Family & Relationships - 16 May 2007

he's had a text and phone sex relationship with someone i thought was a kind of friend for 4 1/2 months. he lied and covered his tracks and was really awfull to live with. he ignored me and the kids. he texted her and called her all day every day whilst i'd be lucky if he asked how his kids were.
we've been married for 6 years and i truely loved him but don't know how to deal with this betrayal and as much as he's cried asking me to take him back i just don't know how i can

2007-05-16 03:05:47 · 27 answers · asked by katrina c 2 in Marriage & Divorce

or just my wife?

2007-05-16 03:03:03 · 20 answers · asked by titanman33 1 in Marriage & Divorce

As a mother and I understand that my children are only 1 and 2 1/2 but I cannot fathom ever using the word "stupid". I actually hate the word and I think it is wrong to use toward anyone. However, my husband recently became ill and couldn't work and I had to be the only one bringing home the "bacon" and he couldn't lift the children so we still had to send kids to daycare and we got behind on our bills. We have forever been trying to keep up. One of his parents friends donated money to help pay some of his medical bills, which has helped so much. Yet, we are still trying to get our other bills paid off too. Anyway, his parents called him stupid and I mean we are both working. I work 40 hours a week and he works 50 hours a week. Do you think they had the right to call him stupid because we are behind on our bills. I mean they said it very hatefully and then hung up the phone on him. I don't know if I am overreacting, but I am so so very very mad about this situation.

2007-05-16 03:02:37 · 24 answers · asked by MommyofTwo 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

I've been married for almost 12 years. I've never really been content or complete in my marriage. Here's the scenerio. I've always questioned if this was the right place for me, the right man for me. I have made things work because I didnt want to make the wrong choices-didnt want too hurt him because he's a good man.

Sometimes Im content w/ my marriage and life and other times, Im thinking of what it would or could be like single. I find, most times, I think the latter (what it would be like to be seperated or divorced). Is this normal in marriage? I've done this for a long time-probably since the beginning.

I've tried talking to him about how I feel but it gets me nowhere. He usually takes everything internally and then deny's my feelings of wanting to try a trial separation. He always tells me, "you dont want to separate" or "you're just hormonal again!" Is it me?? Can anyone else relate? Have you or are u going thru this too? Please help! I cant take it anymore

2007-05-16 02:58:38 · 17 answers · asked by Jen 2 in Marriage & Divorce

my fiancee and I have two totally different wants for our wedding day - she wants just me and her, no one else, on a beach somewhere. I on the other hand am very close to my immediete family and cannot even begin to contemplate getting married without my mum and dad there and without my brother as my best man. The reasons behind her desire are based on a fear of her mother, who has a drink problem, causing a scene and ruining the day. Sober, her mother is a nice quiet demure lady, but with a drink in her turns into a very jealous, attention seeking woman. Beyond her mother, she has a slightly larger family unit whom she would feel obligated to invite. i've tried to reassure her that there is no way that her mum will ruin her wedding but my girl says she can't be stopped as she has done it so many times at family events when she hasn't been getting attention. Our parents never met and we both dread it as they are so different. anyone gone through something similar?

2007-05-16 02:56:27 · 15 answers · asked by Derek J Kered 2 in Weddings

2007-05-16 02:51:51 · 7 answers · asked by Ray M 1 in Singles & Dating

i want to know the scientific term of the girl who had sex many times??????????/

2007-05-16 02:49:19 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

of being debt free and not have to pay back student loans. I've been paying on my student loans for 6 years now and I still have quite a ways to go. Her college cost more than mine.

I am having trouble dealing with the resentment that I feel towards them for not helping me out when I was in college as well. They were in the same financial situation, so there is no clear reason as to why they didn't help me.

Should I confront them about this? Am I wrong to feel this way?

2007-05-16 02:42:59 · 19 answers · asked by Sharon 5 in Family

She lives with her mother and they are well off. She does not get good grades in school and has no respect for her mom and she still gets channel earings, name brand clothing and $300 coach purses. She also gets her toes done every two weeks. What do my husband and I do when she comes down this summer? We are financially tight at this moment and we can't do all tha t stuff. Any advice?

2007-05-16 02:41:03 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

last night he came home from work, I said I wanted to go to the gym, he wanted to go out w/ his buddy for a beer (my daughter was sleeping) so I said "its alright, you can go I can do my workout here" and he insisted "no, you go ahead" ok so great, we hugged, kissed, bye honey I luv u. then, an hour later when I got home from the gym he was all pissed off at me 'cause his friend called & he couldnt go out w/ him.
WTF?! & now hes being a total ******.

2007-05-16 02:36:11 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My best friend repeatedly mispronounces my name, and I can't figure out why. It sounds like she does it deliberately, and I find it a little degrading. I've told her about it, but she continues to do it.

2007-05-16 02:34:30 · 8 answers · asked by Mr. Blue 2 in Friends

Poor lonesome me I've got no friends.

2007-05-16 02:34:16 · 14 answers · asked by Corrina C 2 in Friends

my friend she has been dating this guy for 2 months and he asked her if she can have sex with him and she doesnt feeling having it with him........wat she do.......and i want to know why guys ask for sex alll the time why they dont ask about true love or something why sex should be the main thing in life which is not......

2007-05-16 02:32:43 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

he has been to jail that didnt work, rehab takes money or insurance which we have neither, so any suggestions out there that would really work. please help our family

2007-05-16 02:31:47 · 25 answers · asked by violet b 2 in Marriage & Divorce

at the moment i'm living with my ex boyfriend of 5 years. he is an abusive , compulsive lying creep but i have no choice but to live here with him . while we were together he wouldn't let me have friends . now i know no-one except myself ( and no i have no family either ) i cant afford to live by myself and i cant live in a unit or flat because they wont allow pets ( i have a dog ) the guy i live with sickens me to the point where i feel like suffocating the loser in his sleep , lol i would never actually do it, but its a nice thought . there are no words to explain how fkd up this guy really is so i wont even try . what can i do to get away from him when i cant live on my own ?
and i dont work at the moment because im agoraphobic, but, even if i had a full time job it wouldnt be even close to enough to support myself . i am looking for a full time job anyway though .
any ideas would be greatly appreciated . thanks
xx

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just looking for ideas cos i have no idea where to start , please DONT suggest shelters i dont even think they exist in Australia, and if they do , i doubt they would allow pets, and i would never go to one of those places anyway . i just want some real ideas please . thanks for your help

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i love my dog, more than anything or anyone on earth, shes all i have and she is the only thing that has kept me sane through all this. and i do have more respect for animals than i will ever have for the human race. i will never leave her behind with a guy that could hurt her when hes in a bad mood

2007-05-16 02:26:21 · 18 answers · asked by Me 7 in Marriage & Divorce

he will make a comment about some chicks boobs, or they way they walk,,, and even makes up questions on 'answers' as "jokes" that,,, to me,,, are flirty and crossing the sexual line,,, am i too uptight or is it not ok

2007-05-16 02:18:47 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

eg: if i'm talkin with her and the phone disconnects unintentionaly she got angry and never talk to me till i convince her that the disconnection was not my fault.what shall i do to change her from that?.. thanx

2007-05-16 02:15:56 · 21 answers · asked by Open_Minded 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I am suffering because of my problem I want to tell our relationship between me and her (my Girl) to our parent because she is one our relative .
(Not first cousin my Grandmother & her mother is sister) but she is not agree with my decision she afraid of her parent to face.
But I think our family is only can help us about our relation am I right or wrong please help me if I tell to our parent without her company.

2007-05-16 02:15:25 · 5 answers · asked by Nayan Sinha 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-05-16 02:13:53 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

she has to be involved in everything or else

2007-05-16 02:04:26 · 25 answers · asked by princess 1 in Marriage & Divorce

ppl typically wanna check their future husband and wife to see if they r healthy before they get married. do they do x-ray from head to toes?

2007-05-16 02:03:39 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I am very attractive and also 8 years younger than my husband and we might have sex one time a week. This is not enough for me I am in my prime. Is this normal for him to be this way or do you think there is something else going on?

2007-05-16 02:01:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have an appointment with an attorney at 11:00 this morning to discuss my options and talk about drawing up a separation agreement. I feel sick to my stomach. Why am I so scared about what other people will think? All of the parents we are friends in our community think he is wonderful. He coaches sports teams for my son. They don't know all the details. I will be the one who dumped him. I am not happy and I need to do something about it. Please look at my past questions, I don't want to have to type it all again.

2007-05-16 01:58:32 · 10 answers · asked by browneyedgirl 2 in Marriage & Divorce

love is a painful game, you think you found someone who you can love, trust, and be respected by, then crash it hits you like a thunderstorm and everything just falls apart and tears u in half what is up with people these days dosnt people want be loved for true no more?

2007-05-16 01:58:01 · 36 answers · asked by claire s 2 in Singles & Dating

I was talking to a friend of mine recently. He was telling me about his ex-girlfriend who he broke up with about 8 months ago. She immediately got serious with another guy who she knew before they broke up and within 4-6 weeks was already engaged to the guy. The wedding is late June. Although it's been 8 months, the ex-girlfriend still calls my friend to see how he's doing and occasionally will tell him she still misses him and loves him. Last week she called him her soulmate!

Has anyone heard about a similar situation? If so, did the marriage last long? My thinking is that she hasn't gotten over my friend and is probably more in love with him than her fiance. My friend wouldn't take their relationship to the level she wanted 8 months ago and that's the main reason she went looking for someone else.

2007-05-16 01:54:35 · 13 answers · asked by Tiger 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have a parent who engages in emotional extortion or character assination to other family members if you don't comply with their demands. This parent displays a great deal of mysoginistic expectations. This parent has often sloughed off responsibility to other parties, namely daughters, in an effort to get out of it themselves. As a child of someone like this, how do you deal with the power a parent has over you? Also, I need to add that by pulling back from them, they in turn engage in character assasination about you to anyone who will listen. Do I just cut off from the parts of my family this parent has duped. There are several people on to this person and their methods, so I would not be isolated. I would add their health is not great. They use this to create an "oh woe is me" image much like the wife in the book Ethan Fromme. Meanwhile they are not nearly as helpless as they project, but are using this as a ploy to gain power through sympathy.

2007-05-16 01:54:00 · 8 answers · asked by DMG 5 in Marriage & Divorce

what you think to have sex with some one? just one day with really unknown person

2007-05-16 01:44:15 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My mom past away 7 years ago and I want to contact her if possible.

2007-05-16 01:42:13 · 5 answers · asked by Thomas F 2 in Family

I don't want to dupe anyone into sleeping with me. I see alot of beautiful girls around my town, some smile at me. what is the best way to strike a conversation?....... i know what to do from there :)

2007-05-16 01:41:22 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i know it can get wild at a private bachorette party. if the guy gets nude and you and your friends play with him cause you are drunk and acting crazy, is that cheating?????? i know how wild it can get cause i did it once.

2007-05-16 01:38:19 · 13 answers · asked by julian k 2 in Other - Family & Relationships