Ive been with my guy for year and half, everytime Im around his parents or they come up home they pick on me so much that it nearly makes me cry, worse part is that my bf joins in, after they leave he thinksits all a big joke and then we fight about it.
Im preg with his baby and already have a daughter to his X mate and they say stuff to me like"oh lets take the beach whale back to sea" Im not fat still very small, and because im a aborigial they say stuff that hurt about that, I cant win either way with them or him , so hwo do i tell my bf that I hate what he and his family are doing to me?! Im not allowed to say anything to them becuase he goes of at me and well a few time were came close to hitting each other!!! SO WHAT DO I DO?!
2007-08-21 17:12:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I do have a life I have my daughter thats my life but also I need someone in my life to give me a bit of peace of mind!
2007-08-21 17:21:33 · update #1
This is to AEROSMITH LOVE:
I know i have trouble in my realtionship but i would never never ever think about giving my child up and the one ont he way, my daughter has a loving home and i never , well me and my parnter never ever fight around her or dont raise our voices when shes in the house, so if anyone else is going to tll me to give my kids then i dont what to hear it, my kids are better of growing up with there mum and dad even if we have trouble in our life!
2007-08-21 18:18:46 · update #2
That's very verbally abusive and disrespectful behavior. If you stay, it'll only get worse, and he just might hit you one day. If he cared about how you felt, he'd talk to his parents and ask them not to do that and he'd consider your feelings too, which he doesn't. Sounds like you 2 need a break from each other. All this stress is not good for you and your baby. Talk to a domestic counselor about what's going on and your options and how you can wean yourself off of him; obviously this is causing you some distress to say the least to be on here asking this. Another thing you can do is when they do talk to you, look them in the eye and tell them calmly that you do not appreciate that joke, that you feel upset or sad when they say that as soon as they say it, then change the subject. Walk away when he or you are mad and about to get into a fight and come back together later when both of you are calm. A better thing to do is to avoid all of them altogether. You cannot change them, but you can change yourself, and you do not need to be bringing up your children in that environment to learn to disrespect you too. If he really wants you, he will try to win you back, and be willing to see a counselor or get himself examined to see if he needs meds to calm himself down. Try to see how long you can go without him and push yourself to go longer, and longer, and longer. If you don't, and you continue to stay with him, he will keep doing this to you, because he has issues that need to be addressed on how ladies need to be treated with love and affection and how to stand up for you. If you still want him after a trial "separation", then let him know that if he gets help, you might consider it, but he has to prove himself worthy of you, and no more verbal abuse, or you're out the door, for good next time. And keep that promise to yourself and to your babies.
2007-08-21 17:33:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like these kids aren't going to grow up in a supportive home. if you don't think you can handle being around these people, don't bother with them! you could also give up your kids, which i'm sure would be SO hard, but would giving them a better start at life help you too?
try telling your partner's parents that you don't appreciate being talked to like that and if they can't stop then you won't be able to be around them anymore.
2007-08-21 17:29:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably is just siding with his parents because he is scared. You just need to ask why he is being so immature afterwards and acting as if he just got back from a screening of The Colbert Report.
2007-08-21 17:31:05 · answer #3 · answered by Mark F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it dosnt sound like u two have a good relationship! him and his family talks about u, u have violent arguments and wat makes the situation worse is ur pregnant wit his baby so u cant erase him out of ur life ( which would be the best thing for you, but not for ur baby )
u and ur bf need to sit down and have a serious talk about this just tell him how u feel and if he dosnt wanna act like a adult then u need to leave his stupid a*s
2007-08-21 17:25:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You picked him. All you have to do is leave him. If you dont leave then expect to be abused for the rest of your life and for your child to also not only witness it but be abused also.
2007-08-21 18:01:02 · answer #5 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id tell him if he joins in,hes gone! let him know its not funny to you and that youll leave him! and do it!
when he stops joining in,then you also include that he should tell them to knock it off! or that the two of you wont visit anymore! he is your man,make him stand up for you or dump him!
I had THE SAME situation when my NOW hubby and I started dating,I told him to knock off his ****,when he prooved he would then I told him I wasnt comfy with his family and we rarely see them now,and when we do,he makes them be respectful of me for the most part,they sneak their crap in when he is out of the room etc...but for the most part its a happy situation,we rarely visit!
2007-08-21 18:06:45 · answer #6 · answered by adc7492 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
damn, well you should just ignore them cus arguing about them will only make you and ur partner worse with each other, and if he cant see you and he can only see what his rents think of you , you should talk about that
2007-08-21 18:32:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how bout you stop almost crying and leave him and his creepy family and get a life.it sounds like the movie Texas chainsaw massacre
2007-08-21 17:20:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dump him.
2007-08-21 17:18:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
they think you're not good enough. drop him and the p's.
2007-08-21 17:18:13 · answer #10 · answered by 27ysq 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋