Family & Relationships - 28 October 2007

before me and my wife got married she had a bachlorret party, i didn't have a party because she asked me not to have one cause she was cheated in the past (i understood and didn't its no big deal at all) but right after the honey moon i find out she was pregnant, two days later a friend steps foward and tells me that it might not be my baby, i dont believe her but then the rest of the friends fess up. they said she had sex (multiple times) sex with the male stripper she also knew before hand she was pregnant and she drank. well now im worried i confronted my wife about this she said i cannot leave her that wouldnt be ethical and that she loves me and she is sorry, i dont know and i pray that the baby wont have any defects, the child isn't mine either, she said if i get a divorce court will make me pay half and it will be a big mes. what am i to do? im so lost. i do love my wife, but should i trust her? should i take care of the child still. should i divorce?

2007-10-28 12:56:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-28 12:56:35 · 39 answers · asked by Joe Kim 2 in Singles & Dating

Well... Okay. I did something kind of bad that I am not very proud of. I have been feeling kind of weird about my boyfriend lately, and I couldn't really place why.. So I installed a keylogger on my computer and got his password... And I was reading some of his e-mails..

They are just recent, to a girl named asiah. When he writes one to her he titles it "asiah<3" "ms. pretty cheerleader" etc.. Look what he says

"i gotta go but i shall talk to you later pretty girl(f) xox"
"maybe sometime we can be cheer partners and you can stradle me again;) "
"i knew you were cool and chillen. but i never had any idea how chillen you were unill just recently. we can chill or go for a walk for whatever"

I know he used to really like asiah but he didn't think that she would go for a guy like him. Bah....I'm a terrible person, I know.. ivading his privacy.. But i can't stop thinking about him playing me like a fool.

2007-10-28 12:54:05 · 10 answers · asked by . 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-10-28 12:51:06 · 33 answers · asked by jimquan 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Okay so my friend Joey told me that the guy i like Thomas said he likes me a little bit.. and i didnt belive him 'cuz the day before i was like hey thomas and he was like what's up and turned around and kept walking in front of me.. he completely blew me off! so this is the story
they were walkin in the hall and thomas went up to joey and was saying how ppl keep coming up to him n tellin him that i like him..
and joey was like well do you like her and he was like um a little bit.. and then joey told me that thomas told him that he had to talk to me this weekend but he deff. hasn't
and well friday at the football game my friend kelly told me that thmas was deff. lookin at me like an interested look..
so idk i called him last night.. and we only talked for a bit 'cuz he had been up early that morning..
but like i tried talkin to him today he seemed like he didnt want to ...
idk wat 2 think?
THIS HAS BEEN GOIN ON FOR LIKE EVER..
but this is the 1st time he's ever said he liked me

2007-10-28 12:48:54 · 11 answers · asked by Callie Ann 1 in Singles & Dating

He's pretty sick. He didn't come to school today, and he is usually tough, so it means he feels like ****. We are 13. Would it be weird to go visit him at his house? I don't know which of his family members would be there. If I do, what should I bring, and if I dont visit, should I call or something??

2007-10-28 12:46:26 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i have another account on here.it is deepsoul_vicki so if you want add me to your friends.

2007-10-28 12:43:31 · 3 answers · asked by Vicki B 1 in Friends

Ok, this girl at my job always talks to me, sits on my lap durin break sometimes. Whenever she goes out to lunch or goes upstairs to get coffee she asks me if i needed or would like anything. She doesnt talk to the other coworkers like the way she talks to me. She says that she is a serious person and takes things seriously. We text msg one another everyday, we have gone out to lunch a few times. the other day she sent me a text msg sayin that I like u alot. does this mean she likes me just as friends or possibly more than that. Im starting to liker her alot as well. What should i tell her? Should i ask her out? What do i need to do next.? thanks H

2007-10-28 12:43:12 · 3 answers · asked by tbg1982 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-28 12:42:27 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have a beaky nose which is hideous but not nice at all and is unnatrractive. I have always been told i am a very attractive girl because of my other features and even my boyfriend of 4 years tells me I am beautiful and loves me for me even with my nose (cos it could be worse).

Although I did decide recently that I want to have my nose fixed as I believe this is my only serious flaw and I will feel so much more self confident and will stop hiding behind my hair or sunglasses, to feel content.

My boyfriend and I were discussing this last night and I was saying would he think differently of me or feel strange if I fixed it, would he leave me cos I was different (for the better) and he said 'no way, I would only leave you if things between didnt work out etc', He also said if I had it done that would mean "I could have any guy I wanted"

What does he mean, is he insecure?? I'm confused.

2007-10-28 12:41:56 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

what is bad about this situation is that im a sex freak and its been three weeks and im already goin crazy cause i cant have sex and i need help on what to do either to get her to want to or how to keep me from thinking about it

2007-10-28 12:41:47 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

He always says he loves his kids more than me and that I love him more than he loves me.

He is my first priority. I've asked him why he always says this and tell him it hurts me. He just says I can't get mad at him for telling the truth.

Why does he do this???? Should I move to another country and give up my life for a man that feels this way about me?

2007-10-28 12:41:17 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

He's not leaving me alone and right now he is reading this Qustion what can i do to get him out of my hair???

2007-10-28 12:36:51 · 7 answers · asked by Blondie 2 in Family

Ok, when me and my boyfriend have sex, he uses a condom that has a spermicide in it. When he does, it burns extremely bad when he's inside of me and I really just can't focus anymore.

Could I be allergic to latex? Could I be allergic to spermicide?

I mean, the only time it ever does burn is when we have sex. Whats going on?

2007-10-28 12:36:28 · 13 answers · asked by lilpeaches0315 3 in Singles & Dating

Do you?

2007-10-28 12:35:27 · 7 answers · asked by introversive_guy 3 in Friends

My husband has tried to get us into the swinging lifestyle for sometime now. I am reluctan t for many reasons but my main one besides a moral issue is that he pouts if he doesnt get his way. He wants to talk about screwing others every time we have sex and if i dont then i get degraded and he goes into his ultimatiums, if things dont change we are getting a divorce. Tells me i am boring, calls me names etc and then goes to looking at personal ads. When we do have sex, i hardly ever get satisfied because he is done between 2 and 4 minutes. I end up pissed off. He has said swinging is for us to expand our sex life. Doesnt sound this way to me.

2007-10-28 12:35:16 · 16 answers · asked by If we don’t stand up for ourselves, NO ONE will 1 in Marriage & Divorce

(I already asked this question but only got three answers and I think I should have put it in this category... just so everyone knows... I'm not trying to scam you or anything)

(I'm in high school, if that helps you all answer this...) I've liked my best guy friend for almost 7 months, and he knows. Until a couple of weeks ago, he liked one of my friends. Now he really likes me. The two of us (he and I, that is) are very close, we are comfortable talking about ANYTHING (yes, anything) and I love him, he loves me. We talk on the phone daily for at least an hour and seeing him is a bright point in my day. He's brought up the thought of us going out on a date, but I'm not sure. I'd love to take it to the next level, but I'm afraid to lose the closeness we share, or that I'll ruin something. I'd hate to break up and ruin this friendship. But i'm def. attracted to him... PLEASE HELP!! I need as many answers as I can get...

Thanks alot to all who answer- puts it all in perspectice.

2007-10-28 12:34:35 · 45 answers · asked by Rachael 2 in Friends

is sort of an issue for me right now.

any advice?

2007-10-28 12:33:43 · 2 answers · asked by trl. 5 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-28 12:32:58 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My bf assured me he was ready to be in a relationship even though he was winding down a 2 yr divorce. everything was great up until 2 weeks before his final court date. he reassured me he had a lot to deal with and would be back to normal after it was over. it was over last week and when we saw each other a few days later, we broke up. he said his head isn't on straight right now and he was so confused about his future. he wanted to take a step back from our relationship to just casually dating. I was devasted and told him i can't do that. either he wanted to be with me or not. he said he can't deal with the pressure of a relationship right now and wants to do things for himself for awhile. it was a very respectful and mature conversation. when i left i took my stuff and he was concerned i'd never call i said i didn't know. he grabbed me and kissed me, he even had tears in his eyes, as so did i...but i just walked away. what are the chances he'll come back and how long?

2007-10-28 12:29:09 · 12 answers · asked by Jax 3 in Marriage & Divorce

"Marry the person who loves u .. not the person u love"

Is that true ? cuz i am in love with a person (we're planning to get married) and he's in love with me too but i feel that i love him more .. should i be worried ?

2007-10-28 12:23:37 · 6 answers · asked by Maria 6 in Marriage & Divorce

How many married women are forced to have sex with their husbands even if they don't want to? They vocalize it, "I don't want to"

2007-10-28 12:20:04 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Ok so i dont know what is wrong with me or if it is not me and it is the guys at my school cause they seem not to like me this year i dont what is wrong this year so here is my pic what do you think of me???


http://s48.photobucket.com/albums/f231/dc_lover4_life/?action=view¤t=DSCF0002.jpg

2007-10-28 12:20:03 · 78 answers · asked by bittersweet_love 2 in Singles & Dating

do you guys prefer your girlfriend to wear makeup or no makeup? or just in general. not even a girlfriend. do guys like it when girls wear makeup or none?

2007-10-28 12:19:34 · 5 answers · asked by j yanks 4 in Singles & Dating

this girl i know thinks she's a playerette

2007-10-28 12:15:00 · 1 answers · asked by Jeremy P 1 in Singles & Dating

Let's say you're in a relationship, and the guy has said over and over that he loves you and wants to be with you. However, there is a family situation that keeps the relationship from being all that it could be. You don't really talk every day, but you still hang out at least a few times a month. The only thing that has been consistent is him saying that he wants to be with you, but he can't seem to get things together, and make decisions where they need to be made. Do you move on? I am not an indecisive person, so I usually am like, "Just deal with it," and confront issues head on so that you can move on--no matter what direction that might be--but I wonder what the real deal is. Are you one of those people who thinks "Love conquers all", or are you one that says, "If you wanted to be with me, you would, regardless of what is going on on the peripheral"?

2007-10-28 12:14:36 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

personality, sense of humour, height. please answer

2007-10-28 12:13:53 · 39 answers · asked by Only1Ronaldo 1 in Singles & Dating

He was drafted and was in infantry. He was shot in the head in
combat in Vietnam. He walks with a cane and speaks as though he has had a stroke.

For many years he has slept in his own bedroom as he kicks and fights in his sleep due to PTSD.

He is a great guy. He is not cruel or mean to his family. However he is rather difficult to live with and do family things together.
He is very racist and it's getting to the point that after 40 years
of marriage my mom is about ready to call it quits......as in
divorce.

He cannot watch any news, movie, DVD movie, anything without using derogatory racial and ethnic remarks which my mother has had talks with him many times in the past. She explains to him that it upsets her and then he is good for a little while and then starts again.

2007-10-28 12:07:27 · 3 answers · asked by thefinalresult 7 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband has a weak bladder. At night, he keeps a potty chair right by our bed, so he usually makes it. This disgusts me, I don't know how to get him to not do it. Sometimes i have to empty it in the morning

2007-10-28 12:00:39 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

How did you personally overcome fear of rejection OR how do you overcome fear of rejection ?!?

(referring to approaching girls)

2007-10-28 11:59:47 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating