My wife is very sensitive, whenever we get small things she got angry,?

Question

eg: if i'm talkin with her and the phone disconnects unintentionaly she got angry and never talk to me till i convince her that the disconnection was not my fault.what shall i do to change her from that?.. thanx

I Love her, she's very kind and supportive, she likes my parents and my family, she's wonderfull wife..

Answer 1

Being the kind of person I am, i would lean into it and run and run and run until she finally got tired of it

Answer 2

I'm afraid that I don't think 'you' can do anything to change her... its something she has to do with your help!

Sounds like she has alot of pent up frustration mixed in with alot of distrust? Its something you should talk to her about and maybe get some external help with, there is obviously bigger things going on in her head that need resolving.

Try not to react to it, she could be goading you into a fight just to release some of her feelings in a huge row... be calm, be supportive but also don't let her make you feel guilty or that its your fault.

She should maybe also consult a Dr.. there are a few conditions both mental and physical that can cause erratic behavior and its something that should certainly be checked out by a medical professional? And no, I'm not gonna be condescending and say its 'hormones'...

Good luck x

Answer 3

This sounds like symptoms of a much bigger problem. When you both are feeling calm and in a good mood try sitting down and asking her what she thinks is going on in your relationship. Really listen to what she has to say. Without accusing her, putting her down or attacking her let her know what you observe and how it makes you feel. Use lots of "I" statements when you do this.

The only thing you can change is your own behavior. Find out from her what behaviors she has issues with and work on changing them.

Answer 4

People do what works for them. Your girlfriend has learned that acting like a spoiled child gets your attention. Stop rewarding this negative behaviour and only reward positive behaviour. Next time say to her, "Honey I am sorry you are upset, but since you are not willing to be reasonable and listen to my explanation then I see no point in continuing this conversation. When you are ready to talk then you call me". Then leave it at that. Leave it up to her to call you. She needs to see that acting like a spoiled child will no longer be tolerated or she will never change. Remember, re-read my first sentence and learn it. Best of luck to you.

Answer 5

She's insecure. She sees every little thing as a sign you don't love her. She may feel bad about herself or maybe has trust issues from previous relationships or family experiences as a kid (maybe father was a cheater). Even if she trusts that you are faithful to her, she may feel unworthy of being loved and, thus, doesn't think you love her.

Answer 6

Build her confidence in you. Take her for counselling. Make her feel confident in herself and help her build her self esteem. Let her unequivocally understand that you love her to death. And when the phone disconnects as you talk to her, make sure to call her back right away.

Answer 7

She has trust issues from the past, and needs 1 on 1 counselling.

Answer 8

my husband and i are acutally in therapy last night we learned this,,, thought= emotion= action.... so what ever she is thinking when something happens is bad, she might be insecure,,, so from her thought, brings emotion,, and she then acts on her emotion,,, which is probably just miscommunication,,, if you eliminate the action,, if she can just deal w/ the emotion from the negative thought, soon things w/ be much better,it will be more talking and less fights

Answer 9

From your one example, it sounds like she may have a lot of insecurity issues. If talking to her won't help, you should try marriage counselling.

Answer 10

there is something going on with your wife. Instead of you thinking she's acting sensitive, have you tried asking her whats wrong.