i know this question is very stupid as it sounds..should i stay or leave? me and my "live-in BF" have been living together for almost 2 yrs now. and since we move from SF to Suckramento (lol) everything has changed. we fought for like every 2-3 weeks. most of the time for nothing. back in SF we don't have a car coz we don't really need it. and now that we have everything was falling apart between us. am i just being paranoid? what should i do? i'm thinking to leave this apartment and find myself. i left my relatives in SF and his family are all here. i admit that i'm being out of place. last time we fought it was physical and i was hurt really bad. he became hot tempered unlike before. it's like i cannot reason out or even raise my voice! help. should i stay or leave?
2007-09-09 15:34:42 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If he physically hurt you, then you don't even need to ask. Yes, you should leave him. He probably will not stop. You don't want to be in an abusive relationship. Find yourself a real man. Good luck
2007-09-09 15:41:58 · answer #1 · answered by mimi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please leave. Once someone starts hitting you, get out! DO NOT believe the hype that he'll only do it once. ALl couple will argue, and it will even get ugly, but when a man becomes phyical with a woman, trust me, there is a disconnect in the respect area and it is more likely to happen again rather than not, especially if it was a full blown fight. I have watched too many women go back to their mate, only to be wearig a pear of huge shades to hide their bruised eyes mere week or months after the infamous "never again" speech. If you don't get out now, you will get into a pattern of repeatedly getting beat. I forgot what you said was the issue that started all this, but this is one of those times where the events have by far overshadowed the original issue. Please love yourself first and him a distant second and get out. Blessings.....
2007-09-09 15:44:12 · answer #2 · answered by jmizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out!
He has no respect for you to begin with.
He is using the standard method of operation used by abusive men everywhere. They are not real imaginative.
He took you away from your family (support system) so he could do precisely this.
When it escalates from verbal abuse to physical abuse, the beatings keep increasing in intensity until you die.
Go home, start fresh, and don't move in with any guy unless you have a wedding ring first. Divorces are cheap, and you might as well get the benefit of 1/2 of all assets accrued during the marriage. Don't sell ever yourself short again.
2007-09-09 16:50:44 · answer #3 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if your bf is being physically abusive, you need to leave NOW, Go back to where you feel comfortable and have friends and family. If he hit you once, you can expect it to happen again. The second time may be worse. You don't deserve someone like that. Get out asap. Good luck.
2007-09-09 15:45:18 · answer #4 · answered by darlene z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you aren't just becoming paranoid!!!l will tell you a story which is true... you now l had a gf on the net...l really loved her so much...and sometime l saw that she has changed already...she was so cold to me...and l told that to her...but she said me that...hey YOU ARE A PARANOID...at that time l thought that maybe lm a real paranoid...because of that...l was loving her really much and (l think) she was loving me too!!! why should l thought that she had a bf in real life...then she told me that again and she said that "l can't be with you anymore"... l thought that she was right...l was acting like a paranoid...it takes really long time for l get the truth...and you know l find out that after 2 years she had 1 bf in her country already when she told me that " hey you are a paranoid" ... thats why be sure you aren't a paranoid...sorry for my poor english little girl...hope you get true way soon...take care
2007-09-10 06:32:04 · answer #5 · answered by Loser 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide, because ONLY you know the finer details.
The most important thing to do for you is to list down why you should leave or stay?
Based on that you may have a good decision at least something more logical..
take care
2007-09-09 16:39:22 · answer #6 · answered by trymejames 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the fight got physical you really might want to leave. Just from experience, the next fight might be the same way. You can do better and don't deserve to live like that. Just listen to yourself I think you really know what you nee to do. Hang in there.
2007-09-09 15:47:11 · answer #7 · answered by pj28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any man who can't handle his anger and hits you is not going to be made better by your staying. Get out and run as fast as you can.
Stop telling yourself "It will get better when..." It won't get better, you'll just get hurt worse.
2007-09-09 15:39:42 · answer #8 · answered by Jody 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋