Family & Relationships - 18 July 2007

I have been with this man for 4 years. We have been engaged twice (He broke it off both time because of mistrust). I have never cheated on him. Recently my father was seriously injured an has been in the hospital for the last 4 weeks. My mother is also not well and I have been caring for her both physically and financially. I am a Mom of 2 boys. I have asked my boyfriend for emotional support because this has all been so overwhelming for me. He has not been supportive, in fact he has withdrawn more. When I ask him why he states, I don't know. I guess because I still have some trust issues with you. I have asked him repeatedly to just stand by my side and help me through this family crisis. His only imput lately has been to tell me I am depressed and should see a psychiatrist. I may be depressed but he is making it worse in my opinion. I think anyone going through what I am would feel down and need a significant others support. Am I right?

2007-07-18 13:15:42 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I met a guy, a week ago we have been hanging out, he keeps his word he likes to take me out ,took me on his job,I am going to meet his parents this weekend, he tells me how bad he wants a relationship it feels right with us. I like how it is going to but i think it is 2 soon to jump in a serious relationship. He has not asked for sex or anything he is almost perfect. Are there really such things as true love stories wherre everything happned right away??

2007-07-18 13:10:19 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am a guy.I ask such questions to understand the kind, good,beautiful and lovely girls.

[1]Is it true that girls can control sexual feelings better than boys.

[2]Is this also true that once the couple starts having sex then the girls go crazy(sex-drive in Girls are more than boys).

2007-07-18 13:03:16 · 12 answers · asked by good.boy999 1 in Singles & Dating

My gf is very attractive, religious, intelligent, etc. My issue is that she is rather inconsiderate at times. I open the car door for her, she just get's in and sits there, not opening the door for me.

Forgot my b day and apologized next day, stating she would make it up to me. I had to tell her to buy me a gift and she did, spending more money than I thought she would.

Once in the six months we've been dating, was she 40+ minutes late. I had to call her to find out what was up. Her bird crapped on her stuff and she was embarrased to tell me that's why she was going to be late. She agreed to call next time, but was late again a week later, but she called. Then again a week later only she was 20 minutes late, but no phone call.

There are a lot of little things like this, some worse than what I have mentioned. She is a good girl, no xzex before marraige, etc. but even though I talked to her about this stuff recently, even though she tries to correct it, it's always something.

2007-07-18 13:02:52 · 16 answers · asked by jason j 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have read a lot of sayings. people said it is better if yer hubby loves u more. but it doesnt mean i have to marry someone whom i have no feeling with right? someone also said it is best to choose someone financially stable. well yes, that sounds right.
so how do u made the decision? i believe, in a woman's life, she will meet countless man. and i think those who is suitable to be her hubby are absolutely more than 3 people. For me, I want to get the best that I can get. is it wrong to think like that? if not, how to choose the best (that i can get and is suitable)?

2007-07-18 12:58:49 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband is ill. I have been asked more than once by different nurses why I married him. I find that rude and don't know how to handle it nor what to make of it. We have been together for 13 years, and were married two years ago.

2007-07-18 12:57:01 · 8 answers · asked by goodness 3 in Marriage & Divorce

K I got this bubble and I'm stuck in it.
I'm gonna start talking to girls when I got home thats my plan
You know just any girl I find attractive, but you see I don't know what to say..
I mean I know when to react....

*When a girl stares at you
*When she's alone
*When you feel it inside

But what do I say?

*Hi what time is it?
*Do you come here often?
*I like that shirt skirt ect...
*I like your hair, eyes, ects

Cyeah I'm not trying to be a pimp or anything I just think its time for me to start going after(or attept to) a girl... I never had a girlfriend, but now I'm ready to go!

2007-07-18 12:56:06 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have a lot of dating experience and have read more than a few books on dating and the psychology of male and female courting. Having experienced it first hand I know for a fact that falling in love, or out of love for that matter are not logical, conscious choices. There are external things that we see, hear, feel and smell that trigger attraction in us. You can fall in love, get married and 1,2 or 50 years later fall out of love, or worse yet, fall in love with someone else that is more physically attractive, funnier, has more money, than your current spouse and since we are emotional creatures we tend to stray. I would like to think my hot yet uber religious gf who wants to wait until married is above this but I am worried that since she has had sex with one man already, shortly after she was date raped by another, that even she may give in to temptation. Only thing that comforts me is knowing that she abstained several years before and several years after/since then.

2007-07-18 12:54:08 · 17 answers · asked by jason j 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-07-18 12:53:30 · 3 answers · asked by music4life 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I don't have many friends that shear the same thing I like to do.I mean nothing in common we all get along cuz we are all different but this is my last I want to make more friends.How would I go about making friends.Say like if I saw this girl who seems like cool person(she has cool band tees.I also like the bands too).How would I talk or make converstion with her.thanks in advance

2007-07-18 12:53:20 · 2 answers · asked by fist wrapped in blood 3 in Friends

or be up to my guts in his nuts for the night?

2007-07-18 12:53:00 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Do you tell each other you love each other every day? Do you kiss goodbye everyday? I hate hearing from people since my fiance and I are a newly engaged couple, when someone over hears us say "pumpkin" or "hunny" they are like "oh wait ten years and see if it's still like that!" My response back is "I hope so!" Please give me faith and tell me that there are married couples out there that still love each other madly?!?!?!

2007-07-18 12:52:55 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Whats the first song you and your husband danced to @ your reception? Would You're Still The One by Shania Twain be ok?

What was the first song you danced with you dad to?

2007-07-18 12:51:25 · 9 answers · asked by Jess ╗╙ 3 in Weddings

ive always thought if women were attracted to me physically since ive really never had any gyrl give me any compliments on the way i look.... maybe im not good looking or maybe they were shy to say anyways can i have u gyrls opionion this would really boost up my confidense

2007-07-18 12:49:12 · 8 answers · asked by Michael E. 2 in Singles & Dating

I hear people saying that you should stay married...work at it etc..which is good but what if a person is unhappy and it is not really a true ''marriage'' but a ''prison'' of sorts if you know what i mean..Isn't it better for the kids if you split even if it would hurt for a while..at least the kids won't have to see loveless parents and unhappy people as an example of marriage...what kind of marriage is that an example of?

2007-07-18 12:48:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I'm engaged and have been having alot of issues with my fiance. perhaps i'm just hormonal, but i'm beginning to feel like i'd just rather be by myself. Everyone says we should get married because we're having a child--is this really how it is supposed to be?

2007-07-18 12:47:14 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-07-18 12:46:30 · 13 answers · asked by sara the cat 1 in Weddings

I saw it once in a magazine and now I can't find it. Does anyone know where I can find this particular wedding cake topper. It totally fits my fiance and I who live to travel. Thanks for your help in advance!

2007-07-18 12:45:56 · 8 answers · asked by snowflakepersians 1 in Weddings

it's hard to talk now

2007-07-18 12:45:03 · 26 answers · asked by ? 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-07-18 12:44:40 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

well since my dad is going to leave me the youngest son his house what should i do w/ my 19 yr old sister should i kick her out should i let her stay w/ my own rules. my sisters is one of those party crazy girls im in the progress of becoming a police officer i dont want her coming home waking up my wife and kids help!

2007-07-18 12:43:09 · 9 answers · asked by Chito T 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Right now i am in seatte visiting my younger brothers and sisters and i have a 20 year young sister... she has a boyfriend, a job, and seems so happy. I am three months pregnant, i've accepted this as a single mom, i have my career job, i'm 22, going on 23 soon, i have my own place so my life is very set...
I was looking through my sister's phone and by mistake came across a video that she made with her boyfriend, i think you all can get an idea of what kind, i didn't continue watching cause of course i don't want to see that.

Right now for some reason I am feeling a little down and my mind is just going to the fact that yes i've had a lot of fun partying, dating, drinking and whatnot but i will not be able to do things that she does b/c obviously i'm pregnant and my life is going to take a drastic change.
I know my life isn't over b/c of my baby but i guess i'm missing already the things that i can't do and seeing her do it just reminds me....What do you guys think?

2007-07-18 12:42:50 · 4 answers · asked by Tears are *Diamonds* 6 in Family

I am very lonely (which is an understatement). I am a virgin, and I doubt that I've ever had a real girlfriend. I'm a 20 year old college student, who likes plus size women, has never had a job, doesn't have any extracurricular activities, has no car, have very few female friends, if any, and shares an apartment with my sister. I'm quite inexperienced in dating. These things are wrecking my confidence. How do I get and keep women?

2007-07-18 12:41:19 · 21 answers · asked by jasonlyric 2 in Singles & Dating

Ladies ..would you date a guy who 1). has cheated on you several times 2). got you pregnant and told you he didnt want to raise the kid, and leave you there 3). Has beaten you and treated you like utter **** 4). comes back trying to change...would anyone of you give him another chance if so why?

2007-07-18 12:39:39 · 64 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Hi,
I got married in India and its been registered in India. I got divorce in USA, after 8 months of marriage. I was the petitioner and judgment was default, as he did not respond to any of my petions/summons. I have all the documents and proof of service to my summons/petitions. I have had served all the required documents and filed them all at local court. Now I got the default divorce judgment. The reason for divorce in petition was incredible differences, but the reason was that he was a abuser, he abused me physically and mentally for all over the period of 8 months during the marriage. I do have the copy of police record where he accepted his fault. Now is this divorce legal in India? Do I need to any thing more? Please advice. Thanks.

2007-07-18 12:37:10 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I love her she loves me.....but she says she does'nt love me enough whatever that means!!!!

2007-07-18 12:36:50 · 13 answers · asked by wehate1966 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-07-18 12:35:00 · 16 answers · asked by Shalom 3 in Singles & Dating

I love my boyfriend but I feel weird being around him and I don't know what to do now every time he asks me to the movies I have to make up and excuse I really love him he even ask's me what's wrong and I fell like tellin himbut then I dont what should I do?

2007-07-18 12:32:03 · 11 answers · asked by nana 1 in Singles & Dating

My father and I have had a horrible relationship for the past year and a half. He doesnt agree with the fact that im dating. The guy im dating (and have been dating for 1 year and 1/2) is great, he is going to college in the fall, and yes he is older than me but only 2 years(i am a junior in high school). He has never had a lower than 90 average in high school and he has a job and has never been fired from a job. My father has met him, but never gotten to know him. My parents are divorced and my mom is ok with me dating. And i understand that my dad might not like the fact that im dating but he takes it to an extreme. He never tell's me he loves me and i havnt gotten a hug from him the entire 1 year and 1/2. i love my boyfriend and we are great together. And he has been my best friend for a long time (before we dated). But i dot know what to do. Should i move out of my dads house, considering we argue non-stop. He even got mad at me for going to a funeral. What should i do?

2007-07-18 12:27:39 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Consulted with divorce attorney today. She is the lawyer that my sister used and also a coworker used her.

Lawyer says that MI law prohibits a person from purchasing a gun if they have a restraining order (personal protection order) against someone.

After hearing my story, she thinks it'll be wise for me to buy a gun BEFORE filing for divorce. This way, if he goes psycho on me, I'll be able to protect myself. My husband already has a CCW license and carries a gun everywhere with him.

I'm suddenly really afraid. Reality is setting in and I'm realizing that this could be a life or death situation. It's been many years, but he has gone psycho on me before.

I've always been afraid of guns and never want to be near them. Guns and high emotions just don't mix.

I have a teenager and a toddler in my home.

Would you get a gun and file for divorce? Or chicken out and continue to live unhappily?

Please don't suggest counseling, it takes two to make it work.

2007-07-18 12:25:44 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce