I was talking to a friend of mine recently. He was telling me about his ex-girlfriend who he broke up with about 8 months ago. She immediately got serious with another guy who she knew before they broke up and within 4-6 weeks was already engaged to the guy. The wedding is late June. Although it's been 8 months, the ex-girlfriend still calls my friend to see how he's doing and occasionally will tell him she still misses him and loves him. Last week she called him her soulmate!
Has anyone heard about a similar situation? If so, did the marriage last long? My thinking is that she hasn't gotten over my friend and is probably more in love with him than her fiance. My friend wouldn't take their relationship to the level she wanted 8 months ago and that's the main reason she went looking for someone else.
2007-05-16 01:54:35 · 13 answers · asked by Tiger 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like it is doomed to fail. But it's her life, and her lesson to learn.
2007-05-16 01:57:35 · answer #1 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend to move on and quit taking her calls.....if their relationship did not make it to the level she wanted..then she is not right for him......i think the ex girlfriend has some real issues......i think some women are not 'in love' but 'in love' with the idea of being 'in love' and or the idea of the 'wedding' not the marriage......
2007-05-16 08:59:34 · answer #2 · answered by jonni_hayes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya, why not, some of my ex gfs still call me even after they are married, we just have empty talks and nothing serious, but if she get serious and you are into it, then you are asking for trouble.
Instead, take her as a good pal or younger sister, teach her how to love her husband and be sincere to him, guide her to build a family of her own and live happily, that will be more helpful in one way, you get yourself hands off, and the other way, you helped someone that make you feel happy about it.
2007-05-16 09:44:36 · answer #3 · answered by butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I broke up with my long term partner cause he wanted to commit and i wasn't ready although i truly loved him. I started dating another guy (rebound) and three months later i found out i was pregnant to this new guy (hows that for not wanting to commit). I am still with him 7 years later but i don't love him like i loved my ex.Not even close people ask why i'm with him still if i don't love him . I still care for him alot and my child comes first now but I'm in to deep and its to hard to go back. And i know a lot of people in the same boat.
2007-05-16 09:03:58 · answer #4 · answered by kristy j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her marriage will last less than a year. And yes... I've seen that happen before. She needs to grow up. If your friend wasn't into going to the next level, its her right to look for someone who wants to... but its too short a time for her to have found anyone of substance. She might get lucky and make this work, but I am hoping it ends before they bring kids into the picture
2007-05-16 08:58:24 · answer #5 · answered by Aron1968_30 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend should be kissing the ground in thanks that this girl is no longer with him. She's so immature and obviously is clueless about what a commitment means. She's too busy being popular and will always be looking for someone else. So tell your friend...good riddance and have him not take her calls.
2007-05-16 09:04:30 · answer #6 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it will last too long if she's really in love with your friend. How does he feel? Maybe she's just trying to get his attention, hoping he'll realize what he lost and want her back before she commits to this wedding.
2007-05-16 09:02:40 · answer #7 · answered by fairygodmother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds normal to me, she probably wishes what she has with her fiance is what she couldve had with your friend. prolly everything she wanted to have with him but he aint willing to budge. im sure she misses him and wished things worked out, she sounds like a girl that any guy would fall in love withand ur friend passed a good thing up. doesnt mean that anythgin will happen betweent hem two though.
2007-05-16 09:04:47 · answer #8 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! It happened to the woman my son was dating. She broke up with him, then the next weeked was seeing someone new. They are now engaged to be married in September. My son was hurt that she could move on so fast.
2007-05-16 09:01:19 · answer #9 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like she isn't over him yet and that this is a bad relationship plan for her , it isn't going to work out with this other guy if she still has feelings for your buddy
2007-05-16 09:04:28 · answer #10 · answered by Kristal E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋