he knows im feeling down since last week. i almost had a nervous breakdown and unluckily he had nonstop family reunions etc....then he had his kids this weekend and we cant really spend enough time to chat with me coz by the time he has some time he is either very very tired.yesterday he told me he will be online after he brought hs kids home but end up texting me to say he needs to visit his niece but promised to be here today. today he texted to say some friends invited him to dinner and he accepted..unluckily again my ex took my kids and im feeling so down then my mum outlaw called me up and end up crying on the phone asking why i didnt go with my kids to visit them....i have a very special relationship with my outlaws...anyway my bf wont be here again today coz he needs to attend some dinner and im grr with him coz everytime i need him he is not available and he knows im feeling so down too coz i already texted him about what happened to me today.....
2007-10-28 17:29:03 · 15 answers · asked by silly me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is in new zealand im in the philippines..he does try to spend an hour to be with me but at the middle he would say 5 minutes and im off to bed...i know he loves me but i just need him with me and he knows that....
2007-10-28 17:49:45 · update #1
he also calls me up but im being a BRAT lately coz im in a mess and yes the spa advice would be heavenly maybe i should do that tomorrow and he said he would be here tomorrow so maybe its my time to be away and not available tom......im a brat i think and very childish....
2007-10-28 17:51:14 · update #2
It sounds as though he's much more interested in living his own life than living his life with you. Why weren't you invited to join him at any of these dinners ???? Sorry if it makes you sad to hear it , I don't mean to do that ... it just seems a little odd to me especially if he's been feeling down , that he wouldn't want you there by his side. That's what a loving relationship is all about .... support and friendship !!
I think if it keeps going this way tell him you need to have a heart to heart and if that doesn't work maybe it's time to reevaluate this relationship for yourself !! ... good luck : )
2007-10-28 17:41:03 · answer #1 · answered by uncle louie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to find things to do to enjoy yourself without anyone else, whether a spa as someone suggested, call some friends and go out to dinner, or go out somewhere and make some new friends, go bowling, go to a bar and don't drink too much but do some karaoke, and so on. you might even meet someone new because the boy friend doesn't seem to be that concerned about you or he would have invited you to dinner with he and his friends or perhaps to the other dinner he had to go to.
How long ago did you divorce? It may be that you got into the current relationship with the boyfriend as a rebound from the marriage and it was too soon before you found yourself again first.
do things to get your self esteem back and it will help with the depression and perhaps you will find someone with more time for you instead of making you sit and wait upon him as this man seems to be doing. Good luck, and be happy!!
2007-10-28 18:02:12 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously very stressed out and some of it relates back to your boyfriend, true, but alot of those things were outside of his control. I think what you're really annoyed with is the fact that you feel that you needed some support from him and he was too busy with his family and other friends to fulfill your needs to their fullest.
Remember, family is very important, you shouldn't blame him for putting family needs as a priority right now.
Don't let the small things ruin your relationship, I am sure he is still totally committed to you, you've just both had a crazy week, hopefully this will make you a stronger person and build a stronger relationship.
2007-10-28 17:34:57 · answer #3 · answered by Grossed out in Georgia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very hurt by his actions.You need to sit him down and have a heart to heart talk with him and tell him exactly what you are feeling, don't text it-tell him face to face. If he cares enough about you he needs to include you in his life. He could've taken you to dinner with his friends. He also needs to set aside time for you and him to be alone. I have 2 children and I know it is hard to find time but it can be done if wanted bad enough. If you both cannot be there for each other then what is the point?
2007-10-28 17:36:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing is that he is your boyfriend, he should take the time to come and spend atleast half an hour of his day, or bring you flowers by, instead of hanging out with his friends. It's not unlucky for him, it's very very unlucky for you because from the sounds of it, he's taking advantage of your laid back characteristic. (I know, I have that too!)
I just think that even though you haven't talked to him a lot in the past couple of days, he's said enough with his actions. I'd be upset too, hun. Tell him how you feel.
Hope you feel better soon. :)
2007-10-28 17:35:55 · answer #5 · answered by brittanyuhl9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your nostril is amazingly fantastic and matches your face. Your ex is stupid, do not pay any interest to what he says. Ex pals have a tendency to assert undesirable issues because they sense the go with to describe why they have damaged up. don't worry - you may have a spectacular new pal very quickly!
2016-10-23 03:14:02 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since I have no idea how long you've been dating, how serious this is, I'll just have to go with my gut....
A man who wants to be with you will do what it takes to be with you. He will cancel plans. He will squeeze in time where there isn't any. He will call when he says he will.
I hate to quote a cheesy book, but.... he's just not that into you. Move on.
2007-10-28 17:34:55 · answer #7 · answered by Kimber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we're in the same boat, sweetie..
he said he would see/talk to you then popped up saying he made other plans. these dinnners & parties that he's getting invited to, why can't you attend??
yes, go ahead & feel grrr.
take a hot bath, have a glass of wine & curl up in bed or on the couch & watch a good movie.
2007-10-28 17:39:06 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this isn't what you want to hear...but, your bf is not responsible for your happiness. If he isn't available perhaps you just need to find another way to be happy. Look inside yourself, I'm sure you will find what you need.
2007-10-28 17:33:56 · answer #9 · answered by Rabbit 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm not gonna tell you to be mad at him b/c i do the same thing with the little chickys around here, but i do it b/c i really don't want to be bothered with them, but that's my situation, i find that when i really have a chick i'm interested in, i always have time to be with her, in every since of the word
2007-10-28 17:39:02 · answer #10 · answered by Big Rob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋