A while ago I had unprotected sex several times w/ someone I was dating. We preferred not to use condoms and to use the pull out method. I could have pushed the condoms on him but I got too comfortable with this routine. I now realize what an idiot I was. I have gotten tested for STDs and I am clean. I was lucky enough not to get pregnant. But now I feel this horrible guilt, I feel irresponsible and dirty as I wasn't in a relationship and I didn't have the sense to protect myself. I enjoyed dating this person but now all I can think of is what would have happened if I werent so lucky. How do I get over this??
2007-08-21 17:00:57 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My first time, I did used condoms. Believe me, this isn't an issue of sexuality at large. It's just that I was too indulgent with him and with myself.
2007-08-21 17:14:57 · update #1
Luckily you came away from that unscathed. It is very importanant to be safe and not everyone is always 100% percent safe, even though we know we should be. However, it only takes that one time sometimes, but thankfully you came out okay. There is no need to feel guilty. Wheather you were dating the person or not, you have the right to do what you will with your body;however, if you are feeling guilt, that's not really being comfortable with your decisions after the fact. You need to ask yourself why you are feeling so much guilt? Is it because you feel you didn't respect yourself enough to ask your date to put on a condom, that maybe you felt you were being too accommodating to him not wanting to wear one? You are not an idiot. You made a decision that you realize now wasn't the best for you. In the future, carry condoms with you always (even when you think you don't need them) and be aware that you can catch something from anyone and it doesn't make you a bad person or an idiot. Just be more careful and protect yourself. You need to see yourself past this because, this was in the past and you can learn from it. Getting hung up over it will not erase what happened! Nobody will give you a medal for calling yourself an idiot because you had unprotected sex and got lucky and caught nothing!!! Take from this the fact that you feel so out of control that you are making yourself feel badly over something you cant change and even if you did...what difference would it make now? I dont know if this is the first time you had sex with anyone, but if it is then you may have a different problem concerning feeling unclean and dirty...you may just have a huge problem dealing with your sexuality and yourself.
2007-08-21 17:12:49 · answer #1 · answered by BluePeach17 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know what this feeling is. It is the worst feeling in the world, and it goes away after time. Firstly, stop having sex unprotected. Second, stop having sex until you can get your feelings and thoughts in order. That's what I did, and I was able to get over the emense guilt that suddenly came over me. I felt guilty for a lot of reasons.. for her, for her family, our future. Those things could have been comprimised.
Anyways, be careful, and do NOT beat yourself up too hard. I did that, and it's not going to help. Just do the right thing and you will make it out of guilt
2007-08-21 17:10:53 · answer #2 · answered by sandy w 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have sex wit out protection is playing Russian roulette.You were lucky since nothing took place.The guilty conscience perhaps stays a couple of days till the shock about the whole incident is gone for good.Don't panic.You play the crazy game and you;re the winner.Once is too many, so next time,use your head and avoid later headaches.Be smart and have fun.
2007-08-21 17:09:45 · answer #3 · answered by Mario Vinny D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking about it. Its over and you learned a valuable lesson without having caught anything. You are all the wiser for it so just let it go! Most of us have done sexual things in the past we're not proud of but forget it and just move forward.
2007-08-21 17:09:56 · answer #4 · answered by lovebug512 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really dangerous! First of all the pull-out method doesn't work. In order to get over this guilt...don't do it again! Protect yourself.
2007-08-21 17:06:14 · answer #5 · answered by sasa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you do tests for infective diseases and you was good then you should thank god and never do that again , you always ask your partner to wear condom before you do sex.
2007-08-21 17:09:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be smarter next time and feel assured knowing you won't let it happen again.
2007-08-21 17:04:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no point in worrying about the past...simply a waste of time... look forward to the future..... & try not to repeat the mistakes....
2007-08-21 17:06:24 · answer #8 · answered by toby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't repeat the same mistake again
2007-08-21 17:06:48 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Riddle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Years of therapy because you are definitely crazy.
2007-08-21 17:11:49 · answer #10 · answered by naked_lunch82 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋