What should i do?

Question

My father and I have had a horrible relationship for the past year and a half. He doesnt agree with the fact that im dating. The guy im dating (and have been dating for 1 year and 1/2) is great, he is going to college in the fall, and yes he is older than me but only 2 years(i am a junior in high school). He has never had a lower than 90 average in high school and he has a job and has never been fired from a job. My father has met him, but never gotten to know him. My parents are divorced and my mom is ok with me dating. And i understand that my dad might not like the fact that im dating but he takes it to an extreme. He never tell's me he loves me and i havnt gotten a hug from him the entire 1 year and 1/2. i love my boyfriend and we are great together. And he has been my best friend for a long time (before we dated). But i dot know what to do. Should i move out of my dads house, considering we argue non-stop. He even got mad at me for going to a funeral. What should i do?

Answer 1

Sounds like your dad has trouble expressing love, and instead thinks that by being posessive and demanding he's showing you that he cares about your welfare.

I'd sit down and have a heart to heart talk with him. Tell him how you feel, and point out that you have a good guy who loves and respects you and takes his schooling and work seriously. Tell him that you know he loves you and wants the best for you, but if he really wants to help you to grow up that he needs to hug you and tell you he loves you once in a while and let you make your own decisions.

If he won't stop, I'd consider moving out.

Answer 2

Your dad is looking out for which is normal, and it's good that your standing your ground and not allowing him to scare off that good guy of yours. If I were you and if your unhappy at your dads, and if you guys argue all the time then yes I would move out, it's not healthy for you or your dad to do that to eachother, your getting into the most important years of your life and you need to be focused, and happy girl!
Do what makes you happy, and don't let your dad ruin that for you, he needs to accept the way you are and trust that your doing the right thing with your boyfriend and that your mature enough to make decisions for yourself. Good Luck

Answer 3

Your father is having a tantrum. Tell him that whether he likes it or not, you are growing up. Growing up means you go places without him and you date nice young men. Tell him that you love him, but if he wants to continue to be hostile, you are moving out. Tell him that you will do anything to improve your relations, including counseling but you aren't doing anything wrong and you don't deserve to be treated as such.

He's jealous and doesn't know what to do with that would be my guess. You know, we don't get a book with how to deal with your kids when they grow up, we have to wing it. I don't think your father knows what to do, and since he doesn't have a partner to help him, he is overwhelmed with his feelings of separation from you. While separation is normal and is what is supposed to happened, no one but no one talks about it and really how is he supposed to know what to do?

Sit down with him, tell him how you feel and tell him you want better from him and from yourself. If he isn't willing to change or consider your feelings, pack up your stuff and move to your mom's.