I really can't figure out a way to forgive one of my best friends and my guy for being with each other. It hurts so bad. Here's what happened:
Me and this guy really really liked each other and we got really close and we were pretty much a couple. I thought I loved him. We were together...[we never did anything] for about a year..and then there was this big fight b/t me and my best friends. [she's friends with him to] in which I asked him what he thought, and he told me he didn't like me anymore and then I found out that my best friend liked him and that he liked her...and that they wanted to be together. He wasn't even sorry...
They have hurt me so bad, esp. since they both lied to me. How do I forgive them..? Should I become friends with them again? If so..how do I make our relationships work? If not, then how do I tell them that, without hurting them?
2007-08-21 17:13:55 · 7 answers · asked by Becky 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
*SAMI*: I didn't lie to you, if you understood my post, you'd understand that I am speaking from experience, since I know how your friend would feel. I edited my answer so you would understand what I was saying better.
2007-08-21 18:30:41 · update #1
The question is do you really want to be friends with them and can you forgive them?But if it was me i'd feel better just letting them go if thet hurt me so badly and betrayed my trust like that.Maybe in the future you can forgive them,but right now i think that you would just be better off without them for right now.
2007-08-21 17:27:13 · answer #1 · answered by demonfirelife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in a similar situation that your in but i was the friend who betrayed another, i feel this way do not let a guy come in b/t your friendship. (your friend will always be there guys come and go a dime a dozen) Best friends go through obstacles to test there friendship, don't let this situation tear you apart. It may take sometime to mend a broken heart, but try to understand if you were on the other end of the situation what would you do? The best thing you can do is talk to her and ask her why?
2007-08-29 14:27:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Pretty much a couple"? Committed to each other, or not?
Did they actually lie to you, or just not disclose to you their feelings for each other.
Give yourself some time away from them. Try to understand what has happened...how would you handle this if YOU were the other girl? Then, if you can be friendly, resume your friendship, do it. If you can't, move on.
2007-08-29 07:31:19 · answer #3 · answered by lfh1213 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Skrew them both. Youre better off without backstabbing snakes in the grass who smile in your face just to get one step ahead. Move on and keep you head held high. Dont worry about people in your past, there is a reason they didnt make it to your future!
2007-08-29 14:27:15 · answer #4 · answered by firehousechihuahua 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say move on and find better friends. You will find yourself forgiving them when you are ready. You deserve much better.
2007-08-21 17:40:40 · answer #5 · answered by Krazy K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh and when you answered my question you were lying? You obviously dont know what your talking about if you are saying one thing one minute and another thing the next.
2007-08-21 18:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just were given a favor. isn't it great that it didn't go further. now you can look for someone worth of you and hes with whatever. you ar e lucky cause he will eventually cheat with her also just be happy
2007-08-29 14:56:23 · answer #7 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋