My husband's brother (we'll call him Jack) & his cousin, (we'll call her Ellen) have been in a relationship for a year now (totally denying it , but they shared a room, bed,everything together & are both recently seperated from their spouses) Jack is in Iraq and Ellen is staying with Jack's mom (who is Ellen's mom's sister...Jack and Ellen are first cousins) Ellen recently had a baby, who looks exactly like Jack and nothing like her other children or her husband and my in-laws seem totally fine with that. They don't even mind the relationship that is going on! Ellen denies that the baby is Jack's but then again she jokes about it. Well, I was looking for a paper in her room one day at my mother-in-laws house when I opened up a letter (yes I know that was wrong) but the letter confirmed my suspicions when I read phrases such as "Give [the baby] kisses from daddy" or "I love you so much, be thinking of what you want to do to me when I get home?" I'm grossed out, that's incest!
2007-07-18 14:51:26 · 11 answers · asked by candicekellie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
So they main question is...should I act like everything is fine or is it normal for this to bother me so much!!
2007-07-18 14:52:12 · update #1
NEED MORE OPINIONS!! PLEASE
2007-07-18 14:59:21 · update #2
When I said he was in Iraq, I meant he was serving there in the army but in that case, like you said, it would make sense. And to everyone who was judging me about snooping around, might I add that she even said before when I was in her room "I have letters there, there, here... "while pointing around the room "but read them at your own risk" as though it were an invitation, there was nothing secretive about it!
2007-07-18 15:40:14 · update #3
It should be bothering you, but it really has nothing to do with you. You don't have to outright tell them that you were snooping and saw a letter confirming it, but you don't have to support it either.
2007-07-18 14:55:15 · answer #1 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
properly... as uncommon as this is immediately, marrying a commonly used cousin replaced into extremely by no ability that bizarre interior the previous. Royalty did it, of course, yet so did extensive-unfold human beings. Take Jane Eyre, case in point, whilst she almost married St. John. of course, Bronte did not evaluate that taboo. And as long as cousins do not shop marrying cousins over countless generations, problems from such marriages are incredibly uncommon. First cousins share on regularly occurring only 25% of their genes (can selection from 0-50%). As to the regulation, evidently to be legal.
2016-10-22 00:08:13 · answer #2 · answered by ja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
k this might sound weird, but is your husband of Middle eastern or western European decent? i ask this because i actually dated a guy from this area and in their culture that isn't incest. To us it is, but to them it's just a part of culture. They actually encourage it to "stay in the family"! Not saying that it is right....because i still view that as incest no matter what they say, but in their culture it is more acceptable. That could explain why the in laws are okay with it...granted i would be completely weirded out as well but it isn't our place to judge their culture. We may not like it, but it's not our life. When you have children just steer them away from uncle "Jack" and bring it up to your husband. Maybe he knows more than he is letting on. Good luck and i hope that you find the truth behind the situation.
2007-07-18 15:28:50 · answer #3 · answered by Gonzo's Wifey 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
lol stop freaking out.
anyways, I would be bothered, but you know what...i wouldnt go around snooping and looking at their things. If they are in love, let them be. Only time will tell what happens. For now, you worry about your family and your kids. k?
2007-07-18 15:01:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
They are too close in blood for what they are doing. But there is a baby now, and do not judge. Love them no matter what.
2007-07-18 15:26:05 · answer #5 · answered by dreamer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dnt bother urself by taking useless tensions dear
Just Chill............
as they got a baby nw
there is nothing which can stop them being together..
U just enjoy ur life wid ur hubby
n let dem enjoy without even letting them knw
that u knw everything abt them
Enjoy................
2007-07-20 08:16:34 · answer #6 · answered by Neets 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that you are a snoop and a busybody who has no respect for anyone. Mind your own business and get another hobby.
2007-07-18 15:09:56 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What has it to do with you? Stop snooping around and stop hanging around with them if you don't like them.
2007-07-18 15:12:11 · answer #8 · answered by lily 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
stay out of it ... if you don't like it, then stop digging around and trying to get yourself in the middle of it
2007-07-18 15:14:14 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
One...this is NONE of your business.
Two...It is NOT incest.
Three...It is completely legal. Most people don't know that but it is.
2007-07-18 15:14:55 · answer #10 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋