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I'm 17, I suffer from social anxiety, I only have 1 friend. I think I'm attractive, so I know that's not the problem. I know if I had more friends it would be easier to find a girl but it's extremely difficult for me to make any new ones at school. I just got a new job, I work with tons of girls there, I talk to all of them, but every single one of them is in a relationship. It seems like every girl is taken. Getting a girl from school is out of the question, I mean I can't even talk to guys... I think of myself as the nicest guy, I have a sense of humor, I listen, I would cherish any girl, I just need them to give me a chance. I've lost hope, started contemplating suicide because I'm sick of living lonely. What do you suggest I do? I can't just start going to school and become social again.

2007-10-28 17:45:22 · 9 answers · asked by Mike 3 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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you're only 17, you are worried now? I'll give you a tip. The older you get the easier it is to talk to women. you hit a point when you find that they don't bite, well some of them do. You have the perfect job to end your anxiety around girls. You can learn by just conversing with ones you work with. if nothing else tell one that you are able to talk to and explain your problem. I had a wonderful girl who showed me it is not difficult to get over this. I especially liked how she let me move along at my own pace. after a while I could talk
to girls that I had been afraid of being in the same room with. So use your job to get over this anxiety, you have a long time before you will want to give up. Just between you and me, girls are worth the work, the anxiety, and you can do this.

2007-10-28 18:09:07 · answer #1 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0 0

relax i'm 21 and have never been in a relationship and i'm still alive. I know sometimes you feel lonely but people will be more attracted to you as a friend or girlriend if you are feeling happy and confident so the best thing to do is keep smiling and talking to the girls you know and when the time is right you will find a g/f and remember people break up all the time so if you are close to some of the girls who are in relationships they might break up with their b/f and then you will be in a with a shot and can make a move
good luck and remember suicide is a permanent soloution to a temporary problem!!!!!! good luck

2007-10-29 00:53:37 · answer #2 · answered by Emma B 2 · 0 0

I'm also 17 and have few friends. All I can say is don't kill yourself. Life might get better for you but if you kill yourself, then you'll never find out if it will. That's the very thing that keeps me going. As for the girls, most high school girls are pure evil. they don't appreciate a good guy. they just want to run off with some jock or player and then get done wrong and blame all men for their hurt. The only advice I can offer about them is just approach one and if they seem to like you (you'll be able to tell, trust me) things shout be ok.

2007-10-29 00:55:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

whoa! this is no reason for suicide. get a grip on your thoughts... you're freakin 17.... you will not be single forever. you will not be alone forever. my goodness i'm attractive and got my first kiss when i was 16....i'm 27 now and i've dated etc... so just chill. you'll be okay. it sounds like you already have some good things going for you...looks, sense of humor... get comfortable in your own skin, get confident and trust me you'll get a girl even if it takes a little while

2007-10-29 00:51:52 · answer #4 · answered by saraJ 4 · 0 0

oh come on, u'll find someone
just try joining some clubs at school and u'll make more friends, try out for teams, especially the basketball team, girls love that ( well , i do :D)

2007-10-29 00:51:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

yah, give it another try..being social
just dont think of suicide as "the best choice"
ask the ppl u do already know to introduce you to there friends
:]]

2007-10-29 00:51:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Psychotherapy is a good option to deal with your problem.

2007-10-29 00:55:45 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

don't even think of committing sucide, cuz my 17 year old friend and classmate, committed sucide, last march, and he didn't even leave a note, i was the last one our class to talk to him. and its something ill never forget.

2007-10-29 00:52:47 · answer #8 · answered by LilC 1 · 2 0

yea it happens!

our gonna die anyways so just not give a damn

approach every girl, you have no freinds anyways.

what you got to lose

2007-10-29 00:50:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 2

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