Family & Relationships - 15 October 2007

This was a really bad situation, but the circumstances were extenuating. I was involved with a longtime friend I knew from childhood. He liked me for years. Anyway, I told him I didn't want a relationship, then married someone else.

At the time I didn't know what was wrong, but I've had a medical condition most of my life that was undiagnosed. I was really ill, and I knew something was wrong but couldn't put my finger on it.

The friend had just come back from living in another province for several years. My condition affected my ability to function in every way. He was just putting his life together here, and I was so ill that mine was falling apart. I was afraid I would become a burdon to him and complicate his life, and I didn't feel he would really be able to help me.

When I met my husband he said that he would support me in every way and he has. If it wasn't for him I don't think I would have been able to put my life back together.

2007-10-15 14:04:39 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Please share a story. Freely describe it. I got the time to listen.

Please do not put, "we have been married 10yrs and going strong" because that is not an answer to this question. Please do not say, "it is normal to disagree from time to time" because as you can deduce that that is not an answer to the question. What I am asking is about disagreements on important issues that have been resolved through divorce. I am doing a reasearch project on love.

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

2007-10-15 14:02:34 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

what do i tell my friends when they say they want to sleep with there boyfriends we are in 7th grade and most of them have not started there periods. they say they want to do it now so they know they can't get pregnant i am scared that in some way they might. what should i do and what should i say. i think we are way to young to do any thing like that. telling them not to would be a good idea to me but what if they completly hate me. the guy i like agrees with me and so do all my guy friends. they say ( even for guys) that even they aren't ready.

2007-10-15 14:00:17 · 5 answers · asked by miz thang 18 2 in Friends

My husband driving license was taken because the police smelled weed in his car, so now he have a DUI and he cant drive, well i just start driving two years ago and I'm still not that good of a driver. He is mad at me because he have to pay his cousin 100 dollars a week to take him to work because i dont have any license and i told him I will go and get them but now i can't find my s.s card so it is going to take at less two more weeks for me to take him to work, well he is very mad and he took off his ring and said he is leaving me and a whole lot of mean words. I love him but he needs to grow up and if this is the way he want it than so be it. The truth is I love him and I want him to love me but I dont think it's going to work can any one give me some advice on this bull?

2007-10-15 13:58:46 · 32 answers · asked by I can't get right 1 in Marriage & Divorce

well im married for 2 and half years and im in need for words i dont know what to do cause its been like a month since i left to oregon wich i know live and i lived in az for 2 and half years but my wife its over there and im here we love each other but we want to spend a while with our familys and i want to be with her what should i do move back to az or move to other state with me and her or what i need opinions ?

2007-10-15 13:55:27 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My wife got mad at me yesterday because for the 1st time ever I told her to go visit her Mom without me .. I always go but wanted a day here at home alone ..to myself...we have been married less then a yr and not once have we been apart other then work..since I told her to go without me she said she wouldn't go and hasn't spoke to me won't even stay in same room ..except last night when she got out of bed to sleep away from me she told me what she thought about me ..and how i let her down by not going ...Honest I am getting upset more and more by the minute and starting to think if I want out of this marriage ... so can someone tell me how long should I let her treat me this way

2007-10-15 13:54:49 · 13 answers · asked by kevin p 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I've been with my bf for 4 yrs. I love him, he loves me. Im not happy, but i want to fix it. I try to talk to him to tell him and he just gets defensive and trys to manipulate everything into me feeling sorry for him b/c I make him feel like hes not good enough and he usually ends it w/ "well, thats me, and Im not changing." I know that we could fix the problems in our relationship if he was willing to work w/ me. I could cry and beg and plead for him to do something simple like celebrate our anniversary & he wont b/c HE doesnt think its a big deal. I dont understand casue I know that he loves me. Am I doing something wrong? I really dont complain that much but when I need to talk to him, how can I get him to LISTEN. All he hears is "youre not good enough" and he puts a wall up. Its like an endless cycle, nothing ever gets resolved and we end up resenting eachother for it. (At least I resent him, he wont admit that these unresolved conflict bother him but shouldnt they if he loves me!?

2007-10-15 13:53:29 · 1 answers · asked by Me 3 in Singles & Dating

there is this girl i met while working at my old summer job a year and half ago. i never thought we would talk outside of work. We have hunged out, we have gone to parties. we have watched movies alone, she came to my soccer games. she gets upset if we cannot hang out or somethin comes up when if she cannot hang out with me. Last year she came to my formal as my date. she had a lot of fun. she is in college herself. she always takes off of work whenever i come up to visit her, and after work she will hang out with me while im there. she was pissed this summer that we didnt get a chance to hang out a lot like she wanted us to. whenever she is upset or has a problem she would call me. we talk whenever were on aim all the time. we both have recently talked about startin to date. I would like to date her and make her my gf. does she like me? what should i do? what should i say to her?

2007-10-15 13:51:44 · 5 answers · asked by tbg1982 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-15 13:51:10 · 16 answers · asked by Count DiMera 2 in Singles & Dating

i broke-up with my boyfriend 9 days ago..and confronted him with matching a slap on his face 3 days ago..i felt great after that for i know he deserve more than that because he is a great cheater and a big *** liar..but why do i feel incomplete and even suffering from sleepless nights and nightmares of him?!?is this just normal or im getting nuts already?!?

2007-10-15 13:50:02 · 12 answers · asked by BLeSSeDaNGeL 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband I and go back and forth as to when we want to start our family. We both really want to have children and would love to start now except, I'm in school right now and am unsure as to if I can juggle motherhood and finishing up school. (I have about 2 years left) I'm 28 and he's 31, so I'm a little worried about waiting too long incase there are fertility problems. Finacially we're doing alright...(it could always be better though, right?) but my husband make enough to support the both of us, put me through school, pay the bills and mortgage...etc. and still have a decent amount left. Anyway how do you know it's the right time? Financially we can afford a baby, but there's a lot more to it than being financially ready. How did you all know it was the right time...or is there ever a "right" time? Thanks!

2007-10-15 13:49:09 · 20 answers · asked by JenJen 6 in Marriage & Divorce

It seems that others don't find me very attractive which is most likley why I've never had a boyfriend mind you I'm only 13, but I'm cool with that. Its just that one of my best friends constantly has a boyfriend, and usually when I hang out with her she is hanging with him which creates situations of me feeling like the third wheel on a wagon. Because they're always flirting or talking only to each other. How do I cope with the matter?

2007-10-15 13:48:57 · 3 answers · asked by laughingsmile 1 in Singles & Dating

I am an un-happily married man. At work there is this single girl whom I talk to and we have become very good friends but nothing more. Whenever I leave home for work I feel bad because of an argument of something my annoyning, selfish and controlling wife has just said to me. But when I get to work and see my friend all of that goes away. I think she has an idea I'm not happy at home but hasn't asked too many questions. I value my privacy and she seems to respect that. She a wonderful person and I know we'll probably be no more that friends. My question is should I tell her how great she makes me feel or should I just keep my feelings to myself. Thanks.

2007-10-15 13:44:56 · 13 answers · asked by Nash M 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I had an amazing relationship with a girl, it happened to be an old time friend that I used to say hi to at the bus stop every morning. 5 years later we bumped into each other and from there on it was just beautiful, I've never devoted myself to anybody as much as I did with her and she'd always tell me how everyday she'd wake up and smile just knowing that she had me in her life. Keeping it short and leaving out all the other mushy stuff. She ended up breaking it off. The "reason"... I couldn't hear what she said on the phone one day and then reacted pretty harshly saying that i never listen to her lol. She had no good reason to offer me and asked me to understand, I told her that I'll learn to accept it but I'll never understand it. My heart was destroyed for about two months afterwards.... It's been almost a year now and just recently she sent me a text message saying "I know you don't like me anymore but I just wanted to see how things are going with you." Should I ignore?

2007-10-15 13:35:09 · 11 answers · asked by Bri Bri 2 in Singles & Dating

Ima go in a date with a girl that i been liking for a long time...she gave me a challenge to get her...i need some nice ideas i could do in our date im guessing the movies and a nice restaurant???any ideas i live in manhattan.....shes older than me she is 28....im 21....

2007-10-15 13:09:29 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i have this friend that has been going behind my back and my best friends back and saying that we had been calling each other sluts and all kinds of other things.She has also been starting rumors and messing alot of things up for me. I am wondering if i should use the fact that her crush doesnt like her and is scared of her to get her back. this plan includes making her believe that he likes her and then rip her heart out when she finds out that he is terrified of her.

2007-10-15 13:09:24 · 10 answers · asked by sos 1 in Friends

I have a psycho ex. He's very mad and jealous that I have a new boyfriend. He claims to have certain pics of me. He's threatening to send them to my parents and post them online. I know thats very illegal and he could get in a lot of trouble for that. Basically Im one of the good girls and dont want my rep trashed. I already went to the police about it they said there isnt much they can do. How can I get those pics off his computer and destroyed?? I need help fast! Im desperate. it doesnt help that he lives 3000 miles away from me now either

2007-10-15 13:08:56 · 1 answers · asked by kellykellrules 1 in Singles & Dating

You like a guy and it seems that after a while you two are talking online but when it comes to talking face to face, you can't find yourself to talk casually to him. Is it possible I shouldn't talk to him or maybe be more confident and just talk to him? I'm asking him all the questions and it seems like he doesn't ask me anything. So is he nervous too or just being nice and talking to me?

2007-10-15 13:07:22 · 1 answers · asked by blckmustng2002 1 in Singles & Dating

Chances of getting turned down?
And any other information?

2007-10-15 13:06:25 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-15 13:05:24 · 52 answers · asked by chtucker18 1 in Friends

they give me so much back pain but yet you lads love em.

2007-10-15 13:04:38 · 15 answers · asked by clair b 2 in Singles & Dating

im a 21 year old guy. my sisters are 23 and 25. the 3 of us have an apartment together. all day long they've been asking me if i would let them dress me in their clothes. They promised me its just for fun (no taking photos or anything). should i let them do it? how far should i let them go? makeup? underwear?

2007-10-15 13:02:32 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

as for me it was in summer camp when i was 18 and she was kind of 16. after breakfast on tuesday till after lunch on thursday

2007-10-15 13:01:56 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am trying to find bridesmaid dresses for my June wedding...any color ideas?

2007-10-15 13:00:45 · 13 answers · asked by Katie 2 in Weddings

i am 52, single, christian and don't like the bar scenes/clubs to meet singles. I thought the there might be a good site for 50+, especially black since it seems a lot of men don't want to date black females. I am black, but look bi-racial which I am, but identify w/black culture. So its been hard to go on e-harmony,macth.com as most of the white men want Asian or white, and the black men a fewwww.

2007-10-15 12:57:00 · 1 answers · asked by sissytwo 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-15 12:56:49 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ive been married for 3 yrs, and ive got a daughter who is 18 months. My wife and i have stopped communicating and nit pick everyday!!. And we have not been sexually active since my daughter was born. What to do? Ive even thought of councilling.

2007-10-15 12:52:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

theres this girl in school. weve been together since 3rd grade. at first she was cool to hang out with but now that shes in MS she thinks shes prettier, funnier, and cooler than everybody else. she gets on my nerves when she insults my wardrobe wen were wearing the same thing. UNIFORMS! i could just b****slap her. wat should i do?

plz help!

2007-10-15 12:50:55 · 10 answers · asked by Izzy 2 in Singles & Dating

My husband and I went to visit an old friend of his. He has a wife and twin 4 year old girls. The wife was at work and the guy had a bunch of his friends over dressing a deer someone had killed hunting. The girls were filthy and dressed in rags. The house was atrocious with filthy floors, clothes everywhere, and even half eaten food (days old) lying around in the floor.The girl's toys were all torn up and they had colored all over the walls and floors with magic markers and crayons. We've been there before and the house was a mess so I know it stays that way. One of the girls finished off her dad's beer while he just grinned. My husband is mad and says I'm too uptight and judgmental because I commented on how bad it was there. He says to look at how happy they all are. Am I too uptight? My kids are teens (clean and well behaved) and my husband doesn't have kids so I can't compare if it were his kids. So am I a prude?

2007-10-15 12:46:23 · 7 answers · asked by ♥Pretty♥ ♥Kitty♥ 7 in Family

2007-10-15 12:46:04 · 12 answers · asked by Jay 6 in Singles & Dating