03 · 9 answers · asked by kedrick g 5 in Singles & Dating

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2007-10-28 16:48:07 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have a stepdad who is very abusive to our family, he is controlling and nasty, and is impossible to live with. He is even nasty to his full blood children. My mum cannot cope either with how abusive he is, infact our whole family have some sort of depression and are desperate to get away from him. The thing is my mum thinks there is a slim chance of making things work and is also scared to live on her own. She has been seeing a phycologist too, but not long ago the phsycologist said she has to leave cause she is getting too depressed living with a husband she doesnt love, and if she gets too depressed they may have to send all us kids to foster homes cause she cant look after us.
Mum is finding it hard to be able to leave, also my stepdad isnt coping well either with it all. Im worried about him too cause he said he would commit suicide if she left cause shes the only person he has in his life. Im worried about what will happen to every1 and i dont know what to do. Can anyone help?

2007-10-28 16:47:42 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce