I fell deep into this feeling of mine with him. I felt so safe,secured, and felt as though I can tell him anything. And I wanted to be his angel that he would turn to as the world came crashing down. I spoke of my feelings to him...and he spoke the same feelings to me too.
I was so happy, I was able to put my head on his shoulder, hug him and he actually ment it when he smiled and said I Was the best....we never dated or anything, because we both agreed to wait. And wait we did...a few weeks after those wanderful moments...I could feel my heart break and feel numb.
He told me he had no more feelings anymore, he didn't want to date me...and that's when I knew I had lost him. I feel so lost now...I want to move on...and i'm starting to like this other person..but how do I know i'm not likeing him only because i'm trying to replace the only person I told my feelings to, the only person that actually held onto me tightly and said I was special. I still have feelings for him.
2007-08-21 17:09:07 · 9 answers · asked by SweetCocoaAngel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We never went out or were a couple or anything. We wanted to get to know each other more before going any further...but that failed that's for sure.
2007-08-21 17:14:43 · update #1
This whole thing is new to me. I never confessed my feelings to anyone before. ya know...
And I just want to stand in the rain with him, I want to be his angel, I want to share memories wiht him, I want the best for him...but maybe it's true I wasn't the best for him...so I do have to let him go. I'm just really worried about him. That's all.
2007-08-21 17:24:17 · update #2
you don't have to be with anyone. take some time to recover and then when it feels right you'll know. be independent.
2007-08-21 17:14:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This must be devastating for you. I would suggest you pack some things when he is at work, take the kids and go on a holiday with them for a week. Leave him a note that only says "I have taken the kids and gone away to think I will be in touch" Do not tell him where you are going or how to contact you. Do not tell him how long you are goin away for or when your are coming back. Do not tell anyone else what you are doing. Do not call or contact him while you are away. Don't tell the kids before hand, when you are on the way to your holiday then tell them it was a surprise and you wanted to give them a treat, daddy couldn't come because he is working. Then they will have a nice time and enjoy being with you. Use that time away to enjoy being on your own and deal with the crisis when you return. You cannot change what he wants "whatever his reason is" but you can change what you do. Maybe when you are gone and he does not know where you are or what you are doing he may realise that he does want marriage then again maybe he will feel the same when you come back. Either way you will have taken control of your life for that week and build yourself up by reminding yourself of all the good things about you and your life.
2016-05-19 05:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you something that might relate---
Not too long ago I had a little puppy Chihuahua that died in surgery. I loved that dog so much, and it broke my heart in a million peices when i found the thing i loved most was gone.
But you know what happened? I found a new Chihuahua and loved it just as much, if not more!
Whenever you lose something you love, it hurts and there is a period of mourning. But once that period is eventually over, you will find something (or someone) else to fall for, and your emotions for the former love will disipate.
I would definately recommend dating someone new (don't rush it though), and eventually you will forget about the former love. It happens to every single person, and that's a part of life. It's so hard, but feelings do change. Good luck
2007-08-21 17:16:42 · answer #3 · answered by sandy w 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time is the best healer - seriously. Don't think about him, don't try to contact him, and ABSOLUTELY NO DRUNK DIALING! I wouldn't necessarily say that dating on the rebound is the best thing either. No offense really but it does sound like you're a little naive about relationships and love and that sort of thing. Ask yourself this - would you really be happier if you knew that the only reason that he stayed with you was because he felt sorry for you? Look, you can't FORCE someone to like you back. Unrequited love sucks but I think you should just take some time out from trying to be in a relationship and concentrate on yourself. Love is funny like that - when you're not looking for it, it finds you.
2007-08-21 17:20:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby, we've all been there. It is true, time heals. I know so well this feeling, try to hang out with friends, watch your favorite TV shows, eat your favorite food, exercise, and turn your mind to other things. Life will only get better from here. Good luck!
2007-08-21 17:12:19 · answer #5 · answered by carinainka 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you're feeling is normal after a breakup, but believe me, soon you will feel less and less pain and realize that there are other guys out there that are ten times better than the guy you just broke up with.
2007-08-21 17:12:57 · answer #6 · answered by generasian2001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Damn, can anybody spell just one fricking word right on the whole Y!A community? There are 6 Billion people in this world, and apparently none of them ever passed second grade.
2007-08-21 17:23:31 · answer #7 · answered by supsarge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like he was out for something else and not your companionship, he doesn't deserve you. I fee you should move on and not only to take him out of your mind, find sometime to heal and then move on, otherwise you may look for those same things of him in the other person.
2007-08-21 17:15:39 · answer #8 · answered by mskash 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
JUst vent for a while take a while off let your heart heel and dont try 2 move on to fast until ur physically and emotionally
2007-08-21 17:13:40 · answer #9 · answered by Aisha C 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋