Family & Relationships - 9 September 2007

O.k. heres the thing. my sister(20) had a baby, is getting married and moved 2 states away. but for some reason, when my mom went to visit her, she said that I hacked into my dads i-tunes, said I was drunk dialing her, and things in general like that, but when she talks to me, she acts like she hasn't done anything. how should I deal with this? Cause I want to keep things cool with us, but she has repetedly tried/got me in trouble...

2007-09-09 16:17:44 · 8 answers · asked by K B 1 in Family

Ok so...I am 18. I am goin to college. I just fired from my job because of one of the idiots that i work with. I have no money. I have a car payment, insurance payment, cell phone bill, and gas to pay for but no money. How can I talk my parents into letting me borrow money?

2007-09-09 16:16:14 · 5 answers · asked by Cheyenne S 1 in Family

How harmful is secrecy to a marriage? Should spouses share everything? why or why not?

2007-09-09 16:13:43 · 15 answers · asked by femmenoire@sbcglobal.net 4 in Marriage & Divorce

My friends' son married a Vietnamese lady in 1997, and he used her name to buy some land in Saigon, and build an apartment house. Later, they sold the house to parlay the money to buy more land and build a hotel out near the airport, at which time his wife started embezzling money and giving some of it to her family, particularly her ister who wanted to go to Law school.
After 8 years of marriage, she files for divorce, gets the hotel, but who represents her at her trial but her sister, whom she had sent to law School! Now she is a rich 27 year old lady who owns her own hotel, and my friends son got nothing. Really lost his shirt on that one.

2007-09-09 15:57:26 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Ok i'm in this situation where I dont have a car and got to catch the city bus to school and work. So some of my formers friend and my ex girl friend drives by every morning and point and laugh at me while im waiting for the bus, because I dont have a car. They're cars are pieces of junk by the way. Sometimes I feel like getting revenge, what should I do.

2007-09-09 15:56:21 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-09-09 15:56:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I need major help. In four days my fiance and I are to be flying to his home town to pick up his grandfather. However, two days ago my fiance gets an email from his cousin saying a lot of rude stuff about the family. So, my fiance writes his cousin back and told her to stop writing to him because she is a habitual liar and nothing she says can be trusted. Well, after that she wrote back saying to wait until he gets back there and she'll show him how many friends she has. Then her girl friend wrote to him and said "wait till you get out here, you won't be going back to Cali" (we are in cali and they are in NJ) Now, my fiance and I both know his cousin and her chick are into gangs and drugs and we don't want there to be problems when we go there. We've talked about getting a restraining order, but I don't know how that works with out of state stuff and we're leaving in 4 days. Please help...

2007-09-09 15:54:57 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

i have this friend, hes a guy, i have been friends with him for a long time. like somehow he started ingoring me. i try to talk to him but he keeps on dodging me at school and everywhere( home too) nothings changes at all about me except i gotten a new guy friend at school, hes in alot of my class so i hang out with him more, like he helps me study or homework, but never can over my house or anything. is there something wrong with me?

2007-09-09 15:51:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I have been with my girl for a long time but 3 years ago i met this girl and we hit it off very well.The thing is she is married and i have been with my girl for about 15 years.But i still think of her.And recently seen her myspace.I did agree i wasn't going to see her again but she still on my mind.She told me the last we spoke that she loves me and we did kiss that only one time.I do want to leave her an email on her myspace but i don't want to look like a stalker.She is a fun girl to be with.I don't know what to do.

2007-09-09 15:51:45 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

To people who dated their mates first, got married, and then moved in together... .
What are some things you learned about the your husband/wife when you moved in together that you didn't like??

Im asking because I asked another question about getting married first before you move in together or moving in together then getting married. And alot of people said to move in together first to see if you can live with that person... So Im trying to figure out how moving with someone first chances your love for a person...


So what are some things you learned about your mate after marrying them that would make you want to divorce?

2007-09-09 15:47:20 · 3 answers · asked by MonaLisa 4 in Marriage & Divorce

My so called husband degrades me, is always putting me down, calling me names, is so mean to everyone. Even if it's not directly to them. I don't want our children to grow up to be that way. He never helps me with any of the house work. He comes home sleeps, eats and complains about the kids being in sports and being apart of that. He complains about taking them to practices to games. I want them to feel good about playing sports. He complains about the house not being cleaned. I run a in-home daycare. I do what I can when I can. We have 3 kids. I try to do laundry during the day. Dishes, run my business from 6am-6pm. I help my family when they need me too since my mom passed away. He does nothing but complain, never helps around the house. I can't do it all on my own. What things he could do he makes the kids do. He is so lazy! What do I do? It makes me so mad. When I talk to him about it he says I'm crazy. I really just want him to leave.

2007-09-09 15:39:17 · 27 answers · asked by Moon 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I used to be good friends with this one guy I used to like over the summer. Towards the end of July we drifted because I went out of state on vacation and my phone number changed. I 've gotten over him but we go to the same school and I've seen him around every other if not everyday but I don't know if I should go talk to him. I don't think girls should ever approach the guy. I'm worried he'll think I still like him if I go up to him but also don't want to lose touch with him as a friend.

I'm really just having conflicting feelings that part of me is just
:GO UP TO HIM ALREADY!!

and the other part of me is like

:if he doesn't see you or say hi, he probably doesn't want to talk to you


what do you guys think?

I should just forget about him and focus on the new guy that has come into the picture ..right?

2007-09-09 15:38:11 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i know this question is very stupid as it sounds..should i stay or leave? me and my "live-in BF" have been living together for almost 2 yrs now. and since we move from SF to Suckramento (lol) everything has changed. we fought for like every 2-3 weeks. most of the time for nothing. back in SF we don't have a car coz we don't really need it. and now that we have everything was falling apart between us. am i just being paranoid? what should i do? i'm thinking to leave this apartment and find myself. i left my relatives in SF and his family are all here. i admit that i'm being out of place. last time we fought it was physical and i was hurt really bad. he became hot tempered unlike before. it's like i cannot reason out or even raise my voice! help. should i stay or leave?

2007-09-09 15:34:42 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-09-09 15:29:13 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

i like this guy and its obvious he likes me so why wont he ask me out?

2007-09-09 15:26:07 · 29 answers · asked by kara :D 3 in Singles & Dating

My son is only five months old. But my partners step-father talks non-stop about 'when he's old enough' he can go hunting with him. I don't agree with hunting - I'm a vegetarian and wish to bring him up vegetarian UNTIL he's old enough to understand what he is eating. Then it is up for him to decide.

However, his step dad's career, well, is a "possum hunter". They are, supposidly a pest in New Zealand and he, well, poisons them (with very dangerous poisons not suitable to be around children), finds them later, brings them home and skins them. The carcasses are usually left around the driveway - without a skin. I've also stepped on things such as ears and testes before while visiting. His job is up to him, and job aside he is a VERY nice person. However i feel uncomfortable with him talking about taking him out hunting for possums (and sometimes wild pigs.)

Should I leave this and address it when it matters? Or should i or my partner talk to him before he gets carried away...opinions

2007-09-09 15:24:41 · 4 answers · asked by priestessofthepixels 4 in Family

Please elaborate

2007-09-09 15:24:25 · 4 answers · asked by 5324 2 in Singles & Dating

ER?

She was on drugs or either drunk while performing that song. When will this girl finally call it a day??

She needs to go home to her booboos, love on them, and stay in her house for a bit. She is a has been. I am sure she has plenty of money to take care of herself and her booboos for decades to come.

2007-09-09 15:21:41 · 3 answers · asked by KB 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Me and my husband are in the middle of a divorce but have recently decided to reconcile. We have 2 children and I desperately want to go back to school. Are ther any financial gains to going forward w/ the divorce?

2007-09-09 15:21:05 · 7 answers · asked by scared_mom 1 in Marriage & Divorce

After being married for nearly 16 yrs, my hubby decides he would like to go play cards every other Fri with his friends. At first I felt like we ( girl, 15 and boy 9) were not enough. Then I "pretty much" came to my senses and realized he may need this time for him. B4 you think too badly of me, I want to say that we don't see him that much as it is. 4 hrs Sun, 1 and a half hours each day from Mon-Wed. From 5pm til bedtime Thurs and Fri( his second job) and all day on Sat if he doesn't have to work. When it was Fris, it wasn't too bad....but then the friend changed it to Sats which is our day to be tgthr.We go out and eat as a fam, etc. Well, Hubby was very good about it and said that he didn't want that to take from our time. So he leaves to go after we get home. So, why is this still bothering me? I feel hurt and really don't know why. He has told me he would be happy for me if I went out with friends. So, he is really great. I feel so bad for feeling rejected. Be kind please. Thnks

2007-09-09 15:20:45 · 7 answers · asked by ShineOn 4 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-09 15:18:39 · 6 answers · asked by gecko7804 2 in Singles & Dating

Can somebody help me? I am a 16 year old girl who's best friend is a 17 year old gay guy. I was convinced that I was asexual, but I'm not so sure anymore. We have known each other for about four years and are very close and comfortable with each other. We have seen each other naked, and we do everything from taking baths together to laying in bed together. He's very clearly gay (and is convinced that he's not bi) but we tend to touch one another a lot.

I do not want to have kids, but he says that if change my mind when we're older, that he would have a child with me.

I personally frown upon sex before the age of 18, but I am worried that we might be fooling around and may go too far, if you know what I mean.

What should I do? Should I talk to him about it and ask him how he feels?

2007-09-09 15:18:09 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I am pregnant with my third child and due on Halloween! The past few months have been horrendous on my marriage. Although my husband and I have been married for more then 16 years, I feel we are growing further and further apart. When I was pregnant with our first two daughters, my husband was a joy to me, bringing me things in bed, coming home early to make me dinner, and he even took a paternal leave after she was born, to stay home with me and help out around the house. But soon after I found out about having our third, he has been the complete opposite. I should add that our 3rd WAS completely planned, so it's not like he wasn't ready. He stays out later from work, doesn't help out with the kids or the cleaning, and always has an attitude. In fact my 13 yr old daughter has been three times as helpful, as my husband has in the last 4 months. I fear he is perhaps cheating, and when I questioned him of this he said no way and then jut dropped it. I am so scared for the sake of my family, and I feel I will have to raise a third child on my own. I am at a complete loss, and need some advice, please anything will help! Thanks!

2007-09-09 15:12:31 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Whether it be religious tradition, or tradition that they should have a family and kids when they grow up, etc? Are we hurting our children more than helping them by enforcing traditions we were raised by upon them?

2007-09-09 15:11:59 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

im 5'5'' have red hair & wears glasses.

2007-09-09 15:11:55 · 24 answers · asked by sadie161994 1 in Singles & Dating

My husband is what I think is bipolar or depressed or angry or something. He explodes in outbursts all the time. Now he is threatening to quit his good job to bartend. He is 40 years old. He carries insurance for our family and everything. He drinks all the time now he wants to work in a stupid bar! Please tell me you agree a 40 yr married father need not quit a good paying career to tend bar? I tended bar for fun when i was 21 for gosh sakes!!!! IDEAS???

2007-09-09 15:10:02 · 10 answers · asked by Samantha 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I would really like to know just why so many single men that talk to single women think that the woman only has marriage on her mind?

Why can't we single women be recognized for what we are--single women - NOT -" single women hunting down a man!"

and no ---just because we aren't married doesn't mean we are gay,either!
One reason might be that the right one hasn't come along (but, then again, i don't have to have a REASON)

Having male friends is a good thing - don't get me wrong.
I am just curious about the mind of a single man

2007-09-09 15:09:58 · 6 answers · asked by sugarpie 4 in Singles & Dating

I know I should get something off the registry but everything they have is pots or pans. I don't think I should bring a set of pots and pans to a bridal shower. What do you think of me getting a gift card to a place like Victoria Secrets for the groom? I know it's not on the list but it's that what the bridal shower is for. The sexy stuff or honeymoon things?

2007-09-09 15:08:46 · 9 answers · asked by funkyprincess_01 2 in Weddings

2007-09-09 15:07:39 · 13 answers · asked by Alexandriagal 6 in Marriage & Divorce

Okay I had two dreams last night about two guys. One named Jesse and the other about a guy named Delean. Okay but in both dreams I was with the guy and alot of other people. Well in some part of every dreams I french kissed them and in real life it felt like I really did. What does this mean?

2007-09-09 15:07:25 · 14 answers · asked by hisbabygirl95 2 in Singles & Dating