Family & Relationships - 21 August 2007

First of all this is not a typical situation. I love my husband and have stuck by him through everything and I believe once you marry someone they are your life through good times and bad. My husband has instigated some of the situations leading up to this. I am a confident person and happy with myself. At times I know I deserve better than what my husband puts into our relationship. I have always thought that the good times out weighed the bad. The fact is my husband would like to see me in bed with someone else and he would like for me to allow him the same. I find that morally wrong and degrading.He constantly trys to show off my body to his friends saying when they admire me it makes him feel that much more proud that I am his wife. I have fallen in love with our mutual friend of 7 yrs. Nothing is hidden from my husband, he openly knows how our friend feels about me and promotes the flirting that happens between the two of us. How could I believe I wouldn't fall for him?

2007-08-21 17:24:54 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

So, I was in 7th grade and there was one guy in 8th grade and he was thought to be gay but he really wasn't gay, he just liked drama, sewing, and stereotypical homosexual things, but he really wasn't gay because he liked ME, a girl.

So, he asks me out on a date, and I accept even though I feel too young. We go on a couple more outings together and he assumes we're going out even though I meant them strickly to be a friend basis kind of thing.

Word gets out about our dating, and I want to reject it. Soon, it dies down and I calmly explain to this guy that we're just friends, and not dating.

So, the word has died, but this very annoying kid in the grade above me keeps annoying me about it. And, what's worse, he's in my ballroom dancing class my mom and dad make me take so I must be PLEASANT around him.

One week a tragedy happened in my family, and I find out at a choral performance. He's sitting RIGHT behind me. Perfect moment? But he didn't annoy me.

Why do you think he annoys me?

2007-08-21 17:23:20 · 5 answers · asked by My Name Doesn't Fit Here 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

Ok well I live with my fiance with her greedy *** grandparents in Georgia and I am hoping to get 1000$ quick so I can move back to Ohio with my fiance. My dad in Ohio is willing to let us live with him and he doesn't ask for MONEY like her nutjob grandparents do. How can I get this fast and I AM SERIOUS!!!! I don't need stupid answers. We can't stand this anymore.

2007-08-21 17:19:26 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

what do you do when you tell a friend that you like some one andshesays she doesnt then dates him is she really your friend....i have known her since kindergarten

2007-08-21 17:18:19 · 19 answers · asked by kaitlin c 1 in Friends

I had an affair with a co-worker over a 3 year period. I really loved him deeply and I think he felt the same. We ended it 3 years ago when I got pregnant (with my husband's child). We've had little contact since. We work for the same employer but different buildings. We used to e-mail each other on birthdays but last year he e-mailed me a month before my birthday and told me we shouldn't do that anymore. I told him I agreed. He e-mailed me a long e-mail about a month ago talking about how he just has to say what's in his heart. How there is a part of him that wishes my little girl was our little girl. How he still wants to say those 3 little words at the end of e-mails. But he has always said that he loves his wife and is very happy in his marriage. He said it again in this last e-mail. How he thinks he's happier in his marriage then ever. What is this? I'm not a man, and am completely confused by his words He's always been so back and forth.

2007-08-21 17:17:48 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

at what age does the normal person start to have sex

2007-08-21 17:14:27 · 1 answers · asked by roni4196 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

We both lived in Pullman Washington & went to Gladish Middle School

2007-08-21 17:14:20 · 1 answers · asked by ilovemonkeybutt 1 in Friends

I really can't figure out a way to forgive one of my best friends and my guy for being with each other. It hurts so bad. Here's what happened:
Me and this guy really really liked each other and we got really close and we were pretty much a couple. I thought I loved him. We were together...[we never did anything] for about a year..and then there was this big fight b/t me and my best friends. [she's friends with him to] in which I asked him what he thought, and he told me he didn't like me anymore and then I found out that my best friend liked him and that he liked her...and that they wanted to be together. He wasn't even sorry...

They have hurt me so bad, esp. since they both lied to me. How do I forgive them..? Should I become friends with them again? If so..how do I make our relationships work? If not, then how do I tell them that, without hurting them?

2007-08-21 17:13:55 · 7 answers · asked by Becky 4 in Friends

ok.....im 14 and in 10th grade..and im the only one whos young for there grade....oh and if u want can someone make me an outfit.....if u feel like it........thnx

2007-08-21 17:13:18 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ive been with my guy for year and half, everytime Im around his parents or they come up home they pick on me so much that it nearly makes me cry, worse part is that my bf joins in, after they leave he thinksits all a big joke and then we fight about it.
Im preg with his baby and already have a daughter to his X mate and they say stuff to me like"oh lets take the beach whale back to sea" Im not fat still very small, and because im a aborigial they say stuff that hurt about that, I cant win either way with them or him , so hwo do i tell my bf that I hate what he and his family are doing to me?! Im not allowed to say anything to them becuase he goes of at me and well a few time were came close to hitting each other!!! SO WHAT DO I DO?!

2007-08-21 17:12:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I fell deep into this feeling of mine with him. I felt so safe,secured, and felt as though I can tell him anything. And I wanted to be his angel that he would turn to as the world came crashing down. I spoke of my feelings to him...and he spoke the same feelings to me too.

I was so happy, I was able to put my head on his shoulder, hug him and he actually ment it when he smiled and said I Was the best....we never dated or anything, because we both agreed to wait. And wait we did...a few weeks after those wanderful moments...I could feel my heart break and feel numb.

He told me he had no more feelings anymore, he didn't want to date me...and that's when I knew I had lost him. I feel so lost now...I want to move on...and i'm starting to like this other person..but how do I know i'm not likeing him only because i'm trying to replace the only person I told my feelings to, the only person that actually held onto me tightly and said I was special. I still have feelings for him.

2007-08-21 17:09:07 · 9 answers · asked by SweetCocoaAngel 1 in Singles & Dating

We've been dating for over a year. Saw where he was texting an unknown number. A week later I find out its his ex. The texts said something like "too bad were both taken" & he said "makes me wonder and want you"
she cheated on him in high school and is married now with two kids. Should I break up with him? Or just forget about it? Things have been good untill this. Right before I saw these texts he lost his phone at my house and was freaking out... makes me think he was trying to hide something

2007-08-21 17:08:28 · 18 answers · asked by cammieismycaddy 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Sudenly my wife is acting relatively normaly Sudenly changes mood ,talk to her she give short answers, or goes all night into bedroom,i try to think what i ,did i coulden't think of any most times,i ask is there anything wrong,or what did i do ,the answer is no..nothing.please identify your jender ,she is 54 i am 59 thanks

2007-08-21 17:08:26 · 18 answers · asked by frankbarakat 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Im newly married and there is different topics I think are important to talk about to make a marriage work, and so your clear about what you need and expect from the other person. For instance if i have a problem, I think i should be able to come to him in a calm manner and tell him how i am feeling and what i need from him. When i do this he freaks out and says he doesnt want to talk about it.
Or if there is something i would like him to do for me, like buy me flowers or surprise me with a romantic weekend, he takes it as him not being good enough when im really just trying to give him an idea of something i would appreciate.
I know we should of talked about expactations before we got married, but we didnt. Now when i try to talk about it he goes back to the I dont want to talk about that stuff and wont even look at me. In fact whenever i try to talk to him about anything serious he never says anything back, he goes silent and wont look at me. So how can i get him to open up?

2007-08-21 17:06:12 · 16 answers · asked by soldiersprincess 3 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-08-21 17:05:03 · 11 answers · asked by Nalz 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my dad and i seem to butt heads on politics all the time(i'm a very liberal libretarian, he's a very conservative republican). he told me just today that he saw a bumper sticker that he liked that said "don't vote for Osama Obama or Chelsea's Momma". i told him that those were my two personal front runners in who i was going to vote for. he went into how Obama was a Muslim,and i corrected him, that Obama was a Christian(he then pulled out the lie told on Fox News that Obama had went to a Madrassa(sp?) for 3yrs). i told him it wasn't true, and set the record straight w/him. and i said "well, the republicans certianly have done one *heck* of a job cleaning things up since 9/11(sarcastically said, obviously). he then rapidly changed the subject. my mom says we disagree bc our temperments are so similar,and, according to her, we both have a dire need to get the last word in. why do i fight w/him so much if we're supposedly so much alike?

2007-08-21 17:04:50 · 5 answers · asked by kelleygaither2000 1 in Family

do u have to be going out to kiss .. or can u kiss a really close guy friend???

2007-08-21 17:01:46 · 15 answers · asked by none 2 in Friends

My ex wife has been calling my girlfriends job for 6 months hanging up on her, as well as walking through the mall she works in even though she has a restraining order. In addition to that she has been calling my place at 330 in the morning to wake me when she knows my girlfriend is over and calling early mornings asking questions I gave her answers to days earlier. Last Friday, my ex dropped my kid off and the timing was really bad because my GF was drivng up at the same time. My daughter told me that my ex began to weep, and ask why my girlfriend could park in the covered parking at my building. She tells everyone that she is over me, but yet she still gets emotional. To make a long story short, minutes later she hit me and called the police and said that I hit her. We both were detained. I got a restraining order against her and she countered by sending the Sherriff’s to my mothers place to take my kids away (even though a court order says they are supposed to be there) How do I stop this? She is manipulating the law and playing the victim.

2007-08-21 17:01:26 · 24 answers · asked by CEDRICK H 1 in Marriage & Divorce

A while ago I had unprotected sex several times w/ someone I was dating. We preferred not to use condoms and to use the pull out method. I could have pushed the condoms on him but I got too comfortable with this routine. I now realize what an idiot I was. I have gotten tested for STDs and I am clean. I was lucky enough not to get pregnant. But now I feel this horrible guilt, I feel irresponsible and dirty as I wasn't in a relationship and I didn't have the sense to protect myself. I enjoyed dating this person but now all I can think of is what would have happened if I werent so lucky. How do I get over this??

2007-08-21 17:00:57 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Before marriage it is your parents, but after marriage it is your spouse. Whenever there is a murder the spouse is the first suspect because they gain all your money, so then why do they get to make the decision to turn off your life support system?

2007-08-21 16:59:38 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

im a 36b/34c.... im not out very far as far as the 34 inches go...my cup size is just bigger. i know people say that there is complications with boob jobs, but i have everything else as far as a good lookin body ..thats what my fiance says, but i dont think my boobs are porportioned to my body...dont get me wrong, they are a nice set...but i have looked at them so long that i dont know whether ornot they actually "fit" my body....should i or should i not do this?? i feel my confindence would sky rocket but im scared of them busting or whatever?

2007-08-21 16:57:32 · 9 answers · asked by lysendon20 1 in Singles & Dating

A boyfriend I had in college just called me back 5 years after our breakup, which was quite painfull for me at the time (for him quite less, because he was a lot in his 'ego trip' and being quite a player). Though, a lot have been going on in my life since then and I was quite happy to see him and know what he had become. He hugged me at the end of our meeting and seemed sincerely enthousiastic about seeing me. Of course, there was no 'love in the air'.. it was a reunion, nothing more.

Is it true that at some point, if you do not call back, your exes will always want to get in touch with you after a while? Have you experienced it?

2007-08-21 16:55:20 · 7 answers · asked by Azucar 1 in Singles & Dating

if you knew something was different at age 10 or younger what actions or signs did you display?

2007-08-21 16:54:03 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

i cant believe this stuff actually goes on. most of the people doing it are well respected people. then they have the nerve to lie about why they are visiting a child. i mean what the hell is the attraction with a child? some people even mess with infants. how sick! what are your thoughts on this subject?

2007-08-21 16:48:58 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

i cannot state or express ANY anger at all in my marriage because there is only room for one person to ever be angry in this household--HIM. i told him 3 nights ago that i had anger building inside of me because i have recently discovered after 5 years of marriage all the lies he has told me...complete fabrications of events, portrayed himself as a war hero, lied about scars on his body, stating that they were from war injuries, many other lies, lies, lies. nothing about himself has turned out to be true...anyway, i generally told him i had anger toward him (didn't yell, don't ever cuss at him or accuse) just stated the facts...next day, he ripped me to shreds verbally, attacking me on every level, from motherhood to who knows what all! it was very traumatic. i can't take much more. he takes meds for bipolar disorder. he's 63, we sleep in separate rooms, he doesn't want affection or sex, and i'm basically fed up. is there ANY hope for this situation from a medical standpoint?

2007-08-21 16:41:31 · 15 answers · asked by diamond heart 4 in Marriage & Divorce

Please help me choose i need one for the dance in 2 weeks?

2007-08-21 16:24:31 · 8 answers · asked by natasha is hot 1 in Friends

How many times do you have sex before you have and "o"? My husband and I can go about 3 times in one week and on the 1st time of the following is when I finally have the "o", then back to the 3x waiting period. Is this normal. Sex is still great even when I don't.

2007-08-21 16:20:44 · 18 answers · asked by sassy lady 4 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-08-21 16:19:10 · 19 answers · asked by seshadri - 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

whats the best way to pleasure you husband

2007-08-21 16:15:18 · 13 answers · asked by pualla walla 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My family and I are moving from Australia to the US (i'm Australian and my husband is American), my husband is moving over next month and myself and our 2 children (3 and 19 months) are waiting for paperwork so we won't be moving for a few months later.
I'm excited about the move but i'm also worried about not having any friends or family. I'm worried that I won't fit in or won't be able to find a job, I just don't know what to expect. How can I make this a smooth transition without worrying so much?

2007-08-21 16:13:28 · 10 answers · asked by JazzyKat 2 in Family