at the moment i'm living with my ex boyfriend of 5 years. he is an abusive , compulsive lying creep but i have no choice but to live here with him . while we were together he wouldn't let me have friends . now i know no-one except myself ( and no i have no family either ) i cant afford to live by myself and i cant live in a unit or flat because they wont allow pets ( i have a dog ) the guy i live with sickens me to the point where i feel like suffocating the loser in his sleep , lol i would never actually do it, but its a nice thought . there are no words to explain how fkd up this guy really is so i wont even try . what can i do to get away from him when i cant live on my own ?
and i dont work at the moment because im agoraphobic, but, even if i had a full time job it wouldnt be even close to enough to support myself . i am looking for a full time job anyway though .
any ideas would be greatly appreciated . thanks
xx
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11 minutes ago
just looking for ideas cos i have no idea where to start , please DONT suggest shelters i dont even think they exist in Australia, and if they do , i doubt they would allow pets, and i would never go to one of those places anyway . i just want some real ideas please . thanks for your help
1 minute ago
i love my dog, more than anything or anyone on earth, shes all i have and she is the only thing that has kept me sane through all this. and i do have more respect for animals than i will ever have for the human race. i will never leave her behind with a guy that could hurt her when hes in a bad mood
2007-05-16 02:26:21 · 18 answers · asked by Me 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dollar the scholar - its not that simple when you have no where else to live . i wish it was that easy .
2007-05-16 02:33:38 · update #1
why would i respect a guy who abused me for years , ive lost all respect for him . i do have relationships with meaning, but thats kind of hard to do when the guy you love with all your heart and would do anything for - is an abusive, compulsive lying, cold-hearted , cheating loser. . believe me if someone treated you like that you would lose respect for them after a while. youve obviously never been in that situation before to give an answer like that
2007-05-16 02:48:07 · update #2
do you have any family or friends that you could stay with?
2007-05-16 02:58:03 · answer #1 · answered by Raistlin 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tough question to answer since youve knocked out some of the better options but is very understandable about your dog. The only option I see here is to get a job for a cash flow and hopefully can make some new friends at work that may some day soon will be able to help you out, like giving you some place to stay even for a little while. There is no overnight answer here so this will take some time, but keep focused on an idea and think of how to get there from here. Theres always a way but finding it is the hard part. Check with the shelters and see if there is any way possible to help you and your dog explaining the whole situation, it cant hurt and there just may be a way or they might be able to give you some valuable advice. Youve got to start someplace. Good luck
2007-05-16 09:40:23 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're in a tough spot. Even though you love the dog it hinders where you can live. Not enough money to live on your own, you need to work on getting some more education so you can get a better job to live on your own. Maybe talk to a counselor about your agoraphobia. Do you live in a city in Australia where there are plenty of jobs? If not move somewhere far away from where your at now, if you have no friends or family what do you got to lose, nothing. Maybe you could find a job at a zoo or animal shelter, veterinarian since you like animals so much. Either way if you hate the guy that much you should do the right thing and leave before it gets ugly. Isn't there anyone you can talk to there about this that will help?
2007-05-16 10:59:13 · answer #3 · answered by Dan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand how difficult things are for you right now. Abusive situations lead to isolation of the victim and it doesn't help that you also suffer from agoraphobic as well. It's a scary venture you need to endure if your life is going to be safe again. You need help and support to help you move forward. I did some checking and Australia does have a wide variety of support services including shelters. Now before you tell me it's not an option please listen. I work with victim in the states and know that crisis workers have a lot of options people aren't aware of. Our shelter has the ability to temporary place the animal in a foster home while you get yourself together. I know it's not the same as being together but it does give you an opportunity to get out of the bad situation you're in and establish yourself so you can be reunited. If nothing else they can help with support groups and phone counseling. Here's a link to services since I don't know what part of the country you live in. Scroll down there's a number for the national hotline as well. http://www.dvirc.org.au/ServicesHub/ServicesIndex.htm
The other link is for help with your Agoraphobia.
http://www.tne.net.au/~swag/
Remember that you need to take care of you, heal and become stronger so the world outside the walls don't seem so frightening anymore.
2007-05-16 09:58:28 · answer #4 · answered by Orion 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You really have to look at treating your agoraphobia if you want to work and live on your own. I don't know the degree of your phobia but any level can hinder you from interacting with others. Then you must take one step at a time. First a job and that will decide what you can afford for an apartment or other living arrangement. Put together a plan and work the plan. Taking no steps will keep you permanently paralyzed but again that could be because of your phobia.
2007-05-16 09:38:48 · answer #5 · answered by dawnb 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is always a way out and it may be that you have to pack a bag, put a lead on yr dog and just walk and see where you end up! If you are so desperate to get away from this guy then you will rough it for a while... believe me!
Speaking as someone who did it with 2 kids AND a dog... !!
That was 5 years ago and now I am the happiest woman in the world for getting away from my Ex!
Its not gonna be easy, and you will have to fight yr fears, but please, for your sake, bite the bullet and just do it....
Good Luck xxx
2007-05-16 09:37:34 · answer #6 · answered by Sara 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1ST you need help for the angorphobia and you need to work on some self esteem issues and you need to know that you CAN do anything you set your mind to. YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE IN YOURSELF like your dog does, treat yourself like you treat him maybe if you look at that way you can gain the courage to GO you said you would never leave your dog with him so why would you leave YOU with him ????? He will not change so you must gather allll your strength and if you have to work @ 2 jobs ,get YOU and your best friend out of that situation before YOU DO NOT HAVE THAT CHOICE and the pet will be stuck with him and not you.
GOOD LUCK
you only have one life don't waste one more minute!
2007-05-16 09:40:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I sure wish that you were not in Australia. I love that your dog comes first. I know that this is not really the answer, but it might work short term. Go out (to a bar, or wherever you go) and find someone who loves animals as much as you do, and perhaps they will have as big a heart as you do. Just escape. No person will ever be as loyal as a pet. Do what you have to do,but definitely get out./
2007-05-16 09:33:27 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa G 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to focus on getting a job. Money will get you on the first step to getting away from your ex. Be out of where you live as much as possible expect to sleep if you can handle that. Coudl you move to an area where the cost of living is much cheaper? That might enable you to be able to afford to live on your own.
2007-05-16 09:30:18 · answer #9 · answered by Summer B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
While some people may not I understand your love for your dog so dont let anyone make you feel bad about that. Why dont you look for a room to rent? Thats not to expensive in most cases. You can try to find one in your area by going to
http://geo.craigslist.org/iso/au
2007-05-16 09:31:11 · answer #10 · answered by Crystal F 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The information you are given puts you in a situation where there is no out. You are doing that to yourself. If you realy wanted out you would find a way no matter what. I think you are just scared and your hiding behind your excuses. If I were you I would figure this crap out and get the hell away from this jerk!
2007-05-16 09:31:02 · answer #11 · answered by Jewells 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋