I have an appointment with an attorney at 11:00 this morning to discuss my options and talk about drawing up a separation agreement. I feel sick to my stomach. Why am I so scared about what other people will think? All of the parents we are friends in our community think he is wonderful. He coaches sports teams for my son. They don't know all the details. I will be the one who dumped him. I am not happy and I need to do something about it. Please look at my past questions, I don't want to have to type it all again.
2007-05-16 01:58:32 · 10 answers · asked by browneyedgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please remember that it APPEARS that these people think the world of him. When they are in their homes behind closed doors the wives are probably saying to their husbands, "why does she stay with this loser who hasn't had an income for so many years?" Or, "what a lazy a55 that man is, I'd kick him to the curb if I were his wife." Also, even if this weren't what they were saying, is it fair to live your life unhappy to please them? Of course not! I read your other posts and you have children to protect from this slug also. Keep strong. You can do this. There is nothing to fear because you know you can exist without him since you're paying for everything as it is. Divorce is always hard on people, even the ones who aren't in love anymore. It feels like a failure, an ending. It's scarey to start over by yourself, not knowing what the future brings. But, you are doing very well and taking great care of your kids by dumping this guy. They are the biggest concern after all. You will be doing them a great justice by getting out now.
Now, for your next relational endeavor...... don't go there!! Spend some time being absorbed in yourself and your kids. Spend some time alone to do some soul searching and sort out what it is that YOU want from a mate, not what you think they want. After you've determined what characteristics, core values, visions are suited for you, you'll be better prepared to find that person. And, don't settle for anything less. You'll be fine. Just move forward with this thing today. Good luck and blessing sent your way today!
2007-05-16 02:36:05 · answer #1 · answered by squealy68 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They are not the ones who have gone through all of the B>S> you have. If it bothers you that bad tell them about it. Try to pull it together. You will be much better off when this is all over. Just because "they" like him, doesn't mean they don't like you. People judge each other all over. You can't live your life worrying about it. There is no way to make everyone happy. Worry about YOU and YOUR CHILDREN. I'm proud of you for taking action to improve you and your children's lives. Go for it!
2007-05-16 02:09:46 · answer #2 · answered by Ann S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a breathe. Say a prayer. God does not want you to be in a marriage if one or both of you are hard hearted. Keep walking in love, asking for gods guidance and you will be okay. I am also filing and I hate it. I would much rather take baby steps but it seems that the papers are all or nothing. its still a process, and I am reminding myself its one day at a time....one decision at a time...
2007-05-16 02:36:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Other people are not living your life so what they think or not is not relevant. Don't put your life on hold in fear of how others will view you. If you have struggled with making this decision and finally are acting, you are ready. So off you go.
2007-05-16 02:11:11 · answer #4 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOBODY knows how he is.The important thing is that U know. DON't let other people get to U.They DON'T know ALL the facts.YOU do what U think is best for U. DON'T stay in a relationship, because UR afraid of what people might think or say.
2007-05-16 02:07:45 · answer #5 · answered by Klingon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was sick before hand too...I actually lost about 10 lbs from it. All you can do is stay strong and think positive. He will at one point end up wanting you back and he'll do anything to change your mind, stick to your guns girl...MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY! If you go back, it will be twice as bad and twice as hard...I've been there!
2007-05-16 02:20:58 · answer #6 · answered by breeanneavery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the RIGHT thing! I'm in your corner! Keep that appointment!!! Best move you ever made! Who cares what other people think? It's not THEIR life!
2007-05-16 02:03:19 · answer #7 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Don't make your decisions by what other people think. Just do what needs to be done.
2007-05-16 02:46:14 · answer #8 · answered by V 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just a trying time for you and all your emptions are exposed.
Yes, it will not be a fun day, but at the end of it, you WILL be at the end of it
2007-05-16 02:07:11 · answer #9 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
F*#k what they think move on
2007-05-16 02:07:07 · answer #10 · answered by lexlou7 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋