i posted a previous message on Yahoo answers last time about this guy i was seeing who kept playing with my feelings. He keeps on lying to me telling me he broke up with his gf and stuff..but act all the time with her. So finally last nite was the last straw and i told him to figure out what he wants!!I then decided to personally ( I havent told him) break off with him....please help me..can anyone give me some remedies and advice on how to forget him? should i look for another man?maybe attend church youth group or should i be single for some time..I work with him but Thank heavens he is away at this moment on business trip. Im 22 years old and he is 32 years old..He has a doctorate but so imature in love..Im act very sad last nite and was crying but now just focusing on solutions to my problems..Please help.Thank u.
2007-07-18 15:05:13 · 7 answers · asked by GIna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok...got to admit, been there done that...and i apologize for having to be brutally frank here, but either one of you got to leave the workplace, as you seeing him around everyday will not help your healing process, it just further delays or worse exacerbates the process of you getting on track.
Well, you shouldn't be looking for anything at the moment, just makes things worse and don't listen to all that talk of using anybody as a rebound. You wouldn't want to get any bad karma would you? ;)
Church youth groups are an option as you mentioned, travelling, backpacking or basically just doing the things you love to do...but before you begin, take a couple of days to be in solitude, think about what might have been and it could have been worse and thank your lucky stars that you came out of this with just a broken heart which will heal soon...smile! :)...you have a long journey to go...and YOU WILL GET OVER IT...that i can assure you...just be strong and think of your loved ones...Take care then and all the best.
2007-07-18 15:20:14 · answer #1 · answered by Pau And Pie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like the song says: "Breaking up is hard to do". But I agree, you have to for your own happiness. Understand you will have to go through a process. To get over it you will have to go through a grieving process, just like when someone dies. The first step is to accept the situation. This is harder than a death because you keep thinking you can change things. Still it must be done if you want to move on. One always has a hard time accepting facts where there has been a strong emotional bonding and commitment. The next step is anger. It is not wrong to be angry. You have to experience this to get past it. When someone dies you get over the anger fast because you realize it is not rational. In this case you can use the anger… stoke it up to help you move on. And you can use it to move on to other things. Get involved with other people. Be busy for a while. You can use all of this to help you move on. This can be a time of growth in yourself. The full process can take as long as a year, but generally doesn't. And of course if you are lucky enough to fall in love with some one else quickly, that makes it go so much fast because you have that ones love and support.
2007-07-18 15:08:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's best that u broke it off, come on he was only playing with ur emotions. He might be older than you but more immature about his feelings for you. Did u really want to continue being with a guy that would continue hurting you? Be true to yourself, first make friends with guys, go out and in time you'll forget him and stop thinking about him. How do u know when he's away, he's not doing something? It sounds like he's only keeping you around for his convenience. Now, he doesn''t leave u cause' he knows that no matter what he does, ur not gonna leave him. He's so sure about you. Don't move into another relationship either cause' you'll only play with the guys feelings and u know ur just doing it to forget ur ex. Don't fool urself, if u appreciate urself, don't take him back. Never lower ur standards to no one, guys there's many, ur feelings, it's just you. Take care.
2007-07-18 15:36:10 · answer #3 · answered by grissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that she is nervous about the engagement and is trying to back up in her life to look towards past things. If you really want to be with her I would let her break up with him voluntarily without any promises of you two getting together. Then you will know that she really doesn't want to be with him and that it has nothing to do with you. Give her a few months to just be single and figure out who she is on her own. If you both still feel the same after she has gone through all of that then be together. If something goes wrong along the way you two weren't supposed to be together, and you will have saved yourself a lot of heartache. Good luck! =)
2016-05-17 05:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good move! Just concentrate on doing things you like. Decide to be single a while but keep your mind open to new possibilities too. If you see someone new and are interested go on a date and see. No one says how long you have to decide to be single! Just concentrate on not making the same bad choices as you did before.
2007-07-18 15:12:25 · answer #5 · answered by iceemama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a long walk. Take some time off of relationships to purge yourself of him. Focus on positives, do things you like. Learn a new skill/language/hobby. Just be yourself and try to have fun. Laughing is the best way to heal hurtful memories.
ps Dont forget your relationship w/ him. Use it as a stepping stone for a better one.
2007-07-18 15:11:59 · answer #6 · answered by beltoraze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know the feeling i have it right now....definently go to your church youth group but since you are 22 you should probably go to the singles class....fill your time with exercise, going to the pool, watching funny movies...he sounds like he is good at manipulating you into liking him so do not call him or answer his calls...find someone else b/c he obviosly doesn't mind cheating on a girlfriend and you dont want someone like that
2007-07-18 15:11:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋