Ladies ..would you date a guy who 1). has cheated on you several times 2). got you pregnant and told you he didnt want to raise the kid, and leave you there 3). Has beaten you and treated you like utter **** 4). comes back trying to change...would anyone of you give him another chance if so why?
2007-07-18 12:39:39 · 64 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No. No. No. And no. Because I have love and respect for myself.
But you need to understand that no women here is going to say yes. That does not mean that they won't take that person back. Alot of women who are victims of abuse will not admit that they are abused. And they will always put the blame on themselves for why they are abused and make excuses for their abuser.
2007-07-18 12:41:56 · answer #1 · answered by You wish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would not give him another chance with all that information. Although that is my opinion now, I can't say that I'm not guilty of being with such a creep because it has happened. And the reason for that is being immature. Women (and men as well) seem to think that those types of people are the only and best thing they can get. Which is not true of course. Those types of people minipulate the weaker and make them feel like they have no self-esteem. That is why it happends and women stay with men who treat them badly. Of course there are other factors and many of us will never understand.
2007-07-18 12:43:26 · answer #2 · answered by Chessie's having a GIRL! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no ! ,no! , no! and triple no! why ??? hummm i wouldn't go back because i refuse to let another homo sapien dominate me in anyway ! whether it be mental or physical abuse/domination !
i was raised always being told i was worth all that this world has to offer and so much more . but i also believe in chances!! and i believe people can change ,although i find many try but few succeed, one chance, no matter what !!! and if he f's it up again !!! there are no second chances !
to allow second chances to an abuser is to just saying," okay i give in!! you 've beaten me down, again and you get your way " they'll never change!!
tough love is so in order in these kinds of situations !
2007-07-18 12:51:22 · answer #3 · answered by ladybug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would not go out with ANY of those guys again because I would not waste my time trying to find love with someone who did one of those three. I would give the cheater a sencond chance but seeing as he cheated more than once, no. Maybe, if i truly loved the guy who left me. Just think if you were married to someone who once did that to you! the thought!
2007-07-18 12:44:08 · answer #4 · answered by nicce 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way that I'd even consider it, is if he could prove to that he has had extensive therapy, and then only after going to marriage counseling together.
People CAN change, but it is up to him to prove that he has changed, and you are in no way obligated to give him a second chance, much less the number of chances it appears you have given him.
2007-07-18 16:09:49 · answer #5 · answered by C J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOT AGAIN!!!! I was married to a creep for 5 years will never let a man walk on me again.I have been married to my husband 24 years and he would never treat me the way my first husband did. I honestly don't know why I stayed for 5 years with the idiot.I think it was fear of being alone.I was very insecure at the time.Young and stupid
2007-07-18 12:45:45 · answer #6 · answered by dymond 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way I would have even let it get that far. I would have broken up the first time he cheated. But if, theoretically, I was in that situation then I would be 100% more likely to get a restraining order than date him again.
2007-07-18 12:44:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way in hell would i give them another chance!
--hes cheated several times....maybe
--got me pregnant and said he didnt wanna raise the kid....maybe i would take him back
--has beaten me and treated me like s***.....NO! he would never get a second chance. He may say he'll change...but i kno he wont. sounds like he wouldnt be good enough for me anyway.
does that answer ur question?
2007-07-18 12:45:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not in a million years. First off, I wouldn't have gotten pregnant for him if he had cheated on me once much less than several times. Whoever this girl is, her self esteem and self worth is in the toilet. Poor girl needs help asap!
2007-07-18 12:42:16 · answer #9 · answered by Red 4 Green 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would not but alas there are too many women out there who would unfortunately take a low life like this back into their life. these women are insecure and lonely and always believe that he will change this time around only to be left hurt and alone again. it's a vicious cycle.
2007-07-18 12:45:10 · answer #10 · answered by verygorgeous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋