We've been dating for over a year. Saw where he was texting an unknown number. A week later I find out its his ex. The texts said something like "too bad were both taken" & he said "makes me wonder and want you"
she cheated on him in high school and is married now with two kids. Should I break up with him? Or just forget about it? Things have been good untill this. Right before I saw these texts he lost his phone at my house and was freaking out... makes me think he was trying to hide something
2007-08-21 17:08:28 · 18 answers · asked by cammieismycaddy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would be very hurt that after a year of him letting me become emotionally involved with him that he would hand me such a dirty deal!!It would not matter to me at this point that he even claimed he never done anything with her because the intent was there. He has proved his character to you that he cannot be trusted! Your boyfriend and his ex would deserve everything they would get if her husband finds out about this. The red flag is waving high in the air that he is not right with you and has no respect for you in the relationship.
2007-08-21 17:24:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't take this wrong but do you hear yourself,if you were on the out side of this and read what you just wrote you be laughing at yourself. Your boyfriend lost his phone in your house he freaks you find the phone and instead of giving it back to him you take a look inside and found things out about him you don't like. You do know that the two of them are working up to start an affair and make no mistake it will happen if it hadn't already. If you ask him about this he will come up with a story only you would believe only because the truth is to hard. You would be better off if you left him but you won't you will go on believing his bull s h i t until one day he tells you he doesn't love you and it's over he is in love with another.
2007-08-21 18:22:33 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He WAS trying to hide something, wasn't he?...."makes me wonder and want you...." not cool for you, is it? Ought he be angry if you were doing this with an ex????? I think so.
This guy really is a mug-womper --- his mug on one side of the fence and his womp on the other. If you and he have agreed to be a committed couple, some how he doesn't seem so committed does he?????..... in your place, think I'd be back peddling about now.....and keeping my options open. I don't know if I'd leave just yet, but I sure as hell couldn't forget it.... since sharing ought not to be in your game plan... The taste of a guy who is still stuck on his ex isn't very flavorful, sweetie.... you may, over the next several days decide his deceit is too great....
2007-08-21 17:36:48 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's talking to the ex he obviously has not fully gotten over her. That's a kick in the teeth if I've ever heard one. Did you confront him about this yet? I'd say call her but after you read the text it's obvious that it's a situation of "lust". He's a pig. I'd say dump him. Who's to say he won't do it again? A little over a year isn't that much time invested if you really think about it. She's a loser too!
2007-08-21 17:16:53 · answer #4 · answered by glittereyedg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have some pretty substantial proof....I think I would take the high road and just tell him, I don't believe your sure what you want.....call me when you are....and leave, and let that be that. If he was totally into you, that wouldn't happen. And if he IS totally into you, he'll realize he's letting something good go and pursue you with all his might.....IF HE DOESN'T DO THAT LET IT GO AND MOVE ON!!~!! It will make things so much easier, so much quicker, and not drag it out forever. Then your free to find that man that you "Never thought would come along....who adores you, and wants you with him ALWAYS, even if it's just doing laundry......" Good Luck Girl!
2007-08-21 17:19:49 · answer #5 · answered by 123..WAIT! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was hiding it for sure or you would know about it. RIGHT!!! If he can't do it in front of you or talk about it it's defiantly wrong. Normally if it's nothing it can be talked about because there's nothing to hide or be worried about. So I think he's wanting a little of both, specially if he can and it looks as if he's trying to. Why do question your gut and what you already know and seen!!!! You'll be setting yourself up for the next time too.
2007-08-21 17:27:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound good...the text messages basically say it all. Do you want someone who is thinking of someone else? Also, she is pathetic for carrying on these conversations while married.
2007-08-21 21:18:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would move on if he makes you feel this way now can you imagine what it would be like later in life. Constantly fighting about stupid things... Don't waste your time. Good Luck!!!
2007-08-21 17:13:52 · answer #8 · answered by Buttterfly123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should confront him for sure. Tell him what you found and that you think he is a jerk a deserve better. Explain to him you will not put up with this. It is not right.
2007-08-21 17:37:00 · answer #9 · answered by Bree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so he's lusting after a married woman. nice. you spent a year vested into this man. cut him loose. everyone wants a partner's attention. they shouldn't have to share it with any other person. especially an ex.
2007-08-21 17:56:30 · answer #10 · answered by Isabella S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋