How many times do you have sex before you have and "o"? My husband and I can go about 3 times in one week and on the 1st time of the following is when I finally have the "o", then back to the 3x waiting period. Is this normal. Sex is still great even when I don't.
2007-08-21 16:20:44 · 18 answers · asked by sassy lady 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
first time.
My guy is really good about that though, he is selfish in a good way, I dont get to play till I orgasm. Such a tease but it works for us. Remember the key to the great "O" is clitoral stimulation... tell ur guy that to get to the great "O" he needs to use oral, or some form of clitoral stimulation... penetratoin alone will not do it for most women. Try out a few different things and see where it takes you.
Good luck! :)
2007-08-21 16:27:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey there, The big O is up to you girl! Include a vibrating toy or your own hands. Ask him to stimulate you at the same time. A C-ring with a vibe atached can always be fun. This helps him last longer so that you can reach that O too! Try new positions. Some great positions can stimulate the G-spot which is ANOTHER orgasmic spot us women have. US women are the only ones who can have multiple orgasms. Always remember to breath through the sensations and this will help prolong the feeling.
2007-08-21 23:34:16 · answer #2 · answered by SW 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you tensing up... or placing pressure on yourself because your anticipating or wanting to "o" so badly each time... this type of anxiety may cause the pattern your noticing... by the 3rd time you may be relaxing more because your hopes aren't as high or your gaurd is down!
Try to relax and not concentrate on the "o" and just focus on the present sensations, allow yourself to really enjoy it.
If that doesn't sound like your situation... and it's more that he finishes first the following times and then he's done... then try warming up some without him or let him know you need alot more foreplay. There is also stimulating creams or female libido enhancers that may help... most adult gift shops carry such things.
Hope this helps! Have fun:)
2007-08-22 00:11:53 · answer #3 · answered by Sorry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an orgasm every single time. Maybe like 10 times in 3 yrs i didnt have one. He waits for me first before he has one. If you are satistfied with what you have then whats the problem? IF not maybe tell him u need more foreplay or longer time during sex?
2007-08-22 00:03:16 · answer #4 · answered by lovebug512 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Real Piece of Advice: Learn to be in control of your own "O". It is not all his job, it is yours! Learn about yourself and what makes it good for you. Talk to your partner, let him know what you like. DO NOT FAKE IT EVER!!! You will only miss lead him and keep him doing what is not working. Sometimes, I do not get it either, I just let him know and he takes care of it. If you have a good man, he will see to it that you get yours first before he gets his, if he feels it's "one of those nights." The key is talking to him, leading him. Leading his hands, making noise at the right moments, not misleading him. He really is into it if you are. I'm sure you have noticed that. If you are not getting it, it is on you, not him. Tell him with you actions. You will be so glad that you did. Experiment with everything, find what does it for you!!!! Belive me, he has.
2007-08-21 23:55:49 · answer #5 · answered by LuvinLos 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All women are a little different. I usually have one everytime.
Are you guys doing something different on the times that you do? Or more relaxed, less stressed.? Maybe that's just normal for you?
PS. Just read Rosei16.. I agree with her advice...
also, you may need to communicate more with your husband about exactly WHAT works for you. He can't read your mind , ya know.
2007-08-21 23:27:46 · answer #6 · answered by Bentley 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
pretty much every time.
check out the book called orgasms by lou piaget-- it's not raunchy at all i wish it wasn't called that. but it's a wonderfully informative book and because of it my husband understands my needs a LOT more now.
2007-08-21 23:38:55 · answer #7 · answered by carcar 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have the big O every time. It helps that I am very in tune with my body and know what works for me.
Hint(involve your own hands during)
2007-08-21 23:26:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
That's what most men don't understand about women we don't need to have an orgasm like they do.Sex it's self feels pretty dam good even when we don't have a orgasm.Don't get me wrong we women prefer to have one but sometimes we just don't and that's OK.
2007-08-21 23:49:42 · answer #9 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I hate to say it but women usually don't "o" every time. Pay attention to what is being done when you do "o" and ask your husband to do that more often!!
Good Luck!
2007-08-21 23:28:30 · answer #10 · answered by babyj248 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋