they think they are doing it for for "good" reasons but when they say ithese things it hurts my feelings when i tey to tell them they wont listen. it is true i am not skinny and i am not pretty and i am 23 and finally at my last year in college it still hurts me why would my family do this. and it is not only my parents once my aunt said "look at all my beautiful neices nephews ..and stephanie! she said it wa a joke but it was really mean..those ar epicture sof my but dont look if u dont wanna puke
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2007-09-09 19:18:57 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i unblocked it
2007-09-09 19:31:08 · update #1
i did live on my own and i gave my parntes money to pay my rent ( i did not have a bank account for some dumb reason) thye never did not now i have to pay back rent and have to live at home i owe about 10,000 (they feel they dont own it to me since they pay for my tution)
2007-09-09 19:33:06 · update #2
yeah I know what you mean here is why the do this
they still think that by telling oh she is better than you or you look fat. it will help you realize it and improve on
They don't mean to hurt you they just want to realize but weren't raise that way at all .
Just Tell them this ..
LOOK I AM SO SICK AND TIRE OF YOU GUY TELLING NEGATIVE THINGS TO HELP IMPROVE ME
IT DOSEN"T WORK
2007-09-09 19:25:50 · answer #1 · answered by mikau l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree wholeheartedly. I am a very strong liberal but I do not use namecalling when debating politics. (well maybe sometimes I might slip - nobody's perfect). But I encourage everyone on both sides to do the same. Whether you lean to the right or left - this type of hatred towards the other side stifles constructive conversations and exchange of ideas, and only polarizes the sides of the political spectrum even more. I don't hate conservatives (I have many dear republican friends - we argue a lot - but in a friendly way). I do not agree with conservatives. There is such a big difference. I just wish more people, of all beliefs, would see that as well. I hope the namecalling and immaturity stop so that people can truly communicate about important issues. Not just in everyday conversation, but most especially those in actual positions of power - that's where this type of rhetoric does the most damage.
2016-05-21 00:30:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though they are family, if they have to make jokes at your expense then its not funny and from what I read there isn't any love there. But I'm an outsider. Me personally, I do away with negative people in my life (and yes I have even cut off some family memebers). Just think about it, you are in college, trying to make a better life for yourself, and they can't get passed your damn looks!?!?!? They call you stupid!?!? If you live by yourself, you should just not go around them so often, since it seems that they are the ones making you feel bad about yourself.
Well you said that you are not skinny, but working out and getting in shape can make you feel a hell of a lot better about yourself. Do you wear makeup? If not, its time to start. Start treating yourself and getting your hair and nails done every once in a while. Walk with your head up! Not down... Tell your parents how you feel about these comments.
All of this is to benefit you!! Not your family!! You are about to graduate and will probably be more financially well off then any of your cousins...
And remember, they are your parents!! So you have to look like one of them or both! So next time they say ugly just say "Well, I get it from you!" and walk away.
2007-09-09 19:34:25 · answer #3 · answered by Sweetie Pie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they're not doing this for "good reasons". and now they've made you believe it. build up your self-esteem and prove them wrong. you are about to graduate college...that proves you're not stupid. i'm sure you're not fat or ugly your parents and family members have told you this forever and have made you feel that you are. i couldn't see the picture, but if you feel insecure about your weight, then start to excersise. if you're worried about how you look, try some make-up or a new hair style. your family has made you extremely insecure and that's why they don't listen to you. they have put you down so much that you probably don't stand up for yourself like you should. i'm so sorry that your family did this to you. it will probably always affect you, but you could go talk to a therapist. that might help. make sure you do these things for you, so you can build your confidence and be proud of your accomplishments and yourself. i'm sure you are a good person. don't give up and don't lose hope and if you feel comfortable just as you are...don't change. just be your wonderful self! best of luck to you honey!
2007-09-09 19:39:08 · answer #4 · answered by ashley j 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For you to be in your last year of college, I'm guessing that your not "stupid", and there are ways to lose weight if you need to (www.morevitalityforyou.com) I didn't need to lose much but I lost 15 pounds in 3 weeks. You could too! I can't answer why your family would be so cruel (even if they say they are joking) Sounds like you need to just be around people that care about you and respect you for who you are. (I moved away from my family because of how they treated each other. I didn't want to be around all that negative junk) The old saying is true "you can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family" I'm sure if you eat healthy, get lots of rest and exercise, the beautiful "you" will come out! Just learn to accent your best features. We All have them!
2007-09-09 19:32:31 · answer #5 · answered by Vicky G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be so hard on yourself...yeah parents are a bit like that, for some reason they liek making their kids feel bad as to kill their confidence....i mean i have an aunt who tells her kid "get a large' when i'm sure she'll fit into a medium..idk i guess they are what you call haters...they can't see the good in anyone but the bad stuff and hey you're almost done w/ college..thats good! i'd be proud of you if you were my daughter, see in life there are more important things than appearances...you wont get by in life always by your good looks because like your hair it will fade and wither away...so just be happy that you'll know how to get by in life no need to use your looks to get what you want
2007-09-09 19:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by Buttercup 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are idiots. You are getting your degree, so we know you aren't stupid. Can't speak for the other two things, but, one could always lose weight, and go to the salon for some fine tuning. In the meantime your family will still be stupid. Go out make lots of money, and when they get old shove them into some crappy convalescent home, and tell them they should have been nicer!
2007-09-09 19:28:40 · answer #7 · answered by grouch2111 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
couldn't get you pic to come up etc.. not a memeber... don't have to look at you anyway... the saying of, "don't judge a book by it's cover." is as true today as it has always been..
look at Mother Teressa... come on now... beauty... nah... but she has changed thousands of peoples lives...
so.. they are saying mean things.. youre in your last year of college... and a time will come you will be on your own and you can decide if you want to be around people like that...
yea... we are a strange society based on looks... but I think your smart enough to see past that... and seem abit vulnerable right now... , so I guess... "Buck up little camper, it will be allright!" and when you don't with college and their is a job opening on the other side of the country... take it.
2007-09-09 19:28:33 · answer #8 · answered by Maken trax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds really sad.
Guess you are going to have to look inside of yourself to boost your self-esteem.
It is so mean for family members to act so terrible.
It sounds to me like your family members are the "ugly" ones.
Do you still live at home with your parents?
Have you thought about moving out of the state or to another city far from your family members for a while until you can boost your self-esteem?
2007-09-09 19:28:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to what poisin your parents are feeding you.
Can you move out...find a roomate to share a place with?
What you need to do is maybe see a counicller at college and tell her what is happening. Ask her for advice on what courses you can take to build your self esteem up again.
I Beleive in youself..do what you can to make youself feel good.
I don't know why some parents think it is ok to degrade their children.
2007-09-09 19:28:12 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents have unresloved issues.Probably childhood issues.I know it hurts when your own family utters destroying words towards you. Words have the power to build or destroy.However, you need to stand up for yourself. Just reverse/ cancel every negative word said to you by your family. Never allow these words to destroy you.Affirm yourself every morning.Look at yourself in the mirror and say: "iam beautiful, i accept and love myself ; God loves me just as iam".I due course your self-esteem will go up. You were created by God not by your parents.God loves you just as you are.You don't need to do something outstanding for God love you. Ask god to help you heal from this abuse.And also ask God to heal so that you don't repeat your family's patterns as a parent.
2007-09-09 21:16:57 · answer #11 · answered by Juju 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋