well i am really stressed right now at scholl my friends talk to me but they quarrel with me like kids and bully me i just dont know wat to do. At my home my sis does not like me but i like her i always like helpinh her but she just doesnt unerstand me..............but i think with the help og you guys i can sort this out wat can i do wen all this happens i'm really bored can you tell me some things to do cause its boring being stuck in my bedroom and i'm also being punished for a reason that i simply cant understand and perhaps i dont think so that a discussion would help coz i would not like to share my sorrows with anyone but you please help me???????????
i really have nothing to do and besides i also cant go out with friends coz from where i stay they live far away............the only thing that i can do is surf the net which sometimes is really a boring thing to do.....so i just need your help.
2007-10-28 17:37:11 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
NaT,
If you are being punished, you need to think about how someone else could see your behavior. Then you need to make a plan for how you will meet the expectations of your parents, then do that. Your parents have removed you from your friends and family so you can think about what caused this. Finding things other than what you were sent to do is not the point.
As for your school friends, don't complain to them. Instead, notice when they are down, and find a way to cheer them up. When you see them, don't wait for them to say "hello!" to you, instead, greet them first. And smile at everyone. It's hard to do these things, but they will make you feel even better than your friends.
Smiling is one the best things you can do to feel better. It goes from the outside to the inside.
If you need someone to talk to about your problems, find a counselor or teacher you can speak to in private, or ask your parents to send you to a counselor. It really helps to talk to someone who understands you.
2007-10-28 18:18:08 · answer #1 · answered by Jeanne B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your 'friends' at school aren't your friends. Ignore them. Find new friends. As far as your sister is concerned, you're stuck. You can pick your friends but not your family. But why help someone who doesn't like you? If she wants your help, she'll ask for it. Nothing to do? Go for a walk. I don't live in a small town, but I don't live in a big city either. When I get bored I read, go for a walk, ride my bike somewhere, anything. Walking is my favorite because it gets me out of the house and I sometimes meet people. I always say 'good morning' or 'afternoon' when I pass people on the sidewalk. Sometimes they return the greeting, sometimes they ignore me, and sometimes they stop and chat. The most important thing for me is to get outside, away from the computer, away from the TV, away from everything that's around me all the time. I work. That helps - I've got something to do 40 hours a week. School is like work. You've got to be there, so make it an important part of your life. Study. Read ahead. Take extra classes. Shoot for straight A's. Be proud of yourself and your accomplishments. Ignore what other people think. You are the most important person in your life. No one else can make you successful or happy.
2007-10-28 17:58:28 · answer #2 · answered by Christopher C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well Nat, Hi I am Debbie. I too used to be so bored. But then a person I met took me to her church. I don't know how old you are, but today's church's have great programs for kids. The good part is your parent's don't have to go, but, yes they should know where you are at all times. Some, even send buses to pick you up. And all the kids there, even though they are just like your friends and sis and you and me, they are taught to love one another. Also I journal. I write to my Father in heaven and tell him everything that is wrong. I ask Him to fix it. He Say's he will never leave you nor forsake you. He loves you more than your own parents ever could. Look that stuff up on the computer, find a place near you and join in on the fun of getting to know the most wonderful person in the world. Hope that helps. It did for me.
2007-10-28 17:52:44 · answer #3 · answered by Debbie S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
View your situation like you have an incredible opportunity here to really work on yourself. What are your goals in life? Where do you want to be in 5 years time? Write it all down. If you develop a deep inner strength now, the results will pay off in the future. It sounds like you have some relationship karma with your friends and your sister. First, look at your own actions, and how you react to others. Is there anything you could change? Try different approaches.
2007-10-28 17:44:06 · answer #4 · answered by Mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try making some new friends. Friends dont bully friends. Maybe you are a bit more mature than them and thats why some people dont understand you. Your sister may be at an age that she doesnt really like anyone, especialy someone she is stuck living with. Dont take it personally.
2007-10-28 17:45:28 · answer #5 · answered by T I 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you really need to go somewhere by yourself and have a alone time and have fun go out go shopping..go do something you like to do...have fun..and for your friends ask them what is wrong with them be open and for your sister ask her why she doesnt like you..ask her questions about what you did wrong..being stuck in your bedroom all the time can be boring and surfing the net gets boring always so that why you have to go out have fun and enjoy time!
2007-10-28 17:44:52 · answer #6 · answered by Shorty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
run away...sounds like your a little crybaby...so just go
2007-10-28 17:40:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋