Family & Relationships - 18 July 2007

My brother has been with his girlfriend for 3 years and they are discussing marriage. My brother has never been that keen to get married as he thinks it's a bit old-fashioned and unnecessary. However, he desperately wants children and says if she needs marriage before they start a family, he will get married.
Last week, I met an old friend for the first time in 10 years. It turns out that she used to work beside (and be quite friendly with) my bruv's girl and remembers her having time off work 6 years ago for fertility investigations. She then went off sick to recover from the news that she was infertile and her relationship fell apart because of that. Her ex now has kids with someone else.
What should I do? I talked to my brother today and he was talking about how much he wants kids and how they will start trying for a baby straight after the wedding. Should I tell him what I have heard? Is his girl lying to him just because she wants to get married?

2007-07-18 15:11:26 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My husband and I have lived together by ourselves for over a year now. We recently just took in his 15 yr old son who decided to move out of his mothers house. Problem is, I am so used to all the attention that its hard to pull my husband to me when theres a child who wants his father to constantly play games with him. I understand that he hasnt been around his father much and is trying to make up for lost time, but im having a hard time dealing with it. I love his son greatly and completely understand that situation, but I miss the showers together and cuddling in bed watching tv. How can I fit in between them both? I cant seem to get into their games of yughio (however thats spelled) or xbox360. I get tired from work an want the attention from my husband, but its not the same? I love kids, especially his son more than anything..and cant seem to figure out how to deal?

2007-07-18 15:10:34 · 6 answers · asked by Mamita 1 in Family

My mom and us are in charge of my unces funeral we have some songs picked out like
Go Rest High
Rock of Ages
what are some others i know when it comes shortly he has cancer it will be hard i just want to be able to burn them onto a cd

2007-07-18 15:09:16 · 32 answers · asked by Un-Happy Gilmore 4 in Family

2007-07-18 15:09:15 · 1 answers · asked by Keep on Truckin' 4 in Weddings

He is not my direct boss but he is one of the VP for his department (not my departement though). I know he's married and have kids too. Why am I so attracted to him? Everytime I see him or even hear his name somewhere, my heart starts beating really fast.It's gotten to a point where I want to sleep with him!!! I'm only a summer intern so I only have little over a month left to see him. What do I do?? Any advice?

2007-07-18 15:05:33 · 12 answers · asked by wcfk2007 1 in Singles & Dating

i posted a previous message on Yahoo answers last time about this guy i was seeing who kept playing with my feelings. He keeps on lying to me telling me he broke up with his gf and stuff..but act all the time with her. So finally last nite was the last straw and i told him to figure out what he wants!!I then decided to personally ( I havent told him) break off with him....please help me..can anyone give me some remedies and advice on how to forget him? should i look for another man?maybe attend church youth group or should i be single for some time..I work with him but Thank heavens he is away at this moment on business trip. Im 22 years old and he is 32 years old..He has a doctorate but so imature in love..Im act very sad last nite and was crying but now just focusing on solutions to my problems..Please help.Thank u.

2007-07-18 15:05:13 · 7 answers · asked by GIna 2 in Singles & Dating

3 years today. I wrote my husband a very sweet card last night and put it by his ring and watch so he would get it on his way out to work....tonight we had planned for dinner and shopping for our gifts together. So far I have no card, no flowers sent to me at work, and I don't think he has any surprise planned for later....don't ask me how I can tell - I just can.

Should I stop expecting too much? I wanted some romance. Our previous anniversary I made all the plans. The first one he was very romantic. What gives???

2007-07-18 15:04:45 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-07-18 15:03:59 · 5 answers · asked by BeautifulGirl 2 in Singles & Dating

Me and Susanne always talk and now we are running out of ideas to talk about. What might be a good idea?

P.S. I love Susanne

2007-07-18 15:03:39 · 10 answers · asked by Luis R 2 in Singles & Dating

I need a song for the bridal party introduction at the reception of my wedding. I am looking for something fun! When my brother got married, he used "Good Times" by Chic. I am looking for something fun and well-known.

2007-07-18 15:03:16 · 12 answers · asked by Keep on Truckin' 4 in Weddings

I love my girlfriend so much and I get to sleep with her soon. But I'm afraid I'll mess up I don't know how i will but i do all the time with her. i want it to be okay. ilove her so much. what can i do before we fall asleep to relax and fall in love with each other all over again. and please don't go R to XXX rated. i'm not looking for that.

2007-07-18 15:02:59 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Im 14. I turned 14 in february of this year. Im goin into highschool. & I have a voice of a child or almost a girl!! When im on the phone & sound like a gay guy & in person but not as bad as on the phone. & ive noticed alot of people that dont know me think im gay or very feminime b/c of this. Just about every guy I know has deep voices even guys 2 yrs younger than me! This is like my whole school except for about 3 gay guys have voices maybe a lil higher than mine. Im afraid this will knock me out of gettin g/f's & hangin w/ guys. Trust me where I live it will! & I DO care no matter wat yal say. So will my voice ever get deep to at least sound like a guy!!?? And is there ANY POSSIBLE way whatsoever that i can make my voice sound any deeper? besides smoking? Im really self conscious about this & idk why I cant have a deep voice & everyone else does. I think if i were to shout or scream itd sound worse than michael jackson!!!! PLEASE help.

2007-07-18 15:01:02 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok dammit my whole life has been messed up and im not gonna go through it all but eversince freshman year of highschool ive been very quiet i was suppose to graduate this year but i stop going to school im back in school honor roll and im in summer school and everythign was perfect i was talking again making friends and even this girl i liked started to like me then today they kicked me out because of this crazy teacher my life was perfect now it has no meaning i just cant stop crying and i wanna die because for once in liek forever i was happy now i cant stop feeling horrible i asked my mom to try to get me back in tommarow if she cant i think im just going to kill myself can any1 help me!!!!!! what am i going to do

2007-07-18 14:58:35 · 22 answers · asked by dariousp w 1 in Family

All of my friends have kissed boys and I haven't, how do I get more boys to notice me and not call me their "buddy"?

2007-07-18 14:56:19 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My husband's brother (we'll call him Jack) & his cousin, (we'll call her Ellen) have been in a relationship for a year now (totally denying it , but they shared a room, bed,everything together & are both recently seperated from their spouses) Jack is in Iraq and Ellen is staying with Jack's mom (who is Ellen's mom's sister...Jack and Ellen are first cousins) Ellen recently had a baby, who looks exactly like Jack and nothing like her other children or her husband and my in-laws seem totally fine with that. They don't even mind the relationship that is going on! Ellen denies that the baby is Jack's but then again she jokes about it. Well, I was looking for a paper in her room one day at my mother-in-laws house when I opened up a letter (yes I know that was wrong) but the letter confirmed my suspicions when I read phrases such as "Give [the baby] kisses from daddy" or "I love you so much, be thinking of what you want to do to me when I get home?" I'm grossed out, that's incest!

2007-07-18 14:51:26 · 11 answers · asked by candicekellie 2 in Family

Tonight I'm asking out this guy that I've been friends with for a really long time. I've tried for the past year to ask him out but never could get the courage to do it. I'm gonna ask him out within the next couple hours, but i'm so nervous, how do I calm down enough to ask him out?

2007-07-18 14:51:09 · 4 answers · asked by slipknot_is_wicked 2 in Singles & Dating

My wife and I got into a fight today about her allowance. I have been giving her $20 dollars per week as allowance but she seems to think thats too little! You know women these days, they want everything. They need expensive starbucks lattes, fancy clothes, big gas guzzling SUVs so they can feel safe, etc. We've come to the conclusion that $20 isn't enough and we need to increase it.

So what do you guys think? I'll tell you what i think. I think she should get $40 per week. I think thats a reasonable number given my salary of 75k/year. We need to save all we can for a house, retirement, and college costs for the kids we'll be having.

2007-07-18 14:49:54 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-07-18 14:49:44 · 6 answers · asked by pcr85 2 in Singles & Dating

I met this man who lives in Haiti and we have become good friends. He keeps asking me about being in a relationship with him. I would like to know what that biggest differences in our views of "a relationship" might be. I wan't to understand where he is coming from before I make any kind of commitment. I don't want to accidently end up married to the poor guy from something I say...?! Thanks for your help!

2007-07-18 14:49:25 · 2 answers · asked by lisa42088 3 in Singles & Dating

Rebecca loved her boyfriend.
They adored each other, just like a good trend.
They both shared a passion for wanting tattooes.
Sadly they both caught the blues.

They seperated for a week but that's all it took for Rebecca to be found dead in her bed with a bottle of pills in her sheets.
Her ex found her first. He ran home to soothe his thirst.
He didn't know she was dead.
He thought she was just sleeping.

Later that night, her parents found Rebecca laying in her bed.
She had a note taped to her arm
It said "I'm waiting for my love to come to me."
Her family was devastated.
Her Ex freaked out and locked the door to his bedroom.
Then he went to work.

He knew he had crushed her
he had killed her in a way
they were supposed to be together,
get tattooes together,
and be happy!
He knew in his heart he would be able to do at least part of that

So,One week later he was found in his bed with these words carved into his skin:

"I'm coming to you my love. I am. I am.

2007-07-18 14:47:39 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I recently decided I want to stop playing the flute and start taking acting lessons. I haven't told my mom yet because I know she'll disagree. I knoe this because I have always changed what I am doing and I can never make up my mind. I also try tons of new activities. I have done jazz dancing, gymnastics, and tennis. I have also played the violin and the piano. I want to stop the flute because it really is no fun and I don't play too well... I don't have a private teacher and I am not the kind of person to sit down and practice all day. I want to start taking lessons because I want to get involved in the school play and prove that I can act. My mom said I have always been a great actor but I am not sure if she will sign me up for lessons.I just started to horseback ride,too, and I think it is the best sport ever! How can I convince my mom to sign me up for lessons? What do you think are my chances she'll say yes?

2007-07-18 14:46:20 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

So if a wife is planning on leaving her husband for reasons justifiable and is ready to move on completely, finds out she is pregnant, is it a horrible thing to decide not to bring a child into the world that will automatically be part of a broken home? Also, the husband already has 2 children from previous relationship that he can't raise or live with, why add one more? What is the general consensus on this? The mother/wife does not love the husband and is ready completely to be alone with her own son from previous marriage. Is abortion wrong in this case?

2007-07-18 14:44:00 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I'm a Filipino guy and I was just wondering if any white girls would ever consider having a Filipino guy as a boyfriend? Or does it just depend on the person and not their race?

2007-07-18 14:43:01 · 13 answers · asked by ZACH 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-07-18 14:41:17 · 13 answers · asked by Schmuck 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Me and this girl met once...had a great time. Then had a second date, and we had a great dinner and kissed goodnight...like hardcore kissing, it was awesome! But she def wants to hang out again and I think we really like each other. I don't want to scare her away! But I don't want her to think I wasn't interested either! Is there some sort of protocall? What should I do? Arrange a 3rd date for someone over the weekend? I don't wana to F it all up!

2007-07-18 14:36:19 · 8 answers · asked by The Rainmaker 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-07-18 14:34:58 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i am a muslim teen, i am not allowed allowed to talk to men on the net and i don't because i am faithful to my religion, but my brother in law comes up and tells my parents to keep their eye on me when ever i'm online because god knows who i am talking to, it hurts so much that he would accuse me of doing this, i could do this behind their backs but i am a faithful person and i never want to do anything wrong, i know there is one person watching me all the time, god.
isn't it wrong for him to accuse me like this? it really does hurt a lot, i'm actually in tears right now, he really knows how to make my life miserable...i feel like i need help, i'm scared my brother in law will drive me crazy, i am depressed everyday and he is to blame, i want to live my life without him i want to live one day without him making me cry, i want to live the life i always dream of, but i know with him around it's all impossible, the most scariest thing to me is that he is going to be here forever...

2007-07-18 14:30:31 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-07-18 14:30:03 · 8 answers · asked by natiki lou 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-07-18 14:29:28 · 13 answers · asked by GE OTTO 1 in Singles & Dating

I am 18 and I wear a diaper. I don't use it, when I use the restroom I take it off and use the restroom just like underwear , but it is like a security blanket it me, nothing sexual it's not a fetish eww, it’s totally innocent, it's just emotional, I have seen help and they tell me if it's not hurting anyone then there is nothing wrong with it, I’m not a bad person ,it does my heart good, I mean some guys prefer boxers, some briefs, I prefer a soft cushy diaper, to me it's just another piece of my clothing, so could any girl accept this, if she liked me and knew me for a few years before she found out?

2007-07-18 14:26:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating