(I already asked this question but only got three answers and I think I should have put it in this category... just so everyone knows... I'm not trying to scam you or anything)
(I'm in high school, if that helps you all answer this...) I've liked my best guy friend for almost 7 months, and he knows. Until a couple of weeks ago, he liked one of my friends. Now he really likes me. The two of us (he and I, that is) are very close, we are comfortable talking about ANYTHING (yes, anything) and I love him, he loves me. We talk on the phone daily for at least an hour and seeing him is a bright point in my day. He's brought up the thought of us going out on a date, but I'm not sure. I'd love to take it to the next level, but I'm afraid to lose the closeness we share, or that I'll ruin something. I'd hate to break up and ruin this friendship. But i'm def. attracted to him... PLEASE HELP!! I need as many answers as I can get...
Thanks alot to all who answer- puts it all in perspectice.
2007-10-28 12:34:35 · 45 answers · asked by Rachael 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Aww... he just texted me: 'Hello love. Did I ever tell you how lucky I am to have met you? Well I am! ;-)'
He's so great... =)
2007-10-28 12:35:35 · update #1
well, since my daughter is almost 13, i suppose i need to get used to the "true love" syndrome. OK, here it is. You are going to go out with him anyway, so save yourself the grief and drama of going through this whole should I shouldnt I scenario. Now that he is ready to go out with you (being no longer interested in your friend for whatever reason) he will pursue that agenda, and do all the things you think are so cute and adorable. If you dont go out with him, it will eventually annoy him, and he will get an attitude with you. I know, he is different, he would never do that. I am 43, and have NEVER seen anyone go through this about 1000 times. I have no idea what I am talking about.. but this is my opinion anyway.
Enjoy your high school romance with him while it lasts.
2007-10-28 12:40:46 · answer #1 · answered by Rafael P 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same boat with my first love and we did take it to the next level and now we have a two year old together and he has a child with another women to and lives up state I wish I would have never done it but life is all about takeing risks and I wish I had that friend back more than anything but once an x it is hard to get that best friend back... and you guys could make it together till the end and if you guys really feel this strong about it then go for it dont take the chance and never no if he is the one for you or not p.s.live life to the fullest and if you have fun while it last then it was worth it good luck
2007-10-28 12:45:40 · answer #2 · answered by 36 weeks and 4 days 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww! That's sweet! (The text, I mean.) :)
He does sound like a great guy, but you're right to be concerned about your friendship. Because unlike the movies, sometimes best friends just don't end up together.You should tell him how you feel about your friendship and ask if maybe you guys can wait a while before you actually start dating. Who knows, maybe some new student might catch your eyes next month. If you guys realize though that you can't stand being away from each other, try going out! Your friendship might be different later if you guys break up, but try to hold tight on it!
Personally though, I think you guys should go out. Who knows, maybe you guys are destined? ;) I know a teacher at my school who dated his wife since high school and they've been happily married for a while now.
2007-10-28 12:46:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooooh. High school... This can be the start of a new life. (Just teasing you...) What I suggest you to do is take it easy until college. College is the start where you should really get your emotions going. High School is like a time in your life that you may have an OPPORTUNITY to witness love. Of course, if you think it is right to go on to the next level, I'm not telling you not to. Of course, if you think you're not going to the same college as in your High School career, then just go for it. Losing a relationship is kind of hard, but if you both love the way you are by the information you gave me (or the other answers,) then you should be fine. Go for it!
HOLY! YOU HAVE A LOT OF ANSWERS!
2007-10-28 12:41:20 · answer #4 · answered by Liam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been in this situation before. We became great friends, but I, like you, was afraid of ruining a great friendship. I tried it once and weve now been dating for 6 months. Things are great. All i can tell you, is that giving things a try always helps. You should go for it hunny. And as far being afraid of runing the friendship, if you two are such great friends, then breaking up wont ruin the friendship, it will just make you two relize that being friends is better! Hope things work out!
2007-10-28 12:39:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is only one way to find out if it works- you should go out on a date. You don't want to be years down the road and wonder what could have been. You are high school sweethearts rite now. If you are both on such good terms and can talk about anything then go out and strike it up. That doesn't mean, though, you have to sleep together. That would ruin your relationship-or at least put it on an entire different level your not ready for. (i dated my sweet heart and we're happily married :) Good luck!
2007-10-28 12:43:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a movie quote that goes perfectly with this. "Love is friendship. If she cannot be my best friend, than I cannot love her." For this to be a love to last, friendship is most definitely involved. It's good that you begn with friendship- and that the two of you are already so close. Go ahead and try for it. Instead of expecting it to be a major change to your relationship, do what already is so comfortable- go to the movies with him, hug him a lot, smile and laugh and get caught up in the fact that the two of you are already comfortable- and then pull out the guts to do something more. And if, despite your mutual attraction, it's less comfortable between the two of you if you put in that extra piece, then laugh it off and return to the comfortable closeness that you had before.
2007-10-28 12:41:09 · answer #7 · answered by silvrene~chan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all relationships ruin friendships
You guys seem pretty close
It would seem a shame to ruin such a good friendship, but you could always take things slow.
At the moment im with a guy i have known for nearly 7 years, we were just good mates untill we decided to date... Two years later and we're still going :]
Hope that helped a bit :]
2007-10-28 12:38:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
oh, go for it, definitely!
im sure he is unsure also, but there is no harm in trying, and now that the physical attraction is there im sure it will work out, cos you already get on so great with him!
definitely go on a date with him!
you two are too close for it to ruin anything, if it is weird and just doesn't work out, then you can just acknowledge this and go back to being best friends!
your relationship is strong and is ready to turn into something more!
2007-10-28 12:38:47 · answer #9 · answered by genie-in-da-house 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That sounds very sweet! I had a relationship like that too when I was in high school. We did date and then realized that we weren't meant to be as bf/gf. We were able to come to an agreement on that so we are still friends at 28! If you can talk to him so easily then you guys can make a pact to stay friends if it doesn't work out.
2007-10-28 12:37:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋