to which extent a mother has the right to involve herself in her son marital life?

Question

she has to be involved in everything or else

Answer 1

Mother's prime concern should be to see that her son's married life is happy. But in many cases she would not stop short of disturbing the peace as she claims that her son is her tool of happiness and no one can come in between.

Answer 2

Well, a mother can involve herself to a certain extent but should remember that the son is married and his wife is there to look after his needs and wants. If she keeps interfering in everything her son does it will only create problems between the wife and the mother and the son will not what to do coz both r precious to him. The mother can advise the son but the ultimate decision should lie with both the son and his wife. If the mother feels the wife does not like her interfering, the mother should back out, give them freedom and let the both of them lead their life of their own.

Answer 3

Unlike what the other ladies here told you because of their narrow mind and short sightedness - I do not think they would be able to cut the chords from their family totally if they have only then do they have the right to ask the man to, but what normally happens is that these ladies who have answered you before me will not cut their even their umblical chords but want their hubbys to - is that not develish and selfish! They will even tell their moms of the direction they got screwed and how **** & clits were bitten, but wants the husband to not even talk to his mother a single word for their whole lives!! - Such ladies should be lynched!!

My advice to you would be Yes - the Mother has got no rights to get involved into your and your husband's personal affairs unless you two seek her help. But being children its your duty to care for her I mean be it your mother or his in their old age its the right and duty of every child and their better half!! Involvement need to be stopped, you need to make it clear that you guys are adults and that you know what is right and what is wrong but also at times when they point out a mistake you guys need to accept and rectify your mistakes.


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Answer 4

Yes mother can involve dear, mother knows more then what u know, She has passed that age that u r passing , so mother can give you the best solution and ideas to have a great n good and life long happy married life. Mother always wants there sons/ daughter betterment.

Answer 5

The Bible has a piece of very good advice on this subject. When a son marries he is to leave his Mother and Father and stay with his wife. A Mother should be able to visit her son and her grandchildren but should not involve herself in their day to day lives. If she is not doing this HER SON MUST TELL HER TO BUTT OUT. Yes this will cause an argument but it is a fight that needs to happen for the son to be truly independent of his parents. As a daughter-in-law you must fully support your husband in these efforts. Other than supporting your husband stay out of the middle of this fight it could get real nasty.

Answer 6

The mother has no right to involve herself in her son's marital life. Even if invited, it is her responsability to let him figure out life on his own. Advice is one thing. My mother in law is like this. And it's been very difficult over the years to get her to keep her opinions to herself.

Answer 7

the only right a parent has the right to be involved in a child's marital life is if the child ask for advice. other wise it is your life to live just as it was their life to live when they got married. so i would tell her to back off and if you need her you'll let her know. I'm sure she just worried about your happiness and wants whats best for you however it is time for you to live your life how you want you are not a child anymore and can make your own decision. let her know that you love her and you are glad that she loves you but this is your time and that her meddling in your affairs cause you more pain then her just supporting you.

Answer 8

No, she doesnt have to be involved in everything----unless you are dependent upon her financially. So this is of your own making---cut the financial apron strings if you have them. Other than that what is the or else? or else she will stamp her feet? not come over as often? what she wants is sonny boy and control----so let her be mad----but give her opportunities to get off the hook by still respecting the relationship. Time to set boundaries. Clear ones. Make a list for yourself so you can be consistent. Keep it simple. When its not h er business---have a prepared answer and keep repeating it (out loud or in your head). Pray for her.

Answer 9

Well the son needs to set some boundaries, but if he doesn't have a problem with the level of involvement, then the wife has a problem. The wife needs to explain that the level of involvement goes beyond what is comfortable to her, and that she would appreciate the husband to set some boundaries. He doesn't have to be mean or nasty....

Answer 10

Actually a mother has NO right to be involved in her sons marital life. Once you are married you're united to your spouse. They are supposed to become your first priority. If she has any say, that is the son's fault. He needs to stand up for himself and act like the adult he is and tell her to back off. Although he doesn't need to be mean about saying it, he needs to be firm and stick to his guns.