ok here’s the thing, right now I'm in college, I've been single for my entire life I've never had a girl say yes to going out on a date with me. I keep on being described as being the "nice guy" that any girl would be luck to have, let all I have to do is be patient. But yet all around me is people who will go with a guy that treats them like cr**, and come to me for help. I just don't understand why girls don't want me as a boyfriend when they choose the jacka**that break their hearts and go to the nice guy to tell him all about it. And all you do is keep going back to the same kind of guy and get your heart broke again.
Why the hell do girls think they can change an abusive jerk?
Why the hell should I have to wait until I'm 30 or 40 before I’m desirable.
Why do girls think I want love right now?
Why the fu** are you surprised when the nice guy finally tells you, “well you choose to date him, again, what did you expect?
please don't tell me that nice guys win in the end, why not now
2007-10-28 17:41:43 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Cause nice guys are *******, haha. Actually it's because the asshole feeds them rejection. They know you'll always be there for them and they can always have you. I'm sorry, but I don't agree with your statement that assholes are the only ones that get girls. That's just plain wrong, girls don't like cocky assholes, it actually turns them off. An asshole can insult a girl and treat her like a whore and any respectable girl won't take that treatment. But what nice guys don't do is feed girls any rejection. You can still be a good guy and not insult or treat a girl poorly and feed her rejection. A lot of nice guys give into a girl's looks or tell her she is beautiful, she knows that, she is told that all the time by nice guys identical to you, it doesn't matter if she hears it from you. But if you tell her, ok, yeah, you are good looking, but that's not enough, you have to be a good person to hang out with or to have fun with. And yes, it does require you to tease her a little bit or even put her down, but she won't like it if you are just plain mean. Let her know that she has some flaws either in her personality or looks, but there are certain things you can get away with without it being cruel. You can poke fun at how she snorts when she laughs or tell her that something that she is wearing doesn't really work with her outfit or doesn't really work for you. You can tell her that she was a little cruel or bitchy to a friend and that just wasn't cool. As long as you let her know that she isn't perfect. But when a guy does this he is more respectable in her eyes, it send her the message that hey, you can't do whatever you want and walk all over me because I'm more valuable than that. You aren't controlled by her beauty and you won't be the guy that's always there for her. When she realizes this she will be more attracted to you. It's just that nice guys don't do this, they just keep taking it from the girl because they are controlled by her beauty or whatever. She is basically the puppet master. She can **** with their hearts as much as she wants, she can date all these other assholes and the nice guys will still be there. It's not just this way with nice guys, but also with girls. I've had instances where I wasn't really interested in a girl in a girl who was really into me and I knew she was. She was attractive, but I knew that at any time I could make up my mind and I would have her. So I never really did anything with her and I went and hooked up with other girls. But then she moved away got a boyfriend and I couldn't have her. And all of a sudden I wanted her. Do you ever notice that a girl you might've thought was a little attractive all of a sudden becomes absolutely beautiful once you can't have them? So there is your answer, you want what isn't easy to obtain.
2007-10-28 18:07:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't seem to want you as a b/f because you've cornered yourself as the safe guy they can go to when their boyfriends are being *****. Ever seen Swingers? Don't be afraid to be a little rated R. Don't take this as being suggested to be an asshole either though. You may want to consider who you're looking to for potential girl friends, and keep in mind that there's a difference between cocky and confident, which is what us nice guys confuse as the same.
2007-10-28 17:51:59 · answer #2 · answered by smash979 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it may seem that way, but it's not true! I have one of the 'nice guys', as do most of my friends, and we're in our early 20s! I guarantee you that there are girls out there thinking the same thing about nice girls coming in last! (I used to be one of them!) Just keep trying to meet new people--you'll find her! :)
2007-10-28 17:53:23 · answer #3 · answered by JenAg06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it worked then everyone would be a nice guy.
you can only be young and stupid once
girl want a prize not a freebie
nice guys are usually boring
in the end all guys want the same thing and supisingly bad boys are more honest when it comes to that.
2007-10-28 17:48:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice guys finish last, because they allow others to walk all over them. And this isn't limited to just girls. It's parents, teachers, bullys, and GIRLS!!!
There are only two types of girls. Girls you've slept with and girls you haven't. Maybe this attitude is extreme, but it will break you of the nice guy mantra.
2007-10-28 17:49:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
guys and girls are like a plate of chips. when you're inexperienced.....the broken ones get eaten first and the nice perfect unbroken chips sit there waiting to be savoured.
then just before you go and grab for that one last perfect chip sitting on the plate....someone smart walks by and grabs it!!!!
someone is out there waiting you grab you!! peace
2007-10-28 17:48:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YO
2017-03-09 15:00:50 · answer #7 · answered by johnson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋