My husband is not very affectionate. He never holds my hand or puts his arm around me. No passionate kisses. I do love him and he does love me. I have told him over and over through the years about how I so much want romance and communication. He will not put his work schedule on the callendar. Therefore I feel frustration for not knowing his weekly working hours. He does not comply. Do you have any suggestions to get my husband to be more open with me? We have been married for 13 years and it has always been this way. I get so tired of being lonely. Any suggestion as to how to spark more openness?
2007-10-28 17:15:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I could almost write a book on this one. My job was important to me and I saw it as a means to a better life for my wife and daughter. She put up with the isolation for a while and then started asking for more attention and affection. I was under the illusion that providing for a family was demonstrating love and affection and I thought she was nagging but she didn't see it that way. My career and her schedule didn't mesh and on the few times we could get together there was too much pressure to perform and I had problems with impotence and ED. She found her comfort in the arms of somebody else and my job performance suffered and I ended up losing the job also. Communication is paramount in a relationship and I hope you don't have to go through what we did.
2007-10-28 18:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 13 years I don't think that you are going to get it through his thick head. I would not sit at home and be lonely. Go out with friends, take a class, volunteer, join a gym,anything. Do not sit at home and wait on him and stress yourself out. Maybe when he sees that you are not at his beck and call he will realize what you need. Good luck.
2007-10-28 17:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he has always been this way then you fell in love with him as he is. If your needs are changing and you want more romance and communication then be as clear as possible in your talks with him. If he chooses not to try and meet your needs, you have a decision to make. Stay and find other hobbies and interests that fulfill you or go and start a new life elsewhere.
2007-10-28 18:10:40 · answer #3 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a comfortable relationship he feels you you should know after 13yrs and he takes it for granted so you need to talk to each other are get some counciling alot of couples fall in this routine after so many years so its normal but it will take work to change from both of you its a partnership.
2007-10-28 17:25:59 · answer #4 · answered by twinkle2twinkle 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Me too! But I'm single.My ex wife was the same way but she was always out cheating was why I never knew where she was.Good luck.
2007-10-28 17:28:27 · answer #5 · answered by notagain49 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I await your answers to this question, as i seem to have a very similar marriage. Good luck to us both. : )
2007-10-28 17:48:07 · answer #6 · answered by Just G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, but it is not going to change.
2007-10-28 17:58:43 · answer #7 · answered by Hubby . 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The honeymoon is over. Young getting old. Everyday steak not still taste good. Even life , has death.
2007-10-28 17:38:21 · answer #8 · answered by Seph2 5 · 0⤊ 5⤋