Family & Relationships - 9 September 2007

He keeps putting other people ahead of our marriage. I have always come second to his job and I have come to accept that but it seems that I come second to everything and everyone. When he's home he just wants to watch t.v. He can't be bothered with me or my problems. He leaves his cell phone on 24/7 and gets work calls at all hours. Even on his days off. I ask him to turn the phone off when he isn't working but he won't and he often ends up at work for some reason or another. About a year ago he decided it would be a good idea to invite my uncle and cousin to move where we live. He brought them from Ve3gas and helped them on their feet. I begged him not to do this because my uncle had molested me when I was 9. He ignored my pleas and did it anyway. Then he moved them right across the street from us about 6 months later. We've finally moved about 45 minutes away but still... Now he has a cousin living here that moved in with my uncle. I told her what my uncle did because she has kids.

2007-09-09 20:26:28 · 28 answers · asked by Jules 3 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-09 20:16:30 · 12 answers · asked by shardf 5 in Marriage & Divorce

One of my friends owned a scooter he sold to me for about $600, two years ago, when he moved to Indonesia.
I didn't get one block down the road the first time I drove it when I got a flat tyre.
On changing the tyre I also learned the brakes and bearings needed replacing, as well a new battery and a back tyre, too. I put lots of money into this bike,even before I got to use it .
Now he text messages me that he will come back, soon, and that he has a wife and a kid now and he needs that bike, and he wants to buy his bike back, but will pay only $400 for it, he insists and says that is a "fair deal".
I don't want to sound cold blooded, but he sold me a real turkey two years ago, that I had to immediately repair, even before I could use it. I like friends and I don't want to deprive someone of a nice scooter if he needs it, but enough is enough.. I feel that it is either the money I ask, or no bike...
But, of course, he probably won't be friends with me anymore. What gives?

2007-09-09 20:16:27 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

i finally got an explanation about why my friendship supposedly ended, and her explanation bared no resemblance to reality whatsoever-that's not my opinion, either, it's sadly true! anyway, i agree we're done...and she doesn't even want my side of things, along with no more communication whatsoever. my question is this...although i have no problem not communicating with her in the future, i'm dying to at least let her know how wacky and outrageous her explanation is. would it be terribly out of line, if i do indeed have every intention of backing off afterward, if i sent a return e-mail saying..."i agree with you that things are over,and there should be no more communication,good luck too" and then casually mention how "crazy" she was,but in a diplomatic way.this is really not about getting the last word,i just can't believe what i read.if i tried explaining this to you,you wouldn't believe me at first.should i let it be,or can i send that last e-mail if i keep it short,and diplomatic?

2007-09-09 20:13:01 · 2 answers · asked by abc123 1 in Friends

try to be friends with someone and they treat you like shi* then when you ask them what they dont like about you they say, 'just the fact youre breathing', just the fact youre alive, thats what they dont like about me. would you say this person hates me? they wont tell me why they hate me either but they say that.

2007-09-09 20:07:56 · 3 answers · asked by jr 2 in Friends

Marriages in which the husband is the breadwinner and thw wife is a stay at home mom.

2007-09-09 20:04:48 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

What does it mean when a girl says..

"I don't know you well enough"?

Well first off all, my friends heart is busted and not functioning properly now. I was there at the moment it happened.. it looked pretty brutal. Hope it never happens to me X_X;;.. But he said he liked her and she replied saying "I don't know you well enough..." Before this happened, i talked to her myself and she said she liked him???!? but then after that she said i don't know you well enough...??

2007-09-09 20:04:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-09-09 20:00:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 2 YEARS AND I WAS PERFECTLY OK WITH MY RELATIONSHIP UP TO LAST WEEK. I RECEIVED A PHONE CALL FROM AN EX-BOYFRIEND FROM 5 YEARS AGO. HE WAS THE FIRST LOVE OF MY LIFE. HE CALLED TO SAY HELLO AND HE HINTED HE WAS NOT OVER ME. I DECIDED NOT TO TALK TO HIM ANYMORE BECAUSE I'M MARRIED AND HE ALSO HAS A WIFE AND KIDS. THE THING IS I CANT STOP THINKING ABOUT HIM!!!! EVERY DAY ALL DAY I THINK OF HIM. I'M SO CONFUSED ABOUT MY FEELINGS NOW?? AM I IN LOVE WITH THIS GUY STILL OR JUST CONFUSED?

2007-09-09 19:53:53 · 8 answers · asked by LOST!!!! 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i am going back to my home country next month and now i am flatting with my flatmate. and i guess he will be partying and allowing his frens to stay overnight in my room when i am not around since he has my room key as in case because he is the 'manager' of the flat. i think he wont agree to hand in the key to me. so how do i prevent from him to let his frens overnight in my room when i am not there? i really dislike ppl to touch my things.

2007-09-09 19:50:30 · 11 answers · asked by nihsedaj 1 in Friends

I have a husband in the air force. We have been together for three years and got married this August of last year. We have been very happy but today I found out that he was in love with another woman before we got married. That was during the time we were still together. We are happily married but I feel I need to confront him. Should I forgive him?

2007-09-09 19:50:28 · 24 answers · asked by Sandy B. 2 in Marriage & Divorce

i know how everyone says the girls shouldn't cling to their boyfriends and give them space etc. what is the limit to giving boyfriends space? i'm sure there're no definite answers to this but i'd like to hear opinions. (:

2007-09-09 19:48:01 · 4 answers · asked by dinOgaL(: 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-09-09 19:46:00 · 8 answers · asked by Mpiane A 1 in Singles & Dating

long story short, i really liked a guy, i slept with him, he didnt really like me but lead me on, we stopped messin around, i still had feelings, he and my best friend hooked up, my feelings are beyond hurt, she never apologizes, i find out from a mutual friend that he is using her. should i tell her or mind my business?

2007-09-09 19:45:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

(thanks for the help)

2007-09-09 19:45:20 · 8 answers · asked by Waterworks. 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-09-09 19:41:30 · 13 answers · asked by peterpan 1 in Family

he works construction. I have a 6 month old. he has 2 kids that are very unruly and demanding. When he is home his attention is focused soley on them. Not me or the baby. He will run off and go to the bar and then come home drunk. We have no time together. What can I do?

2007-09-09 19:41:18 · 8 answers · asked by Anna B 1 in Marriage & Divorce

if i were to see my ex gf, what should i do? say hi and work our problem out? even tho the girl broke it of becuz of rumors, should i still try and ork things out? what should i say? should i let her see me, but i dont go see her, and see if she calls me or rights to me the same day? or what?

2007-09-09 19:39:29 · 15 answers · asked by DancingInTheMoonlight 2 in Singles & Dating

I have this guy friend....a REALLY good guy friend..he is DEFF. one of my best friends..i sort of like him but here is where the conflict is...he has a girlfriend..WHO IS ONE OF MY BEST FRIENDS ALSO! But he always acts flirty..I mean at lunch he always comes to my table, sits next to me and steals food right off my plate lol (his GF doesnt have the same lunch period as us) He always walks down the hall with me..but him and his gf are like PERFECT for eachother and they seem like the happiest couple ever and they have been going out for a while now...but anyways im 12..help me plzzz

2007-09-09 19:30:06 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ladies do you think I came on too strong on her( well actually not came up) because I did this while we chat on myspace!

Well It's been a while since I;ve known this girl we were in a class together But I graduated already she will soon graduate as well!

Anyways we chat almost daily on myspace for hours and then I asked her out (I know it was lame through myspace But I didnt know where she lived or anything that's why I asked there)
And she agreed to go out with me, so then I asked for her phone # and I told her that I didn't want to pressure her into giving it to me If she felt uncomfortable doing so! and I also told her if she wanted I could give her mine that way she would hit me up when she wanted!

Well days have passed and she didn't gave me an answer! and she won't even chat with me anymore!

WhY do you think this is? Did I came on too strong? Please tell me what you think happened! Thanks

2007-09-09 19:24:31 · 24 answers · asked by Vicz101 5 in Singles & Dating

ok everyone kept telling me to let my boyfriend go but if oyu think about it and you let oyur first true love go then you dont know if there going to come back so boys give me a heads up on what to do because guys no what to say.

2007-09-09 19:23:51 · 9 answers · asked by lovergirl_82 1 in Singles & Dating

me and my fiance used to have sex all the time but now that im pregant we stopped its been about 2 months since we have had sex and he was always so easy to get hard and he would stay that way.but last night i was tring to get him hard and it took me awhile and then i did and he got up to turn off the light and he was limp again.but last week i was tryn to get him hard and it was easy.we did not have sex though.is this normal? could he be cheating on me idk i have no clue?

2007-09-09 19:21:59 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

well im 14 and latley ive been looking at alot older guys, like that are 50 and older. and i thnk there hot, my friends tink i have a weird fetish or soemthing, i feel so horny when i look at guy with either long hair, on motorbikes, wearing tight jeans or even leather, am i disgusting???

2007-09-09 19:20:15 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I mean sometimes it is but what if you like a guy but he hasn't asked you out on a date yet but still you enjoy hanging out with him, watching movies and talking with him.

(we only made out once but he's tried to finger me. I just like cuddleing with him.)

2007-09-09 19:19:04 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

they think they are doing it for for "good" reasons but when they say ithese things it hurts my feelings when i tey to tell them they wont listen. it is true i am not skinny and i am not pretty and i am 23 and finally at my last year in college it still hurts me why would my family do this. and it is not only my parents once my aunt said "look at all my beautiful neices nephews ..and stephanie! she said it wa a joke but it was really mean..those ar epicture sof my but dont look if u dont wanna puke
http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewPicture&friendID=8836708&albumId=657616

2007-09-09 19:18:57 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-09-09 19:18:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

she tells u this whole story about her life and this goes on for a month but then she cant lie no more and tells u that everything she said was not true and was just proving a point except for some parts but in the end she feels bad and wants to give the person she did this too a try again but lets him in on the truth would u trust her??

2007-09-09 19:16:27 · 14 answers · asked by bigbrowndikk 1 in Singles & Dating

I look over to see, hair that is not mine, in my BF's brush!!!!
True enough: It's the same color and almost same length BUT this is the incriminating factor........ I wear fake hair, (senthetic hair doesn't have split ends) This hair does!!! WTF?
AND it's curly, (I flat-Iron my damn hair)!, I dont use his brush, and I am positive it wasn't there a few days ago......

We had sex last night, his penis wouldn't even stay hard??? And now I find hair. (is there a connection)?
I asked his resposes were: "It could be my sister's hair." (she stays in Arizona, I doubt if she used his brush, it would STILL be there a month later)
"I Dont know whose hair that is, I got more important things going on, than to worry about whose hair is in my brush." **Rolls over and is now going to sleep**

Am I OVERREACTING?????

2007-09-09 19:11:58 · 15 answers · asked by B.B. 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-09-09 19:11:20 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

well im 14 and i went to the city and i saw this guy with really long hair and i love guys with long hair, and he was wearing a normal t shirt tucked in and tight high jeans, and he looked liek a real rocker and he was abotu 50, and he was soooo hot. the past few days ive been thinking abtout him and me having sex.and latley ive been thinking of having sex with like every hot guys i see, i just want to quit schol and soon a i can and get some friends and rent my own house. i just dream about walking into a bar with a leather jacket on with bikers looking at me then you knwo having a smoke and drinking then been hit on all the time. and im starting to like guys that are oldot older leik i saw a guy on tv that was atleat 65 and i though he was hot. i want to be in a band and as a lead singer when in older. allll my friends tell me im f****** disgusting for liekng older guys but i woudl love to live my dream. do you all think that's a good life?

2007-09-09 19:07:02 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating